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FEEDBACKS - PART 13

October 31,  2007

"What an outstanding presentation. I am a grandmother 66 years old and I cried through the whole thing. I forwarded this presentation to three of my grown kids and they have not responded. They usually make comments about what I forward to them, so either it was so profound to them that they are having a difficult time grasping it or it's over their heads. They seem to be in a world of their own, but gosh who couldn't respond to Josh Groban? He is one of my favorite singers. Such a powerful, humble and gifted young man he is. My health has not been the greatest this last year and maybe they don't want to face the reality of what could happen to me. I do hope they were able to view it as you did a magnificent job putting it together for our enjoyment!! God Bless and may he continue to inspire our society with presentation such as this one!!! Thank you so much!! If ever you decide to sell DVDs on these presentations, I would love to hear about them. We need people like you so much!!! Olivia Garcia"

"A presentation such as this would be worth most any cost!!!

"My mom is dying and I would love to have this for the occasion, please let me know ASAP when I can get this. It was sooo beautiful. I could not have said it any better. Thank you and God Bless."

"Thank you.........................."

"My husband and I are 77 and 82, and this really hit home. Thank you. Terri"

"I received this from my father. The content, that is, the text is good and very powerful. As regards the packaging, i.e. music, images, and format, I'm afraid I found myself annoyed to death by the music (having hit mute within seconds), and searching all over for a 'next slide' button since the pacing is too long between slides. The images unfortunately are missized and thus come out pixelated. Like I say, the text is good, the project a good idea, but the packaging is lacking, sorry. You might like using Keynotes 3 to look in to polishing this up a bit. Kveðja, Kveldalf"
[Webmaster's note: To view the slideshow in its normal image mode, click on the menu "NORMAL VIEW" while the slideshow is playing.]

"Before I even started reading, I knew I would cry because of the music - such a beautiful song! I will send it on to my children anyway. Thanks so much."

October 30,  2007

"I still don't think your wording is clear even after reading paragraph 8 & 9. The enemy is so subtle and this can be taken for I can take my life if I want to or my kids can help me do it. I cannot in in good conscience send this to my kids or anyone else. Jim Hermes"

"Thank you. Dad has passed and mom is in a home with Alzheimers 6th stage."

October 29,  2007

"My name is Melanie. I am 37 years old, a mother of 2 beautiful little girls, 1 is 6 months and the other is 2 years old. My father sent it to me, and I thought that it was a very moving, very true and very helpful in how I should be looking at what he’s most likely feeling. It moved me so much that I cried. I called him right after watching it to let him and my mom know how much I loved them. Thank you, Melanie"

"This is by far one of the best emails I have ever received, thank god there are people who know how to express our feelings. My parents have been gone for some time now. No matter how long I live, I miss them every day. I believe god called them home, away from the suffering they had to endure at the end. My husband and I have six children together [2nd marriage]. I am going to send them a copy of this email, hoping that when it is time for us that they will remember this, and act accordingly. Thank you!! Gabrielle Dechert"

"Would be deeply grateful if you could address this question. How do you support, guide and advise people -- whose parents were impatient, cruel and abusive to them when they were children -- to support, hold up and care for those same parents during the twilight years without deep sorrow and loss of the self-preserving spirit? In my work as a psychotherapist, I meet good people who made it through God-forsaken childhoods to become remarkable giving adults -- sometimes ONLY by letting go of the hands that beat them down. It is most often their wish to forgive, to connect and to be a good caretaker to the parent they did not have, but sometimes it is simply too difficult. Thank you. RCL"
[Webmaster's reply: Alexander Pope said: To err is human, to forgive divine."]

"There is such a wonderful message enclosed in Parents' Wish. I wish there was an even greater way to get this to the public than just thru E-Mails. Very true and emotionally moving. A message more need to receive and take heed of. Love the video, music and message. My daughter forwarded this to me. She was so moved that she was still crying when she called me to tell me to check my e-mails and read this one from her. She doesn't forward many e-mails so I knew it must be special. Thank You so much for sharing your creativity and wonderful creation."

October 28,  2007

"I lost my Mother in June of 2006 after taking care of her for several years. She had been bedridden for about 5 years and she always apologized to me for having to feed her or clean her when she had gone to the bathroom and I always told her, you did it for me when I was little and it is certainly the least I can do for you now. This brought tears to my eyes and I have forwarded it to several people. I hope those that still have parents will take this to heart. God Bless You. Connie Stone"

"This was so true and such beautiful music and photos to set these honest words to. I sent it to my kids with tears in my eyes. THANK YOU SINCERELY, Clara Manecke"

"Thank you for this beautiful beautiful wish. Anyone producing such a message must be full of love and warmth and I applaud you."

"This is the most touching video I have ever seen about parents."

October 27,  2007

"There is no other word for me to say, but absolutely wonderful. It brought back more memories of both my parents. I am from the UK, lost both my lovely parents who taught me right from wrong. Life was hard in those days but they never complained. Now I am 69 years old, have lived here from 1960 but they were always in my heart and soul. As you can tell I was raised during World War II in the UK, not much food etc. But at my age then I saw how hard it was for them, but they never complained. I would like to dedicate this to them, MY loving Parents, Barbara (Bobi) Burts, Summerville, SC"

"I think all CNA's Nurses and anyone else who takes care of the elderly should be required to watch this presentation."

"This is a wonderful video and of course brought tears to my eyes. I’m a single parent of 3 children and am now 68 years old and can certainly relate to the things said here. I was so wishing there was one written in the same vane from a single mothers standpoint."

"Thank you for this beautiful message. My mother passed away today at 5:20 am at the age of 79. My friend sent this to me two days ago. I want to say thanks. My father passed away Dec 2005 at the age of 80. My mother was told she had lung cancer 1 month later. This message should be sent to all who has a ailing parent or to any child. Thanks again. This was so inspiring. Judy Eddy"

October 26,  2007

"I am a 52 year old stroke survivor (I was only 48 when I had my stroke). This touched me on so many levels! I have a 22 year old daughter and a daughter that just turned 16...and I am sending this to each of them. I hope they understand-for I feel many of the same things that are in this precious video. My mom is 74, my step-father is close to 80, and they both live 2,000 miles from me. I am very close to my mother. At this time of my life, I want to be there to help my mom, but I cannot be. This video spoke volumes to me and through my tears, I can only hope that I have been patient and so loving to all of my elders. I have a new understanding of what it is like to get older... for now, I have to use a cane and a wheelchair, my memory has been damaged, my speech is so impaired and I have to have help in every aspect of my life. I am so grateful to God for my Mom and all of older people I know! God has given me a love and respect for them that I would not have otherwise known. In many ways, I am thankful for my stroke! Cindy Scott"

"VERY TOUCHING!"

"Being a Mother, Grandmother and Great Grandmother... 80 years+ and so thankful for so many blessings, I liked this video very much."

"My father is dying right now. He is 78 years old. He wants us to let him go, to let him stop eating, to understand why he has lost the will to live. He means certainly the world to us, so we endeavor to make a way in our hearts to let his feelings be understood. When old age comes to us, it is often fairly unkind. Our siblings and friends die, our work is ended, both with raising our family and our in jobs, we feel we have little purpose. Our bodies stop being enjoyable to us. For all the goodness life can bring, for the aged life comes to be measured in losses. For example, letting go of what we owned, knowing loneliness, finding we are incapacitated, feeling fear, and enduring all kinds of pain. I thought this film said the truth. Adult children everywhere have to contemplate and remember to give, with all their might, support, kindness, patience, and love, to their parents as they prepare for the end of life."

October 25,  2007

"This touched my heart. JO, New York."

"I enjoyed reading people's praises. However, I am saddened for the individual's that did not feel the power of the song and video, spiritually and emotionally. One can only imagine what kind of human being that person may be since the video and song did not touch their hearts. I really feel bad for them. It sure didn't stop them from venting their nasty feeling's though but I guess you want the bad with the good. Thank God there were only a few. I myself loved the video and song by Josh. I was simply in awe when I was watching and listening to it (besides crying). You couldn't have chosen a better angel voice to pair up with your video. Bless you for doing this. I sent it to all three of my kids hoping it will touch their heart's and soul's as well. Bless you ....Sandy Ellis, here in Orting, Wa."

"IT IS EXCELLENT, to say the least!!! At 65, I can truthfully say that I haven't run across anything that can touch this! Is it possible to save this to a file for later viewing and sharing with those who visit on occasion? I would imagine that ministries could really use this in their youth vs adult teachings and classes. Your material speaks to more than the human ear but, to his/her spirit or inner being. It addresses a very serious problem that has grown drastically, over the past decades ... maybe even a century or more. This one particular problem has literally destroyed individuals, families, communities and even small towns. Nothing is as touching and important as witnessing the inner healing of a family or family member. I hope your work increases above your wildest dreams."

"Thank you SO much for this beautiful presentation. I know that my 88 year old father is struggling now with many of these thoughts and I am struggling to help him understand that I consider it a privilege not a burden to care for him as he once cared for me. This couldn't be any better said."

"I didn't really care for this. I do not want to be a burden to my children. I have raised them to know that family comes first no matter what, but I also want them to know THEIR family comes before me. I hope I never have to put my children or grandchildren in a position to have to take care of me. There is a line that should not be crossed between parent and child. The line for me is taking care of of personal matters and any bodily functions. If I have any of my mind in the end, I think having my children seeing me in the bath or using the toilet would be worse than being in a nursing home and having a stranger take care of me."

October 24,  2007

"I lost both my parent's a few years ago within 6 months of each other. That has been very devastating to me. I will pass this email to my boys and hope they are touched the same way I was. It is beautiful and well put together."

"This is the best video – it always brings me to tears and reminds of how fragile life can be. I have lost my brother-in-law to cancer and father (86 years young) within 4 months of each other – during the funeral service for my brother-in-law, this was played. It is so touching and so true – once in a while we need a reminder. I have two boys who have also seen this video – they too were in tears and again a great reminder. Thank you. Anna"

"Thank you for the wonderful show. We are going through those very things with my in-laws. Thank for the blessing."

"This has really touched my heart. I lost my mother 7 years ago, and this is a reminder of all she was to me, and all I have lost. Thank you for putting this online, I hope it helps other people truly appreciate and understand the value of a parents love. Appreciate what you have, and reciprocate with pleasure."

"It's beautiful and sad. Just think of all the elderly that are forgotten. I can't help but cry when I think of this. I'm sending it to my children and my grandchildren. It hit home with me when I think of all the stories that my Dad has told me over and over. Next time I will be sure to listen to him as though it is the first time he has ever told it to me. Thanks for the wake up call !!!!"

October 23,  2007

"This is absolutely wonderful; the song, the video and especially the voice!!!"

"Very well said. Enjoyed it"

"I work in assisted living with a memory support unit. This would be so great for our staff and family members."

"I cried while reading this. I'm widowed with 2 grown children and I've passed this along to them. It's also a great reminder for me since my dad is still alive. Thank you!!!"

"What special timing. My Mom would be 88 today had she not passed away the day after Thanksgiving last year. Her demise was a long and painful one which kept her under Hospice's Palliative care for 3 years and 10 months. My younger sister and I along with our spouses, took care of her at our homes right up to the end. Bless her heart she did do things that made us want to pull our hair out, but we were strong and asked for Gods strength daily and he gave it to us. I think every baby boomer in the nation should be required to view this video. It was wonderful and so right on. As I look at it and think of the care my Mom and Dad got from us during their end of life experience, it is like my sister and I produced this video. I believe one of the driving forces for me in taking care of them was the fact (as you stress in Your video) that I was continually thinking of how wonderful our childhoods were and how my parents forfeited so much in life for us kids. We didn't have the newest car, or the biggest TV or designer clothes, but more than that we had what money could never give us and that was total LOVE and devotion from both our Mom and Dad. God is so good to let me have those precious memories. Thank you for this video, I know it will touch many in this world. J. Wayne Dixon, Florida"

"Nice thought, horrible music, very depressing email."

"Wow what a moving video. I have watched it twice and cried like a baby both times. It really hits home after you start to age yourself. I am 49 and have lost both grandparents, my own father is 70 and it is the time of life you really start to think about all these things. My daughter is 27, I sent it to her but I know she hasn't watched it yet. I am sure she will let me know when she sees it. Thank you for changing the format as I only have dial up out here in Wyoming and was surprised at how quickly it was ready to view. I appreciate your work at doing this. I will be passing it on. Sincerely, Katrina Myers"

October 22,  2007

"OMG, this touched me at a very interesting time. I am a single parent; my parents help me so much with my four children, and have always supported me in all that I have tried to achieve. I pray that I will always be as patient with them as they have been with me. This was, and always will be very important to me. Jw"

"I have never before cried over an email that was forwarded to me, but this video touched my heart in so many ways. Thank you for the words of wisdom and encouragement. I am taking care of my mother-in-law who deserves all of the respect and love that anyone can give. Your video will stay within my heart during this time and I believe will help me to be more patient. Thank you!"

"This email was so beautiful! I wish I had seen it 30 years ago when my parents were still alive. I could only look out for myself and didn't think about them much at all. I did love them, especially my Dad. When he died, I was in shock for a long time. He was only 71. I was 28 and thought 71 was VERY old. Now I am near 65 and I have 4 children that treat me as I treated my parents = like I will be here forever. I am sending them the 'Parent's Wish' email in the hope that they will wake up and appreciate me and take care of me before it's too late. This made me cry."

"Thank you so much for this video. Tears roll down everytime I watch. I have sent this to almost 100 friends and relatives of mine. It is an amazing video. It touches your heart as a child and also as a parent. The message you want to give to your children is given by the video in a better way which touches anybody's heart. I clipped the lyrics of the background music, 'You Raise Me Up', with the link to watch the video and sent it to many. I got lot of responses who felt the same as I felt. Thanks a lot. Sree Raja"

"Wow. Very powerful and so appropriate at this time with so many investigations into abuse at elder care centres. On a more personal note, my mother was institutionalized last year with Alzheimer's disease and I needed a wake-up call to visit her more often even if she doesn't know who I am I still know who she is. My father still needs our support emotionally and I am sure he will physically in the years to come. Thank you Judi, Sidney, BC"

October 21,  2007

"I really enjoyed and appreciated your Parents Wish BUT at 86 I really do not quite feel that way. I have been graced by God with a strong body, happy active mind and fun and family. I realize I am old but keep active, up to date on all news and current events. I dress conservatively but stylish, keep my hair stylish and enjoy children (all grown), grand children and great grandchildren. Sure there are some lonely moments since I am a widow but I thank the Lord everyday for life. Thanks, M.E. Hoffhaus, Darien, GA"

"This hits so close to home. My mother is in a nursing home after 2 serious strokes that should have killed her, left her physically challenged. But she's still with us thankfully. And she does talk about just being able to go to her heavenly home.... she's ready to rest. Thank you... I've sent it on to my siblings. Dianne Winters Strasburg, PA"

"When I finally stopped sobbing and wiped the tears from my eyes, I looked over at my husband who is known to be quite void of this type of emotion, I saw him reaching, as well, for a tissue to wipe his running tears! What a powerful video!!! I guess we, as the younger generation, never really think that the time will come when our parents will be in need, both physically and/or mentally. It is THAT time that they hesitatingly ask us to be there for them. Having lost my mother last year, I realize a sense of guilt that I did not have the patience, thoughtfulness, and often the time to make for her. What a tragedy! Now that my mother- in-law is failing in health, I have learned to be all the things I had not been for my own mother. Your video has been a reminder that we do become the parent of our aging mothers and fathers. Thank you so very much for the wonderful music and excellent video."

"I am 84, have six grandchildren, four great grandchildren, and in all my years this is the most nauseating garbage I have ever encountered. How could you put out such sickening nonsense?"

October 20,  2007

"I really don't know where to start? I lost my Dad when I was 18 to cancer. Got married only to find out I wasn't happy. Got divorced. Started dating my best friend from work and happy to say we are married for almost 10 years with 2 children, a 9 year old girl (going on 20) and a 7 year old boy. This song just brings back so many memories of my Dad. I haven't played it in a while but came across is when I was cleaning out my computer. My son happened to come into the room and he sat on my lap while I played 'Parent's Wish'. I cried my eyes out while I read every word to him and assured him that me and his Dad would be here for a long time. I later did the same thing with my daughter just to reassure her. Josh Groban is a wonderful person, singer and artist. I would love to hear more of him on the radio! Thank you, Josh!"

"My eyes are blurred from tears and my heart is filled with love. I can't remember the last time I was so touched by something so beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Shelly"

"This was just beautiful and very, very true. At the moment I am caring for my 92 years old mother and believe me it can be very trying and tiring as I am completely on my own with her but I wouldn't have it any other way. I can see her nervousness when trying to keep walking, afraid of yet another tumble, not wanting to eat etc. This really hit home. Many many thanks. It's heart rending when they say sorry when something is spilled etc. Imelda, N. Ireland."

"Truly amazing. What a tear jerker you have here, and that is coming from the typical 'manly man'. I'm a 53 year old male whose mother passed when I was 28. My father passed six years later. Being the so called 'tough guy' that I am supposed to be I was amazed that I was reduced to tears in a matter of moments. It really makes you think of all the personal sacrifices your parents make for you along this journey we call life. As I was watching it a second time and again wiping my eyes, my 16 year old son came by and asked what was the matter. I had him stay with me a minute and watch the presentation with me. As it was playing he asked, 'is this going to have some kind of stupid ending?' I simply replied for him to watch it to the end. Sitting there quietly, out of the corner of my eye I was able to see him wiping at his own eyes. I was truly amazed by that. Life hasn't always been easy for him. When he was a small child I became very ill. In a period of just under four years I was in the hospital seven times, had three operations and was told twice that I was lucky to be going home. To this day I still require oxygen 24/7. Because of that he and I have missed out on lots of things that other father and sons take for granted as the child grows up. I know this has made an impression on him as well as on myself and in no way can I ever fully thank you for that. Just know that I am eternally grateful to you for opening both our eyes. I know when my wife is able to see the presentation she will be bawling too. May God fill your life with happiness and peace. Thank you again, J. Moore"

"Beautiful, and Thanks."

"Thank you for this incredible powerpoint presentation!!!! I've worked in nursing most of my life; most of it in geriatrics.. this tribute is so insightful and empathetic that it deserves honors. I feel blessed to have viewed it and am sharing it with all of my friends, family and peers!!!"

October 19,  2007

"This is one of the very best slideshows I have seen, thank you so much for going to all this trouble for others to see."

"Wow...my sister and I have a Dad who is a World War II Veteran and incredible man suffering from Alzheimers. Our mother is forgetful and every slide holds so much truth for us. And finally who better than Josh Groban in the background. Thank you so very much for sharing this!"

"WOW! This is very powerful and moving. It is like a magnet drawing me to it. I have watched it repeatedly and it still brings tears to my eyes....Thank you."

"Awesome...thank you so much for doing this."

October 18,  2007

"I just received the slideshow and think it is quite lovely."

"I cry every time I see this video and hear the song! I see it from the perspective of an orphan as well as a parent of two grown children. Yesterday was the 27th anniversary of my dad’s funeral. I was only 26 when he died, so I guess I’ve spent more years without him already than I did with him! Mom died exactly 10 years later. How I wish I’d gotten to know them more! I don’t think I want my kids to feel an obligation to me. Rather, I pray that they’ll behave as this video suggests just because; not because they feel compelled to do so because I did it for them when they were babies. Thank you so much for an insightful and moving video."

"Thank you from a loving Dad."

"I have a terminal disease and often ask other's to just let me go. My ex-husband sent this to me and my son- who quote 'can't handle seeing his Mom like this.' I am only 49 and have not had an easy life. I had both my parents die slow, torturous deaths and they both asked to let them stop their medications and go in peace -my Mom was 50 and my dad was 60 and I respected their wishes, even though I was angry that they chose to die. Now I understand-thoroughly why they chose their way. I hope my son understands more from this lovely, beautiful slideshow. I still am crying and thank my ex-husband, Al for sending this to me and OUR son. Al used to have a hard time understanding all my physical problems, this may have helped him as well. Thank you for the Parent's wish!-Beryl S."

October 17,  2007

"My daughter sent this to me. She has chosen the nursing profession because her grandfather suffered with the terrible disease of Alzheimer's. He has now gone to a better place with the angels. She saw the daily struggles that he went through as well as our family. He would have been very proud of her. She had this shown to her in one of her college classes just the other day. She felt so much emotion, as I did when I viewed it. It is just so beautiful and touching, it makes us reflect on all that is life. The song from Josh Groban is so fitting, we also played it at my father memorial. Thank you for the beautiful slideshow, a Parents'  Wish...."

October 16,  2007

"Thank you for a poem and song so well done. I had a son not 50 in a care center and though he was not elderly his sickness made him like one with Alzheimers and I think now I should have cared for him as an elderly person. My husband many times said 'let me die' and I didn't understand. Now that I have reached those years that anything could happen I understand what he was saying. Thank you. I have played it many times today when I received it and will play it many days to come."

"This is sooo beautiful. I do have a mother 94 that needs help, and I will look at her, and how I help her in a whole new way... Thank You. I still have tears in my eyes."

"This was sent to me and even though I don't have any children, and my parents have already gone on, I truly loved it. It did bring a tear to my eye and I know that I will surely be in that shape one day. I am sending it to everyone in my address book. P. Walsh"

"This indeed is very beautiful. However, I would not send it to my children. I feel that if they want to help me as I grow old or encourage me or listen to me, they will do so without my prodding. I don't want to make them feel they need to do these things; they may have other responsibilities (to their children and possibly grandchildren) as I did when my parents were frail and failing. My parents did not need to ask me or my siblings, however, for help We just did it, perhaps out of love and concern? On the other hand, I do feel this video is a very good teaching tool that could be used in many teaching situations or elder parent education sessions or support groups for those taking care of elderly parents. Thank you for caring. Mollie"

"I really enjoyed the video The Parent's Wish."

"I want to Thank You for your video, I have an 85 year old mom who is about 85% blind and have my husbands 83 year old aunt living with us. I also am Ombudsman for Yates County here in NY state, advocate for seniors in nursing homes. I was touched to tears by your video and will save it to share with others. Thank You again I know millions will be taken by it."

"My God this is so moving, it says it all. Thank you for such moving thoughts."

October 15,  2007

"This is so beautiful and it touched my heart so very much. We are so busy living our lives that we seldom take the time to really listen and see... what is most important to our older loved ones. . .this does both. Thank you, Loretta"

"I cried."

"I just received your powerpoint slideshow on Parent's Wish. I was going to forward it on to my children. It is beautifully done and it touched my heart immensely. Sheila"

October 14,  2007

"As I watched Parents Wish I began to cry with a heavy heart. I lost my wonderful husband to cancer and face the rest of my life alone. I will send this to our children with a prayer. It is so beautiful. Thank You."

"This was just beautiful and so true. I would love to have this on DVD or any type of media to be able to share with my Young Adult class at church. Please notify me if it comes available. Thank you for reminding us all what the cycle of life is all about."

"I find this slideshow so very, very touching. I play it almost everyday. It brings tears to my eyes every time I watch it. My grandson says to me, 'Why do you watch this granny if it makes you cry?' This is from a three year old; I tell him that it not only makes me sad but it also makes me feel warm inside because the background music is so very touching. The addition of the music was a wonderful idea. My whole family has a tendency to cry when beautiful music is heard. It is truly an inspiring piece of 'art'. I can relate to this because I am going through a bit of a rough time with my only child. She says and does things that hurt me emotionally and yet she can turn around and hug me and say that she loves me. I sent this to her via e mail but she never responded. Hopefully she will understand one day. Once hurtful words are said they are embedded in the mind. One can forgive but it is difficult to forget. Forgiving is most important. I chose to forgive her. I am a mother and I love her with all my heart. When she speaks words that hurt me I turn a deaf ear. It is hard but I am able to do it. Love is wonderful and everyone deserves love . This is a fragment of the whole story but I am sure the gist of it is clear. All the people that this piece of exquisite art has touched, my heart goes out to you and yours. God Bless all of you."

"Absolutely Wonderful!!"

"Thank you very much for making this video. It says my sentiments or thoughts clearer than I could have said them myself. Your time and love is appreciated. Carol-lynn"

"Please let me know when the CD of this beautiful, powerful message is available. And thank you for all your efforts to keep this circulating on the web. It made me cry, but more importantly - - stop and think."

"This is the most heart warming and wonderful thing I have seen on the net."

October 13,  2007

"For well over thirty years I have worked with and cared deeply for our seniors. Often, in so many ways, my folks have expressed these same sentiments. This is done so well. I have sent it to my own children and family of friends. Thank you. Bobbie"

"Thank you for sharing this, it is beautiful and so true. I sang the song at a tribute to my mum at our Hospice Tea this year - wish I would have had the poem too. Simply amazing. Thank you so much! Nancy"

October 12,  2007

"This is just beautiful."

"What a wonderful and powerful presentation. I tried not to become emotional but was not successful. With such busy and hectic schedules we find ourselves having on a day to day basis, it's a good thing to be reminded of what is most important in life - family. Thank you."

"EXCELLENT--showed this to my daughters and they cried. Again, thanks and it sure hits home."

"Beautiful tribute."

"I think that was the most inspiring e-mail I have read and there was so much truth attached to it. The younger adults have such a hectic and busy life that they forget that the older adults can't keep up with them and they need to take the time to try and understand or as my mother use to say take time to smell the roses. I wish there was a way to get this e-mail out to everyone. I took care of my mother up until she died and I know now there were things I could have done better but didn't realize it until it was too late, my mother has been dead for 18 years and I miss her as much now as I did when she died, she was my best friend, I hope I can be as good and remembered and loved as she was."

"Someone sent me this message and I am so glad. It reminded me when things get unbearable when caring for my aged mother to stop and smell the roses and remember the message. I will keep this on my favorites list as a reminder. Thank you so much for jogging my memory and reminding me to be a kinder soul."

"Thank you for that very touching message. It reminded me of one of my own called WHEN I AM OLD, PLEASE REMEMBER.. that was included in my booklet of poems, entitled AS LONG AS I LIVE. I will attach it for your information. I wrote this some years ago before I was an old as I am now, and it is becoming even more true every day. God bless you!"
[Webmaster's note: As a policy, we don't include hyperlinks to external web pages in the feedbacks but your poem parallels the message of Parents' Wish so I have included the link to it. Very beautifully written]

"I needed a good cry. My mom went home to be with the Lord a little over a year ago. After my brother died, we brought her up to Maryland to a nursing home. Even though I couldn't take care of her myself, I was with her nearly every day for seven months. I saw her more then that I got to see her in seven years. I was thankful to be able to do something for her for awhile. I have wonderful memories about my mom and dad. I couldn't have asked for more wonderful parents. My dad went to find work whenever we grew up if there wasn't any around us. He was not lazy and didn't look for welfare. My mom was a hard worker, too. She always took care of us and we had food on the table and a roof over our head, and clothes on our back. I wish everyone could be as blessed. D. Moody"

October 11,  2007

"Thank you so much...this is very touching as I have dealt with this situation just over a year ago with my g/f great grandfather as we took care of him."

"Thank you for your generosity and willingness to share. Martha"

"Thanks so much for giving me renewed strength to deal with an aging parent. May God's blessings be many to all who had a part in putting this presentation together...it's a masterpiece. Sincerely, Donna R.-Gulfport, MS"

"Thank you for this beautiful slideshow. As always, there are people out there, that have to pick apart, something very beautiful. Personally, I believe that your presentation, could not be improved, it's great as is. If this gets us (children) to think about someone besides ourselves, then it has served a greater purpose. Thank you again and God bless you."

October 10,  2007

"I thank you so much for making this video. Everytime I listen to it, it puts tears in my eyes. I found out a month ago my dad has dementia and my mom forgets very easy. It is very hard on the children but your song and the saying to this video is very true. I work at a nursing home so I know how it goes in stages. Love Joan"

"My grandma is now in a nursing home after having alzheimers for seven years, my mother took care of her until this January. Grandma is 95 and my mom is 73. I love and respect them both so much. I thank God that I have had the opportunity to spend every minute I can with them. Thanks for reminding me how precious they really are."

"Incredible!! My mother who has fought arthritis all her life sent this to me, and I , who have had severe medical issues now for several years have now forwarded it to my daughter. Very eloquently placed words and music. Hard to read and think about one's parents without tears and realizing the truth associated with it. Thank you for your efforts in getting it out. Lane"

"Anyone going through this role reversal will understand the meaning. Daughter in FL"

"Your presentation -- the 'letter' from Mom and Dad to their children with Josh Groban -- is stunningly beautiful. Russell King"

October 9,  2007

"I lost my mother in 1986 but, it seems like only yesterday. She was the most loving giving Mother any one could want. I can sum all I have read in one sentence. PLEASE DON'T TAKE YOUR MOTHER'S LOVE FOR GRANTED. I did. As I did my loving Husband who went to be with the lord in 1991. I had to play this song over it was so beautiful. If you still have your Mother, please take time to let her know how much you appreciate her and all she has and will continue to do for you. I have taught my Children I'm not only their Mother, I am also their best friend!! Patty"

"I cared for my mother for eight years and became impatient with her when she did shower, eat properly or take her medication. It wasn't because she wanted to die sometimes she just forgot. Now she is in a nursing home and it was very difficult to take her there even though she signed herself in.  She is being cared for very well but it is difficult to visit and than leave her there. I also worked with Seniors in their own home and had a client who wanted to die. All her caregivers tried to talk her out of dying by refusing to eat but she had lost so many people in her life including her husband. I will never forget her and glad I spent time with her in her last days. By listening to her I can understand why some seniors want to die. They wake up and go to sleep in pain everyday, both physical and emotional. Other seniors want to spend more time with their friends and family but most of these that I have met are much younger. Listen to your parents and grandparents, they have a lot to offer. They have so much history to share. I enjoyed listening to my grandfather. Gloria"

"I'm a 63 year old Mother of 6, Grandmother of 23 and great grandmother of 13. I also have Parkinsons so this hit close to home for me. Thanks for going to all that trouble to make Parents' Wish. It made me cry."

"How pathetic! Can you remind a child one more time how much they owe a parent? One would hope that a child would take care of a parent because they want to. The crap like that thrown at children is so wrong. Makes you wonder why some people have kids? Obviously, to secure that there is someone there for them later in life. I hope I never do that to my children. So sad and so wrong and the Josh music, very dramatic!! One of the worst things I have seen yet!"

"How beautiful and touching. I kept watching it over and over. I took care of my Mom for 38 years. Now I am in the twilight of my years, and as I watched this I couldn't stop the tears."

"My interpretation of You Raise Me Up was oriented to a 'Creator', for some God, and for others perhaps a different form. I guess the emphasis on the word 'Raise'. You've given yet another view of this wonderful, ever so lovely, words of thought and hope, that it has become so much more special. I've shared this with many dear friends and hope they enjoy it as much as I have and will continue to do so. Thank goodness for the 'Save' command on these many times frustrating computers. Sincerely, a Mom and now a much older Mom"

October 8,  2007

"My dad sent me this song. I am six months pregnant. I turned the volume up loud because I really liked the song. When it got to the middle and got really loud, my baby boy in my stomach started to kick really hard and I put my hand on his belly and he kicked it like he liked the song. It was an amazing feeling that gave me goose bumps!!!!"

"This was one of the most moving videos I've seen. I read it with tears rolling down my cheeks and thinking of my grandparents who gave such unconditional love. Also of my mom who is so giving of herself. There is so much we truly take for granted, and I pray that this will open the eyes, and hearts, of those who are not on good terms with their aging parents. Or perhaps have just drifted from them. Time is so short. Re-build those bridges, and have no regrets. Thanks for this wonderful remembrance."

"If only it could be edited for the single surviving parent!"

"I just wanted to say, this is wonderful. I just lost my Mom in May and my Dad in July, and I wish so that I had had a chance to experience this before then. It might have helped me understand things better. Thanks for making and sharing this with the world. Its awesome!!"

October 7,  2007

"It is always good to be reminded of the lessons of love."

"Awesome. Absolutely beautiful. Also, Josh Groban is one of our very favorite singers. Nick and Frances"

"I have just reread Parents' Wish for about the 4th time and I still have tears roll down my face. My name is Amber. I am a 15 year old of North Carolina. About once a month my youth group and myself go to the nursing home near where we live and it is sad to see some of the visitors that come in there because they are ashamed of their family that is in there. To them I would like to tell them that it is not their fault that they are in there and to read this and to think back to when they were growing up and try to understand that their minds don't work like ours anymore and they have lost a lot of brain cells. Thanks for your time."

"Is there any song available that tells a grown adult child both son and daughter about the love of their mother and how sorry she is that their father showed no interest in their lives? I loved the song it made me cry and was so true."

"This is so beautiful. Every line so detailed and so true. I almost couldn't read for the tears stinging my eyes. I have a mother in an assisted living facility home and I love her so much and understand the need for patience and understanding and love she needs. GOD BLESS ALL PARENTS!"

October 6,  2007

"Absolutely wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

"This is two years too late. I wish I had seen this before my mother passed away. I would have done things so much different. I cried through the whole viewing and played it over and over. I don't want people to make the same mistakes I made, and I am going to send this to as many as I can. Blessings on the person who took the time to put this together."

"A friend sent you website to me as she is aging. But she also knows that I have aging parents. This was a wonderful tribute to our aging population all over the world. Thank you for a wonderful presentation."

October 5,  2007

"Thank you for the most beautifully done PowerPoint dedicated to parents, and the music is just lovely too."

"My dear mother died 3 years ago and many of these comments brought back things I went through with her and I know now even though I was patient with her I should have been even more patient. thank you so much for this beautiful ,inspiring message."

"I was so moved by this video. I cried for a long time. You see, my Mother passed away a couple of years ago and it had been myself who took care of her for her last seven years. It was not an easy time for me, or so I thought until I saw this. How selfish I must have seemed to her. How selfish I myself now feel. I loved my Mother dearly, and took good care of her, BUT never understood why she did not have the will to live. That ignorance made me impatient with her at times. How I regret that now. I was never unkind to my Mom, but had I seen this during the time I was with her, I absolutely know for sure I would have understood her feelings better and would have tried to be more understanding. I wanted my Mother to live forever; I could not understand why she did not want to live anymore. This video/movie should never stop circulating. It should be published and the author should be extremely proud to have written something so beautiful and so true. I thank him or her from the bottom of my heart for making me realize I was not alone in my ignorance. I only wish I had read it sooner. Thank you unknown author; you truly must be a wonderful person. Thank you for sharing this with the all of us."

"A colleague sent me this beautiful slideshow and it touched me so very much. I only have my mother left, she is 81 but still full of energy and very active, but at times she feels lonely. I live such a busy life and I do my best to see/call her, we live only 2 blocks away, but what breaks my heart is when I sometimes tell her I cannot come over when she wants, and her reply is: 'Oh ok dear, that's ok, it's just that I love having you near me'. The way she says it breaks my heart. I am the baby of the family as she had me later in her life, but I am the only child here in Montreal with her, as my older sister is in Europe, so we are quite close. Yes, I sometimes can't help thinking of the day when she will pass on, which I hope won't be for a long time yet. As much as I do not like thinking of this, it does cross my mind and it's reality. This slideshow made me think of everything and it brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful way to express a sad reality. Thank you for sharing this with the world! Christina (Montreal, Canada)"

"I am a nurse in Long Term Care and found this to be quite moving! Thank You!"

"Thank you for this amazing tribute to not just parents but to those who have given so very much to us."

"My mom passed away just 20 days ago (September 15, 2007). My sisters and brothers and I are trying our very best to go on living without our parents now. Mom was our backbone of our family. That link is now broken. Last night, at my home church I gave a testimony of the blessings we received at my mom's death bed the 3 or 4 weeks of her life. My mom gave everyone of her children, grandchildren her blessings each one by name. It was the most amazing thing I've ever seen. The day she died will remain with me to the day God calls me home. Our mom took us through a 'Spiritual Journey' for 2 and half weeks of her life. She saw 'Heaven'. She saw her mansion and she saw my Dad preparing some special things in her mansion. This is a true story even her pastor was there to witness along with all of her children, grandchildren and family. I want to thank you so much for this email. It made me 'CRY'...Tears are a way to show great love for their mom or dad....I love my mom...I'll miss her deeply, but...'I KNOW SHE IS IN HEAVEN' rejoicing with her Savior and Maker....Praise God. Love and Prayers, Emma Ramirez"

"Wow! For anyone who has ever had to watch their parent die a slow and painful death and wish that death would find them and take them to their Saviour, they can certainly understand the depth and meaning of this video. My mother was one such person and she has taught me just as much in her death as she did in her life. I sat and cried as I watched the video, each page reminding me my momma. What a lovely reminder it was. Her strength was what carried my family through the last days of her life on this earth. Thank you for sharing this video, it should be on TV. As for my mother, I miss you everyday and thank you for raising me to be the parent I am today, I can only hope that I set the example for my sons, that you set for us 5 kids. I love you. Bobbie Ruble"

"Thank you so much. This is the most moving email that I have ever received. I cry every time I listen to it."

October 4,  2007

"The Parents' Wish is most beautiful. Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

"Parent's Wish is so beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes and a rush of memories of my parents. It was so powerfully moving to watch.. I sent it to my children, as I am getting older and the unknown is scary. Mary"

"It is wonderful and we all need to see it again and again."

"I am a NYS Ombudsman. I believe I can but this presentation to good use in the nursing homes I work in."

"I really enjoyed this presentation, so much truth in it, and beautifully done. I have three children (all grown), and I forwarded them this presentation and my own comments. Thanks very much.  James S. Parks"

October 3,  2007

"Thanks for the wonderful site, lost my parents within 3 months of each other in 2004... this song was out when they both passed. Others don't realize what or who you got until you don't have them anymore. Great site! Thanks Shirley"

"This was very inspiring."

"I attended a memorial service of one of my patients (I work for Covenant Hospice in north Florida) and it was very touching to have a daughter read the poem during the memorial."

October 2,  2007

"A very dear old friend from high school send this to me. I sat and read it with the tears rolling down my face. I quickly sat down and wrote to him and thanked him for sending this to me. The first time I heard Josh Groban was in 2002. I had just lost my second husband and his song To Where You Are was played over and over for days on end. He has the most beautiful voice and I never tire of listening to him. This is the most appropriate message to send to your children as it explains all the things that are going through your head as that time draws closer. You hope for their understanding and patience. I will certainly take the time to send in a donation. Please keep it going. So many of our children are so tied to fast lane along with the way they keep their children busy. Maybe, just maybe they will stop and think about what is down the lane for them and their children. Thank you again. Lil."

"I would like you to know that this moved me like no other email before of it's kind. I miss my mom and dad so much and I loved what you did with this. I hope it touches other the same way it has touched me. Eleanor Harris."

"I saw your Parents' Wish for the first time today. Sad, but beautiful, and oh so true. My mom has been in an assisted living place since last March, I visit her often, 6 days out of the week. At 95, she is doing very well. When I leave I always say 'I will be back soon' her response, 'soon isn't soon enough'. I always tell her I love her and she tells me she loved me since before I was born. I'm told my mom gets more visitors than anyone else there. Our family keeps a journal in her room, we each write the day and date, and what we did with her. She loves it and reads it all the time. This helps her remember the visits and what we did. I feel sad for those that don't get any visitors. Janet"

October 1,  2007

"I work as a nurse in Hospice. This is the message many of my patients echo and would like their families to hear, BEFORE they die. It was beautiful done and made me cry. Thank you."

"We loved this presentation. The only problem was the music was echoing."

"Loved the pictures and music. The only thing I would reconsider changing is the statement about eating ('we know well when we need to and when not to eat.') As a speech therapist, I know that many patients with dementia have the satiation center in their brains affected, which may not trigger hunger. Many patients need to be reminded or encouraged to eat and even when they give a verbal 'no', I have seen patients reach out and hold food and eat it to completion. I do not believe in forcing anyone to eat, but I do believe that some people come to a point where their bodies don't know hungry or full. -Joanna"

September 30,  2007

"I just viewed this site and was quite moved by it. It is beautifully done."

"If only it could be edited for the single surviving parent!"

"I've worked in a medical office for nearly 40 years with mostly elderly patients. I have seen so many whose children should have watched this, who found it hard to be patient, and kind. Maybe this wonderful presentation will help more people remember to be patient when their parents have become old. Re: the comment about dying. I think it is just getting tired, and you've lost so many contemporaries too. If you walk uphill long enough, no matter how delightful the sights may be along the way, after awhile you just get tired. You may greatly love your family, they may be wonderful to you (and you hate to have to put a burden on them no matter how willingly they carry it), but still you just want to go to rest. If you suffer pain, too, that just makes it all the worse. I have heard this many times from elderly patients. I can understand it for myself also as I am getting on now, too."

"Touching, beautiful, full of meaning.....POWERFUL ! ! ! Only a rock could not be moved by this. Thank God and all of our parents!"

September 29,  2007

"This was a very moving video with the beautiful background music! It is particularly poignant to those of us who no longer have our parents around to love! Liz Hutchings"

September 28,  2007

"My mother has seen this on my computer and loves it and would like a printed copy."

"My eyes well up with tears every time I watch this video. How beautiful and touching it is. Thanks for making it available to us. My dad suffered for 4 months and passed away 18 months ago. All he could think of was if Mom was going to be taken care of. In fact that was the last thing I told him when he drew his last breath with Mom and I each holding his hand. I thought that it was the most horrible thing I could ever go through. But these last 18 months since Dad died have been heartbreaking. Mom said that it was unfair because she and Dad wanted to go at the same time. She doesn't want to go on living and sometimes that negative attitude drags me down. But this video shows me that I need to identify with what she is going through. Even though a little part of me died when Dad passed Mom lost her best friend and the love of her life for 62 years. I need to make her feel that there is so much to live for even with Dad gone. He would want it that way. I cannot even begin to feel the loneliness and emptiness she experiences every hour of the day. I need to place myself emotionally back into being the daughter and respect and love Mom as my mom even though she has changed so much. This video gives me more insight into how I should be handling this whole situation. Thanks for the guidelines. Thanks for letting me share."

"I loved the Parent's Wish and am looking forward to getting the CD."

"This is so beautiful and so real. Thank you."

September 27,  2007

"I just lost my mother one month ago and it was so very touching and true to form. She was 80 in the hospital and on a ventilator. Thank you for the touching moment, Donna"

"I was very moved by the voice of Josh Groban along with the video pictures and captions. It brought back many memories of our parents. I sent the attachment to my children. It is something I want to save. Thank you for making it available."

"This was so very beautiful and so meaningful. Every child should see this to understand 'old age'. As I sat here watching and listening, I was sobbing and my 8 pounds Yorkie was licking my tears away. I wish my mom was here so I could understand her aging and wish I could have been more patient with her. Absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much."

"What a program!! Our parents taught us, mostly by example, how to be kind, gentle, considerate, helpful, etc. My heart aches for today's generation. We need to get this into the schools, churches, homes, wherever people can be reached. It needs to be on international TV -- in every language, develop it to include grandparents, and all types of caregivers. My only grandchild (who I have helped to raise) now sees me as an embarrassing, slow, old woman. People are so quick to excuse the rude, mean, uncaring behavior because 'they're just kids -- they'll outgrow it' -- but some of us will not be here when they outgrow it -- how many people have wished they'd said "I love you' just one more time before a loved one died. Thank you for a beautiful presentation -- I will view it every day -- and share it with every single person I know. from A loving, tired, old grandmother."

September 26,  2007

"My daughter sent this to me. My 80 year old father was diagonsed 4 weeks ago with methosemelia. He is quickly dying before my eyes. I have not been able to cry but needed to badly. When I played this movie, I just bawled and it released a lot of pent up emotions. Thanks to whoever put this together for the ones of us in pain. God Bless You!"

"So very touching. Lost my dad to cancer 4 years ago. My siblings and I cared for dad at home, as he wanted. I'm so very thankful to have received such a blessed gift. The love my parents had for each other and their devotion to all 6 of us and our kids and grandkids is what moves us to continue to care for our mother. She is now 87 and suffers with Alzheimer. She has required 24 hour care for the last 3 years. We intend to keep her at home for as long as possible. At times she doesn't even know she's in her own home - the home she and dad shared since 1948. She sometimes does not know how to put herself to bed or dress or feed herself. It is heartbreaking to see this strong and fiercely independent woman loose all the experiences in her life that make her who she is. Her suffering brings forth such compassion from within my soul that I cannot fully express its depth. I cannot even begin to imagine life without my mother but I know I do not want to see her suffer anymore than she already has. I pray that in God's infinite wisdom and mercy that if it is not his will to take her home soon to be with my dad, I ask that he ease her suffering. Mom and dad's love and devotion to us has been such a wonderful example to us now that it is our turn to take care of them. A grateful daughter."

"What more can I say that hasn't already been said. How BEAUTIFUL, thank you."

"I sent this to my daughter. During school she opened it to read. The following was her response: 'Gees mom...way to make me cry while I am at school. This was a very good email. I forwarded it to everyone. Love you!'" August."

September 25,  2007

"My husband and I work with mostly older Veterans, their widows and families and do power point presentations for them. This will be a wonderful addition that will touch the families who are dealing with the aging of their parents. Please notify me when the CD becomes available. Thank you so much for sharing."

"This is exactly how I have felt from a young age. It's an honor to have the opportunity to care for my aging parents. Notice I did not say easy, but after all they did bringing me and my 6 other siblings up during very difficult times it certainly is the least I can do. My parents cared for me and I in turn look forward to caring for them in their final stage of this life. We will all go through what my parents are going through now. None of us get out of here alive. Tenderness, patience and compassion are the order of each and every day. Count your blessings and your parents are a huge blessing. Judy"

"Oh what a wonderful video! I was moved to tears listening to the beautiful song sung by Josh Groban. My grandparents and parents are all deceased, but are never forgotten. With this video, it brought back wonderful cherished memories that I'm so glad that I have of all of them. I miss them, but I know someday we'll all see each other again. And I'm so thankful for the legacy they bestowed upon me to pass on my children & grandchildren!"

September 24,  2007

"Beautiful..."

"I have never read anything so touching in my life. The tears just rolled down my cheeks. While I am not at the stage of life that is presented here, what is portrayed just touched my heart. Some day I may be old and need the love and respect of my children when I become less capable of dealing with life's issues. Although my husband is no longer with us, I felt it appropriate to sign it 'Mom AND Dad' because most of it applied to him. This is truly a beautiful and important message to our children."

"Thank you. I have just placed my 89 year old Father into a nursing home and this spoke to me on many many levels."

"I think it is FABULOUS! Parents' Wish really hit home with me. My mother is 77 years old, uses a walker, on oxygen 24/7, and has shrunk up into this little old lady that I hardly recognize. My husband is 84 while I am 59. Up until two years ago we went square dancing 2 to 3 times a week. So I can relate to Parents' Wish.

"This is a beautiful presentation. I had seen it before but it still brought tears to my eyes as I related it to my deceased parents. I wanted to send it to my children as a single mom but when I went to that version, I found that the only difference was the singular pronouns, etc. The primary parent/teacher in all for the pictures was still male so I chose not to send it on to them. I know it would be a lot of work but a version with a MOTHER as the primary would be a wonderful thing to see. Thank you"
[Webmaster's note: Yes you are right, its a lot of work. Unfortunately, my volunteer web designer is busy with other projects right now so I'm afraid we won't be able to work on this in the very near future.]

"It touched my heart so much, especially since my Mom passed away and I was her primary caregiver. Also, my Dad has Alzheimer’s disease and this reminded me so much of our circumstances. Thank you."

September 23,  2007

"At this time of year, the Jewish Faith prays for repentance and for God to write us in the book of life for another year. We also remember our parents and frequent their graves with prayer. The timing of this email to me from my coworker is perfect, as I remember my parents the way they lived their lives and also the way they died. It makes me think back to how I handled certain situations and how I may have handled them better than I did. I will certainly share this with my children, one grown and the other almost 19 years old. I wish I had seen this 15 years ago. I most certainly would have given with more understanding. I thought I had, but after seeing this, I feel I could have given more. Thank you again for this wonderful rendition of what could be considered a prayer. J. Dorfman. Pennsylvania"

"I just got this Parent’s Wish email forwarded to me. I would like to be sent more if possible. It was great. My mom is in the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s and it was very touching. Thank you."

"As us baby boomers are now the oreo generation, taking care of both our kids and our elderly parents in their 80's, I realize God allows them to age to build character in us, which otherwise we would never realize the potential there is to love and sacrifice for them."

"I am 11 years old and that was hard to watch because my grandpa died on Jan. 30, 2002. He left me my mom, his daughter, my dad and my three brothers in my family. I remember before he died I was holding his hand and then I had to go so I let go and he said Madison (that is my name) and he was looking for my hand (I think that happened it was so long ago I'm not sure I think it happened) it was so hard for me to go. I loved him so much. Thanks"

"Is there anyway a person can get a printed copy of this touching, emotional, so true piece of art!??"

September 22,  2007

"Thank You!! Please keep working on this."

"You have no idea how much this helped my mother and I. My Grandmother is 92 and we are having a really hard time with the way that she has gone down in the last couple of years. We know that logically she has lived a long and wonderful life and is not in pain. She was just such an independent person for so long. It is hard to understand that that person is gone. She is still very much with us but is loosing so much so fast. Thank you again. Melanie Rowland"

"Please let it be reasonable for an older person. This made me cry. I will be 61 in Dec. I understand this message as I am do forgetful and have 8 kids who treat their 86 year old grandmother like she is crazy."

"I just had the opportunity to view Parent's Wish and think it is a very eloquently stated desire for our older generation (I'm 56). It may possibly be the exact thinking of all those affected with Alzheimer's Disease, but they are unable to vocalize their thoughts.  Thank you for the interest and compassion shown in putting this format together for the web community. KUDOS!"

"This was visually exquisite, melodically beautiful, and the words are universal. Devoid of religious, cultural, or political ideology, these are timeless passages, that affect any and everyone who has ever had a child. I don't know anything that better exemplifies the complete cycle of human life! Marie Levy"

September 21,  2007

"This is beautiful, please let me know when it becomes available."

"The most touching presentation I have ever seen, and so very true. Thank you."

"My Mom sent this to me. I couldn't stop the tears even if I wanted to. We live in different states but while I was watching this video, it was like my mom was right here with me. Thank you so much for bringing her home to me. Sharon."

"This is true to life. Maybe this presentation can be provided to medical institutions to help family members understand what a love one may be going through as they age; especially if there has been a diagnosis of dementia, parkinson's disease, alzheimer's disease, etc. Having cared for parents, spouse, in-laws and other family members who suffered through fatal diseases, this reinforces the importance of showing kindness and understanding even at times when you don't feel like it. I would also like to see this presentation provided to all youth organizations and will surely pass on the web site to the youth minister at our church. Thank you for this beautiful work of art and facts of life."

"This was a beautiful presentation."

"This is a wonderful presentation!"

"This is the real wake up call to those of us that are approaching this age and caring for older parents. There should be a way that to get this to more view's."

"Thank you so much!!!"

"I just viewed this presentation and it is wonderful! I work in a nursing home as the staff development coordinator and would love to buy the CD would it is available. Thank-you for spreading this message with such love and concern for the elderly."

September 20,  2007

"I worked in a nursing home for many years and I believe this video tells what many of them wish they could say."

"This is AWESOME!"

"If only it could be edited for the single surviving parent!"

"Incredible... I cried throughout!!! I wish I could have this on billboards, in rest homes, everywhere. My mother @ 83 had several strokes this year; we thought we were going to lose her, but God has plans, and she's still here and doing remarkably well. We take too much for granted in this short life of ours, and forget the smallest, yet most meaningful things in life. Thank you for bringing this out where it can be seen by all. God Bless..... Becky"

"How beautiful..."

September 19,  2007

"This was so touching. Before I got half-way through it, I was in tears. What beautiful thoughts were brought out about how we can show true love toward our aging parents. We sometimes want so much to do things for their good that we forget about what will really make them happy. Thank you, and God bless you. Theresia Taylor"

"I'm still crying from reading this; it really exemplifies how I feel. I just wish the ending just said 'Love, Mom'. Dad was one of my biggest mistakes!"

"This is without a doubt, the very best thing I have ever found on my computer. I love the song and all the pictures as well. Every human being on the face of the earth should have to watch this at least one time! Thanks for taking time to do this. I simply adore it!!!"

September 18,  2007

"I have Parkinson's and I'm only 56. My struggle has just started, I will send this to my three boys. Such a brilliant reminder of how we all need each other. Being a Josh fan, just made it that much more touching. Thank God for children."

"Remembrance.This was more than words can say. Having lost both parents, on the same day with 5 years between them. Thank you so very much."

September 17,  2007

"i have always found it hard to tell my 2 sons how glad I am that they were my sons. This made it easy to tell them how I feel now that Dad and I are getting older. Thank You."

"My husband sent me the link to Parent's Wish. My parents are old and this message touched me in so many ways. I've found myself frustrated with just the same situations presented in the message. And, never did I think to think of the many ways my parent did the same things now required of me. May this message open the eyes and hearts of those once like me."

"Thanks for this touching and realistic presentation - I'm sorry that some would think this might put a guilt trip on some children - to me, it is very 'freeing.' I'm in the midst of taking care of my mother and father and have experienced much of what this program addresses. I have come to understand that the most important things I can do for my parents at this stage of life are to be with them whenever I can and to let them live out these last days with grace and dignity. Pam Juday"

September 16,  2007

"Beautiful piece, very touching and it came to me at a very good time. My parents passed away 21 years ago, this piece reminded me of them, and it made me proud, to have been patient with them. The piece brought tears, especially since my first born son,  has been very impatient, rude, and hadn't spoken to me for over three months. I am 69 years old, I've done a lot for my husband and two sons, I've worked hard to educate and send all three to college. I have sent this piece to my sons and my legally separated husband, I believe it has helped them. Thank you for such a great, heartwarming script. I've sent it to many friends and relatives.

"Well, I don't know where to begin. It made me cry, because I just lost my Dad in July of 2006. I was able to take care of him till he passed away. I tried to do a lot of what this presentation was about. I had a precious moment with my Dad when he passed, because I was with him. He was there when I came into this world and I was able to be there with him when he left this world. People who had a good rearing will appreciate this presentation, I know I did. Exceptionally beautiful...:-"

"Thank you so much for the reminder of what our parents' did for us. Both my parents are in their 80's and will some day need my help. I will do the best to my ability to care for them the same as they did for me. God bless you! Suzanne"

"This is so beautiful, it made me cry. Thank you for it."

September 15,  2007

"It was so beautiful, and the music with it was just wonderful. Thank you for taking the time to do this."

"This is such a great testament for those getting older. I am a nurse who works in a nursing home and I see on a daily basis the need and compassion that we all should receive. Even if some of those people are unable to dress or eat or shower on their own. Everyone needs to understand that these people were once young, vibrant, successful human beings and should receive the respect and dignity that they all deserve. I hope this reaches many people and they can try and remember when they see an elderly person who may be ill causing them to be confused or just unable to do the things they used to that you will take the time and realize that this person was once young like you and I and probably have some amazing life stories. So try not to judge them just by what's on the outside. I love my job and have such satisfaction knowing I made a difference in a person's life. You would be amazed at the little things that can brighten up a persons day by just listening to them, or helping them in a small way. We should all learn to be so grateful. A grateful nurse in Ohio"

"I just received this as an email, its wonderful!! Thank you"

"This should be shown in school to middle school, high school as well as college-aged students. This kind of understanding, compassion and broader thinking is not taught in homes as much as it was when I was growing up in the forties. I was very blessed to have seen this kind of an example in my home growing up in my grandparents' home where there were four generations living there. Thank you for your efforts to sponsor this."

September 14,  2007

"Thanks to all that was involved with it, it was great."

"This is the most touching show I have ever seen and I write poetry in similar style. Nothing of mine even compares. I recently found out I have Multiple sclerosis and I would love to pass this to my grown children."

"I have a question that was not entered in the Frequently Asked Question's. Is this a Pagan website or another belief (e.g. Christian, Buddhist, etc.) website?"
[Webmaster's note: In my opinion, the message of this slideshow transcends all religious boundaries. Whatever our religious beliefs are, I think we all share one thing in common: the love of our parents.]

"It is very powerful!"

"My mother died two years ago after along illness. She moved in with me while she was on dialysis. It was a very difficult time for me and my family. When she was in intensive care and slipped into a deep coma I prayed and begged her to wake up and to not give up. She was tired and ready to meet her maker, she was ready to go HOME. This slide show gave me a sense of peace and I realize that it was about (what she wanted and needed at that time.) It was not about what I wanted or needed. Thank you for sharing this wonderful slide show with me. I plan to share it with my children and siblings."

September 13,  2007

"Beautiful wording; thoughts; sincere truth; Good example for younger generation-!! Remember: 'Once as you are now; so were we; As we are now; so you will be.' ---Background excellent; slide timing could be a mite slower.---Thank you for a wonderful program--!!---lss"

"A wonderful message but I am alone now and my husband (and their father) is gone from me and my children, passing away unexpectedly at the age of 79. I do wish there had been more pictures of women in it though. I will keep this and send it to my children as I get older (if I do.) Right now I am able to continue in my lifestyle as before and not disabled in mind or body. This might be more appropriate a little later on in life although I hope I never reach that point. Thank you for the lovely music and poem."

"I loved this but balled my eyes out! Its so perfect and beautiful!!"

"This touched me so much, and I think it would be a blessing to share with others. Thank you so much!"

"Thank you very much - my mother in law just send this to us, and I noticed there's a single mom version, which I was for 18 years before I married my husband. This will be good for my daughter in years to come.. thanks!"

"Very touching and beautiful just says it all."

September 12,  2007

"I have enjoyed this for almost 10 months now, and hardly a day goes by without listening to it. I have lost my father, and what a good man he was. His last wish was that we (his six surviving children) were to take care of our mother. Believe me, we do. We cherish her just as he did. Thank you for this. Sandie"

"This is one of the most meaningful things that has ever come on to my computer. I am an aging parent and want to say these things to our 6 beautiful children, but can't find the right words, so this is being sent to each of them. We love them so very much and know we may someday need all their patience and love to sustain us, this says it all. Thanks you for this work of art."

"I recently lost my maternal Grandfather after a long illness and my now Mom is now having to care for my Grandmother (his wife) who's health rapidly is failing. This slideshow brought up so many emotions that I had deep inside. Right now I feel that my Mom is so overwhelmed but I have the deepest respect for her and hope to God that I am half the woman she is. It is so heartbreaking to see someone that you thought was a pillar of strength lose their life and this slideshow just reminded me to cherish the people I still have around and to remember and pray for those I have lost. May God Bless Everyone. G"

"This is the best thing I have seen on the web. A friend of mine sent this to me years ago when my mother went to a nursing home. My Father is now dying at the same home (where my mother is still at). I cry every time I see this... but it also gives me comfort. I would like to thank everyone involved for helping to create such a beautiful, and inspirational show. God bless.. ty Mary"

September 11,  2007

"This is by far the best email I have ever received from a friend today. I have passed it on to friends and family. It really touched me in ways I can't even say. I lost my dear Mother 12 years ago to cancer. It was a long 3 years watching her get worse and worse, but I have no regrets... only that I could have had her longer. My brother, father and I and other family and friends were with her until the end. She took the best part of me with her and I will never be the same. I owe all I am to my parents. My parents were (are) the best. My Dad is still living, but about to turn 87 and is starting to have health issues. This piece puts it all into prospective, if some think maybe there is more they can do for their parents, I'm hoping this piece will help you get where you need to be. God willing, we will all be old some day. It shows that our parents do for us from birth on, so when they are up in age and need us, it is our turn. I'm hoping this email keeps going and touching all that receive it the way it has touched me. It will make you cry, but it is so worth it to watch over and over again. Please keep it going so it can touch others hearts and perhaps change their lives and the lives of others. The song really makes it hit home. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for The Parent's Wish."

"This is a wonderful presentation and it should be required hearing for all our youth to let them know how we care for them and how age can become beautiful if they look at things in Gods perspective. We love our country and our children as well. Thanks again. Gene"

"I lost my husband 6 years ago after 54+ years of marriage. I know he would join me in sending this to our children. I couldn't read it without crying. It is so touching. Gwen Love Montgomery, AL"

"Thank you for a beautiful presentation."

"Excellent video that made me cry. I am a nurse educator and my hope is it will do the same for my staff. Thank you."

"Thank you thank you.. a thousand times thank you. This is such a beautiful piece and I'm very glad I asked you if there was a single parent edition.. my son is deaf and I'm going to have to get the words to the song in the background. but this makes a world of difference to me."

"I think it is incredible, and I am a home care nurse and would love to send it to all of my peers!"

"God teaches us to remember the older folks, to honor our parents and to care for them when they are old. Since I am reaching my older years and have older parents and in-laws I have come to realize the need to prepare for their care. This presentation is very powerful to that end. Thank you for your time in this."

September 10,  2007

"My cousin who lost her own mother at the tender age of 11 sent this to me. I finally had time to watch this and am now sitting here with tears streaming down my face. It was with great joy and love that I cared for my mother until the end. It was never easy, but so rewarding just to see the sparkle in her eyes and the comfort in her soul knowing she was loved and cared for and not abandoned in some 'facility'. When she would talk of being a burden to me, I would always remind her that we were a team. When I first brought her to live with me, the doctor I took her to see pulled me aside and told me not to blame myself if she suddenly went downhill and died. He said she was a very ill woman, and he gave her four months to live. She lived 11-1/2 happy years. He had underestimated the Power of Love and the Power of Prayer. Margo in San Francisco."

"Thank you for having this on the internet and all the trouble you went to so we could view it. My father is 88 and we are now seeing these changes in him and this video has certainly enlightened me about my roll as his child. This is much appreciated."

"I love the slide show."

"You could never imagine what your video has meant to me. In five days I would have been celebrating my father's 76th birthday but he was taken from me almost 4 years ago. Shortly before his death my husband and I moved him in with us to care for him as he could not care for himself. It was a very hard task both physically and emotionally but it is a privilege that I will never ever forget or regret and one that I am so very thankful to have had the chance to undertake. I was very close with my father throughout my entire life and I miss him dearly each and EVERY day. For quite a long time I begged him to not let go and to not leave me. After realizing how selfish this was and how much suffering my dad was enduring, I told him it was okay to let go. It was the hardest thing I have ever told anyone in my entire life but I knew it was the right thing to do. Approximately 4 hours later my father passed away. Your video touched on so many truths about parents growing older that I felt like it was made especially for me and my father! After the tears finally stopped flowing, I reminisced with my children about their grandfather and about your video. My children were also brought to tears which is something you don't see much with teenagers. Again, thank you so much for such a true and heartfelt video!!!"

"Not only was this a wonderful slideshow to view, the words written within provided me with a hope that I will be able to deal with these issues if ever presented with them. This was truly amazing to read and watch. I want to thank you so much for sharing this, as I will also. Valerie Champion"

September 9,  2007

"This is one of the most beautiful e-mails I have ever received. I lost my mom in 2005 and my dad in 2007. Parent's Wish could have been written from them to me in remembrance of the circle of life. Thank you. Vicki Grantham"

"I have just listened to/watched this video. I cried like a baby both for my own mother and for me as a mother with a grown son. This video reminded me not to judge my mom too harshly and to ALWAYS be as patient with her as she was with me. She is a woman I will always admire. I know my son gets frustrated when I can't comprehend technology even though he has explained it fully. I forget. The part about losing my words and needing a minute really hit home as well. Thank you very much for this insight! Sometimes we need to be reminded....again."

"My Mother sent this to me in April and I saved it. I work as a nurse in a nursing home. This touched me deeply in April, but now it means even more, I lost my Mom in July."

"I was so moved by this beautiful presentation! The tears came as I watched it. There are so many things expressed in it which many of us in our 60's and older, would love to say to our children. I sent this to them, as well as everyone I know. My deepest thanks to the person or persons who created this and of course, to Josh Groban for his lovely voice and music. I pray it will stay on the Internet for a very long time. It will remain with me forever. Joanie Kirby"

"I recently had a 95 year old friend who passed away and it would have been nice to show this at her funeral. I think it is a great reminder to all of us where we have been and will be. Thank you."

"After nearly losing my mother on Labor day, this video made me cry. As a 35 year old with a 'young' mother of 60, we never expect that our parent's will 'grow old'. Thank you for the touching reminder."

"Loved it. Lost my parents and grandparents and so true how beautiful it was. With love and dignity. Hope more people see this so they will remember what love really is. Gloria Town"

September 8,  2007

"This is a very touching and very true. Having lost my dad when I was 15 and my mother when I was 17, I can't for the life of me understand how some children can treat their parents the way some do. I tell my friends that they are very lucky to still have their parent or parents around when they complain they have to do something for them and I can't conceive how someone has no desire to see or stay in touch with their parents. Thanks again for such a moving presentation, wishing I had the chance to. In New Jersey"

"Loved the slide show and the song.  'You Raise Me Up' Is one of my favorite songs and every time I hear it, tears come to my eyes! I only wish Josh Groban would allow bands to be on his MySpace friends list! I think his record company should allow this for I would honor having him as a friend on my space to let all my rock-n-roll friends hear a fantastic voice that my otherwise not hear him because they are not exposed to this style of music. Needless to say, the song and the Parents' Wish is awesome!! Thanks for sharing!"

"It hits it right on the nose. I am not really old at 59, but I've been very ill and have had the children take care of me and I mean literally. I have had my children get disgusted with me and everything that was said in this email was the truth and I will send it to my kids. Thank you for this insight of growing old. Thank You so much."

"It is beautiful."

September 7,  2007

"Great work!"

"I love this presentation and feel very fortunate to be able to request a CD."

"I can put it short and sweet. I don’t have my parents around any more, so all I can say is it Brought Tears to my Eyes and Warm Feeling in my Heart. Thanks!

"This is sooo beautiful and meaningful."

"It's a good slide, but I feel like if we (as parents) sending this to our child, we are asking for 'rewards', that we remind our children that we did this and that, that 'Hey! I've done this to you!!' That we DEMAND our children to 'pay back' whatever we've done to them. I think what we do (did) to our children is not for them to pay us back. We do what we did because we love them, no one asked us to do such things. That's what most important for children to know, THAT WE LOVE THEM and WE'LL DO ANYTHING FOR THEM OUT OF LOVE. For me, it would sound better if the slide using 3rd person instead of US. For instance instead of : 'When you were small, we had to read for you......' for me it's better 'When you were small, your parents had to read for you..."'"

September 6,  2007

"Thank you so much for the wonderful presentation. It was e-mailed to me by a friend from church. My mother is now reaching the final stages of cancer which began 9 years ago as colon cancer. Yesterday they put her in the hospital and I realize every time they hospitalize her, it may be her last. I struggle with this, not because my Mother and I are close, it is quite the opposite. My parents were cold and verbally abusive to me as a child. We have never had a close relationship. I have long since forgiven them for the way I was treated as a child and moved on, but the anger always comes back when I have to deal with them in any situation, because they are still both quite callous and hateful. As a Christian, I know that it is my obligation to forgive and to care for my parents as they age; however, I find it very difficult to be a loving caregiver. Thank you for reminding me that, no matter what, my parents probably always wanted the best for me, they are just flawed like the rest of us."

"When I first watched this I was still single and yes I was touched by the words and the pictures. Now I got my first child and I watched it several times. Each time I watch this, I cry. I felt different. Its an eye opener for me. Thank you for making this. Its great!"

"So very true and well said. Excellent video. Bruce Aitchison"

"Thanks for making such a beautiful website. I was what I am seeing a lot in my mom now, and even myself from time to time. I am 56 and have a neurological condition that can only treat the symptoms, and will keep getting worse as time goes on. I only hope that it doesn't progress too far and that my daughter will remember all the things I gave up for her as she grew up and try to be patient with me. Margie.  P.S. This was how I always felt about the aged if I knew them or not and did try to instill that into my daughter. She worked in a nursing home, so as long as she doesn't get punched or scratched on purpose, I think she'll be OK."

September 5,  2007

"Thank you for such a beautiful presentation of this lovely piece."

"What a wonderful presentation. The words are so very appropriate to educate younger people about the loving way they can understand their aging parents. Anyone who has studied issues of aging knows there is nothing devious or negative about these words. The words offer an opportunity to learn and nothing more."

"Thank you for putting into words what is hard to say, but needs to be said. I lost my Dad on 12-23-06. I can still hear him saying some of the things in the video."

"Today my mother turns 82. My in-laws are 75. This reminds me that they did do a lot for us and our families. I just hope I can still get around on my own at 82! I love the video and especially the song, one of my favorites! Linda Zeimer"

"This was so wonderful. Sent to me by a friend. I'm going through memory problems in our family, and this poem and wonderful music.. means so much. Thanks. Hugs Freda"

"After losing my mother from Iowa in February 2007, then my Father in April 2007 found him after I came home from work, then June my stepfather 2007, this really hit home as I balled for 20 minutes replaying it. Thank YOU, so very much for creating what I believe to be the best thing ever to cross the Internet."

"This is the most heart-touching and beautiful e-mail that i have ever read."

September 4,  2007

"This is really beautiful and something everyone should read. I would send it to my 3 adult children except I raised them all by myself and this does not recognize us... (the single parent) who had a heavy load to carry with out the support of the father figure. I don't think my children appreciate what I had to endure to get them to where they are today. SAD...BUT TRUE! A MOM"

"Very nice job. It brought tears to my eyes and very fond memories. Ken Priewe, Milwaukee, WI"

"Great work. Unfortunate that it's signed by mom and dad--who have a great likelihood of not living together... J"

"Parents Wish is so touching."

"Absolutely wonderful and heart felt. I cried through the whole presentation. I am a caregiver for my mother, and in those times when you think you cannot endure another day, I will go to this email and remember all the years mom took care of me, and that one day I also will get old. I hope that this Parents' Wish is seen throughout America. Especially the younger generation. Not that they do not care about their parents, but that they will give their parents the respect they deserve as they age gracefully. That nursing homes will only be a place to go when the children need a break, or vacation for a while. Knowing that they will be back to pick up their loved one to take them home. Money is not everything in life. You can learn to live without, knowing that your loved one is taking care of by family, not some stranger in a strange environment. Respect, dignity and being able to stay in their own home is all they ask for as they age and cannot take care of themselves alone. I hope that everyone who reads this that it will forever stay in their hearts and make them think more about their parents when the day comes that they cannot stay by themselves anymore, and will need help from their children. Not just pushing them aside and in a nursing home to be forgotten. I have seen so much of that happen, and it is so sad. As I myself worked in a nursing home at one time. The Parents' Wish is all our wish, for one day we will also get old."

September 3,  2007

"A dear childhood friend forwarded this lovely video to me. He said it reminded him of his father and my mother. Our parents, all four of them were friends from a long time ago. My father died at 54 and his mother in a car accident, but their remaining spouses lived long lives. But not without difficulties with his health or with her mental incapacities. They lived about 20 miles from each other, I half away across the country. My friend was a constant companion for his father, and was aware of my mother's needs until she came to live with me. I am sending this e-mail to my children. It is difficult for them to hear me sometimes because they don't like the fact that I am putting things is place as I age. The discussion we've had about long term health decisions are hard for them to hear, even though they lived with me and my mother through her dementia. They saw my patience, learned to get into my mother's time zone, took her on long walks while I got dinner after a day at work. My daughter often asks me if I am preparing to die at 63. I tell her, no, I just want you to be ready when I am really old or just old enough not to be able to clearly communicate when I can no longer be clear. So this video is another way for me to tell them what I have said all along. Just respect my dignity, be patient, keep loving me - in a new way, perhaps. They know I love them dearly, but I think this video is a way for them to understand those years ahead when I might need their love and support when I really need it."

"Beautiful, and so true. Thank you for the reminder."

"Thank you for the wonderful slideshow! I cried and cried and cried. My parents are the best. One I still have with me and one I don't. I'm doing everything possible for the one I have left."

"I am a 58 year old woman who now lives back home with aging parents. I hear my mother say she wants to die, she's not hungry, too tired and so on. My mother's memory is fast fading away. Since being sent this link, I have watched the video several times and can't manage to get through it without crying because it hits so close to home. This video has however, given me faith and strength and knowledge in what to do, how to react and when to just listen. To those of you who think this video is a 'right to die' video.... when your parents are in their late 80's and telling you they wish they just wouldn't wake up anymore, you'll understand what the video is saying. It is painful to hear my mother say those words, but say them, she does. She's not asking for help in dying, she's just saying her battle to survive from day to day is difficult, that she's tired and just wants to go. It hurts, it hurts a lot, but I now have a better understanding thanks to this video. To all those that had a part in making this video, I thank you. I live this every day of my life. I hope Josh Groban will allow his music to be a part of the CD you plan to make.... his voice makes it very powerful. Again, many thanks. Lauran King Walnut Creek, CA"

"So beautiful, so touching and so true. Should be saved among every adult child's 'favorites' to be revisited and reflected upon when their last remaining nerve has been plucked. Lovely, thank you."

September 2,  2007

"I don't remember my father, but my mother lived to be 87 years young, she had heart trouble, breathing problems and dementia, just to name a few, but she always loved me and I miss her every day. I'm still shedding tears after reading this BEAUTIFUL tribute and wish every adult could have a copy. It really makes you think and hopefully, remember all the good things that parents want from the families they so loving raised. Vicki A. Gordon, Rocky Point, NC, P.S. I'll soon be 62, so I really do understand. Thank you so much."

"I work for a senior center. I find this very appropriate as we deal with the seniors each day. How often we forget about those things which were done for us in our growing years. How often we loose patience when dealing with our aged loved ones. How much they have to offer us in their advancing years."

"It was so touching and that make my heart crampled. But I believe that it will not affect to those children whose parents are not ideal one's meaning parents that are not doing their obligations to their families especially to their children."

September 1,  2007

"I read a lot of the feedback and I was taken aback that people would actually write some of the comments that they did. Please keep in mind that the Author of this beautiful and most touching piece was writing from their point of view. I suggest to those who would like to tailor it to fit their situation, that you dig in to your creative spirit and fit it to your situation on your own. Being a child and also a Mother now, maybe it would be touching even though you have lost that other parent and only one has survived, that you still send it from Mom and Dad. It is a nice reminder that even though you have lost someone, they are never gone. I know I would be touched. Both of my parents mean the world to me. I am the BABY of 8 children and I shake my head in amazement that they were able to cope everyday. It was not a guilt trip, I have to disagree. If you felt guilty, remember, that is something inside of You. If a piece like this evokes guilt, it is time to re-evaluate your relationship with your parents. No one is given a book with all of the answers. Forget selfishness and begin forgiveness. Let them go in peace knowing they did everything they could within their means. I dread the day that I lose my parents, my best friends. The love between a parent and child is magical. Treat it as such. Thanks for letting me respond. ~Linda in RI"

"Thank you so much for a wonderful presentation Parents' Wish- an inspiration."

"As a nurse in a nursing home and a mother of three, this site truly touched me. It is so easy to forget, whether it be a parent or a patient in a nursing home, how important it is to always be kind and patient with our elderly. If we're lucky we will all be there someday!! I sent this to all three of my kids and to all my nurse friends. Thank you for sharing."

"To the person who originated this letter and everyone who took the time to read and listen to it (with the beautiful voice of Josh Groban in the background). I was surprised at all the mixed emotions and comments there were to this letter, that was so emotionally well written from the heart. Wouldn't it be nice, if more people could have the opportunity to appreciate this for what it is. A beautiful letter or saying, however it affects You. What a truly Heartwarming and Delightful pleasure it is to find something like this, on the Internet, when most of the news and programs today (or supposedly Entertainment) are so Harsh and Rude, Negative or Violent, Aggressive and Un-respectful, and just down right filled with so much ANGER. Isn't it sad, that so many of us have the inability to Appreciate all the Wonderful, Everyday, even Ordinary things, that so many people around us, are doing or are willing to do for others, just because they want to and enjoy helping those who need it or not, In This Great Big Beautiful Country (that can so easily taken for granted) that we Get to Live in. Jean Murphy (Simi Valley, CA.)"

August 31,  2007

"This is so beautiful. My husband and I have 6 children and 25 grandchildren. Our parents were wonderful people. Families truly can be together forever."

"My daughter sent this beautiful link to me and she warned me I would cry. You see, I just lost my mama on May 7, 2007. She lived in North Carolina, me in California. I flew back to California on Mothers Day and that really added to an already broken heart. There were plans in the works for her to come live with my husband and myself in April, but she wasn't able to ever make the trip. This should be required viewing for everyone, because everyone, hopefully, will get old(er) some day and we all need love and understanding. My dad passed away in 1999 and I still miss him so very much. Please keep this site going for as long as you possibly can, and Josh Groban singing, Your Raise Me Up, is perfect. Thank you for this wonderful tribute to parents everywhere. Vickie Robbs"

"All I can say is just beautiful--really strikes a cord and I think of my Mom all the time when I hear it. Makes me wish I could go back in time to do things differently with her. Andrea M Mainieri"

August 30,  2007

"This was sent to me from my sister and i have forwarded it to all three of my son's this is truly beautiful for this because sometimes our youth just don't understand what it is to get old . Again thank you this has made my evening."

"It was just awesome! Thanks for having the courage to put it into words. I just loved it, and send it to both my kids. May God bless you."

"This was a beautifully done work. Both my parents are 90, and at home and very frail. My brother cares for them full time. He is a better aide, caretaker, and taxi driver for them, than I could ever be, and I am a R.N. with 14 years in geriatrics. Thank you so much for your love and concern."

"I shared care giving with my siblings to our mother in her final year as we watched our mother go through some tough days that were not easy for her to accept. This message brings it all home elegantly! I have 2 daughters that I will send this to."

"This video was sent to me shortly after my 93 year-old mother died. It resonated so strongly with the experiences that she and I had that I wept through the entire video. What a beautiful message and so on target. She was a magnificent person and was really ready to die at the end. I hope that I helped her do it with as much dignity as possible."

"This has to be one of the most wonderful sites I've viewed. I cannot believe any of the negative blogs that were written. Thank goodness the beautiful positive remarks out do the negative. Thank you for doing this."

"This is an amazing video. Thanks for taking the time to bring it to the attention of so many people."

August 29,  2007

"This is so awesome and so many people need to be reminded of this. Thank you so much for making this and sending it on email. I was so touched after seeing it. May God bless all of you that are involved in this and the other neat things you do."

"Very touching and so true. God bless you, our elderly and our World. Now is the time to take care of one another. There is no better reward here in life than to love and take care of those that are incapable of caring for themselves."

August 28,  2007

"This is one of the truest, and most heartbreaking pieces I have ever read. Thanks to you, maybe some of our kids can remember what we have done for them, to get them ready for life. Although it was very insufficient for the world we live in today. There is only one vital piece of information you left out. About all the horrible, lonely hours we spend looking at their pictures, because, except for the memories, that dim with age, we have no way of remembering what they even look like. We give so much to them while we are preparing them to make their way in this hard to live in world, we leave nothing for ourselves to live on, when they leave us behind. And for so many of us, leave behind are the truest words, to describe our lonely existence. We are no longer sprite and fast in our steps, thus, we slow them down when they don't want to wait on our slow steps. We are no longer pretty, thus, we embarrass them when our hair or makeup don't look the best. My daughter is a beautician, so the way my hair is so unruly, it is an embarrassment to her profession. We are a little messy when we eat, thus an embarrassment to take out to eat. We are no longer slim, so our large frame is not wanted among all their friends. Thank You, and GOD Bless you for caring enough for us left behind elders, to try to remind the ones we gave our lives and youth to, that one day, they will be where we are today. Keep up the wonderful work. Blessings. Joanna. One left behind."

"This is wonderful. Although my husband and I are in good health, we never know when the time will come when this message will be needed. Thank you."

"I would be interested in purchasing a CD when/if it becomes available. It's right on now for me and my elders and I want to be sure my kids get a copy for 15 years down the road. Thanks."

"This is a beautiful site. Thank you Karen"

"This slideshow was powerful. Life can get busy with caring for parents that live beside me while trying to maintain some sort of order in my own household with 4 children ranging in ages from 7-14. But I try to remember that my parents will not always be here and when they say 'thank you for all that you do for us' I remind them that they did those things for me and the reason I can do them now is because they modeled this caring for me. Their memory and walking aren't as good as they once were but praise the Lord they can still converse and enjoy having the family around them. Thanks for sharing this insight."

"I watched this with tears streaming down my face - how profound, touching and moving. I do disagree with the bit about when a person is tired of living, to let them go. Perhaps I took that out of context or just misinterpreted the meaning - but it IS a sin, a mortal sin, if you will, to allow or condone someone to end their own life. No matter what - that life is God's. He takes, He gives. We do not have that right - not EVER. As the 'Cowardly Lion' said, 'Not no way, not no how!' Beautiful piece, though. Thank you, I will pass it on - with my caveat. Rebecca J. Texas"

August 27,  2007

"The Parents' Wish is incredible. We have such a short time to be together. This is a wonderful reminder."

"I was really amazed at the FAQ. I am constantly surprised that people don't seem to be able to let their guard down and accept things as they are presented. Oh well.... such that it is. Thanks again. Lynn"

"No problems.... This is just a thank you."

"The Best E-Mail I Ever Received."

"My wife and I are both mid sixtish and, thank goodness, healthy. However, we are not naive enough to think that we are not much, much closer to the end than we are to the beginning. We first viewed PARENTS' WISH sometime last spring. The lumps in our throats and the tears in our eyes made it impossible for us to say anything for several minutes. My wife lost her parents when they were both relatively young, but my mother lived to be eighty-nine and dad reached his ninety-second birthday before passing. My wife was very instrumental in making sure that I did all I could for my folks, and she was just unbelievable with them. I will be forever grateful to her for allowing me to have a clear conscience after they were gone. I was vividly reminded of all of this by PARENTS' WISH. Soon after viewing this extremely emotional piece, I recommended it to my two forty something daughters. Although they had always been more than generous to us, and I am not referring to financially generous, they now treat us in ways that can hardly be explained. They have never mentioned PARENTS' WISH, but they did not have to. I know the impact it had on them. What a rush! I watch it often. I always make a small bet with myself. I tell myself that it can be seen in its entirety without tears. I always lose the bet. Thank you, whoever you are, and you could not have selected a more beautiful or appropriate piece of music. I am a huge Josh Groban fan. CMAC"

"I am caring for my mother at the current time and from 96 to 2001 cared for my mother-in-law and father in-law. My husband has since passed away as well as his parents, but so many of the things in this e-mail really hit home. Sometimes you can get resentful for not having 'a life of your own' but if you really think about all they have given to you there really is no sacrifice. I'm thankful to have this time and pray that God allows me to be healthy enough to see my mom to the end."

August 25,  2007

"My father is 84 and just had a heart attack and five vessel bypass surgery three weeks ago.  I kept a smile and had a kind word for him each day that I visited him in the hospital.  As a doctor, I have always realized that life is here for only a moment in the bigger scheme of the universe, but what we do for those that we love gives us an eternity to appreciate what they gave not only to us but to all of those around us. Their generation is one of the most precious that we have ever known, it was a transitional period in our history, they accepted long hair, the Beatles and muscle cars as a way of life and they made it through with their dignity as well as ours. Now they are the heroes that we admire for their sacrifices and devotion to what our needs were. I had not broken down until I watched the video presentation, it reinforced my knowledge that their generation still walks with their heads held high, the fortitude to still say that God is the Way and the Light in public without fear of retribution and when they sing the Star Bangle Banner, never miss a word and know all of the verses. What a wonderful presentation, I hope that thousands will see it and I intend to send it to as many people as I know. Thank you!"

"A friend just sent me an e-mail with your website on it brought me to tears because I am currently caring for an elderly mother and with all the stress and business of life I don't always look at the positive side of things. This website has really helped remind me about life, family, and love. Thank you again for reminding me what is important in life!! May our Lord and Savior bless you abundantly. Linda"

"I have played this touching slide show everyday since one of my children sent it to me. I am 65 years old and have 3 daughters. I have been divorced for 30 years and raised the girls by myself. I'm not sure I've always done everything right, but I have loved them with all my heart. My oldest daughter is angry with me about something. I don't know what, and she won't communicate with me at all. In fact, she's not communicating with her dad or her sisters, or any other member of her family. I sent her this slide show, not to make her feel guilty, but to try to communicate to her how I feel and to let her know that I love her more than words can express. Thank you for this presentation. EJ in Indiana"

August 23,  2007

"This email is probably the most touching, truthful and emotional one I’ve ever seen and I cried the whole time I was watching it. It really comes at a time in my life when I need to be reminded of what really is important and that certainly is family. As we get older we learn to appreciate the sacrifices that our parents made for us and to cherish them as they grow old. For sure, there are some difficult times when we deal with our aging parents but if we stop, think and remember we can get through these times much easier. Thank you so much for this beautiful tribute to parents."

"If our mortal parents can do so much for us, think about the Father who gave up His only beloved Son to die on the cross for you and me. I am a father of a 7 year old boy, and I know the pain when he is hurt, let alone suffers an excruciating painful death for others! We love because He first loved us! God loves you, and there is therefore now no condemnations."

August 22,  2007

"I just realized again that I need and needed my parents through my hard times. Parents and elders truly do need our love, patience, and presence. I am so glad that my Oma (grandma) sent this to me. It just reminds me to take each moment of every day and cherish it. Thank you parents wish for this email."

"This is a wonderful video. Thanks for keeping this going."

"This is one of the most beautiful sites that I have seen out in cyber space. It shows us what reality is or will be. Everyone should watch this and remember that one day it could be them."

"This was one of most touching emails I have ever read, especially since it is hitting so close to home right now. It has so much meaning and truth behind it."

August 21,  2007

"This is a beautiful piece and I thoroughly enjoyed it....being a single parent would love to see then end of a version of this just Mom or just Dad.....other than that ...awesome--made me cry .......love it"

"Someone sent this to me. I am a Mother of one Daughter and three Granddaughters, (one of whom, sadly, did not survive). I sat in tears. I sent it to my Daughter with a simple message: 'For the child in you who doesn't understand and for the parent in you who one day will'. This is one of the most touching sites I have ever had the painful pleasure of viewing. I believe it says all that we cannot to our parents and to our children as well. My deepest, heartfelt thanks to the person who did this. It is truly magnificent!"

"My good friend and neighbor next door forwarded this to me this morning as she knew I was having difficulty dealing with my 88 year old mother who has recently moved in with me. I could not help but cry through the whole message which for me has been very timely. I needed something this inspirational and beautifully presented to remind me again how important it is to be patient, understanding, kind and gentle with one's loved ones and to realize how difficult it is for them to loose their independence and way of life trying to cope with every day things, trying to remember things and trying to make you understand what it is they are trying to say! Thank you for this beautiful presentation. We must all realize that we will be in this situation one of these days and we hope and pray that we will have loving, caring people to take care of us. Manijeh"

"My Parents are both gone but they were always with family members through the hard years of their life. Of course we always wish we could have done more, but I really feel that our family did a great job in dealing with all that happened. Our parents were the best that anyone could have. I received this from my Uncle and it came at a very interesting time in my life. I give a lot of time to young people, and have for many years. I realize that I should have given more time to my own children, but also feel that God called me to do what I did with other youth who needed the caring and love from a male adult because they didn't have it at home. I don't feel like a complete failure, but sometimes wish I could have done more for my own. I've been thinking about putting something together to send to our 'children' (now in their 30s) to let them know that I wish I could have done more, but also to remind them of some of the things we had to go through as they were growing up. They have grown up to make us proud, just as they did all through their growing years, even if we weren't 'perfect parents', so we must have done something right along the way. This will be the tool to help me with this project. Thanks for your time in putting this together!"

August 20,  2007

"My wife and do volunteer work with elderly people (although we're not far behind 71 and 68). Some times, not always thank God, we encounter family members that are less than attentive to their parents and just don't want to deal with them for whatever reason. This is saddest when the parent/s have Alzheimer's. I wish I could forward this video to all families. It would help them understand what is happening with their parents and encourage them to help their elderly live out their days with dignity. God bless you. Jesse and Gloria Diaz"

August 19,  2007

"Parents' Wish brought tears to my eyes remembering my Mother's love. She had a stroke and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The most difficult time was when she no longer knew me. She was not only my Mother but my 'best friend'. I miss her so much. Thanks for allowing me to share. Barbara"

"I almost deleted this moving, outstanding personal message to us all- regardless of age. It truly reminds us that life flies by so fast and that we should never, ever forget those who were there for us when we couldn't do for ourselves. Thank you."

"Touching, emotionally wrenching, trustful and extremely well done. Tears cascading down my cheeks as I suddenly realized the mortality of man and in the end it is FAMILY that counts. All other gifts and possessions are meaningless and just that, collected gifts thru life with no real meaning. Thanks for the wonderful trip of reality and grace. Dr. Greco"

"Loved your beautiful presentation. Being a widow, I wish it could be edited for one parent to forward."

"A friend forwarded your Parents' Wish link to me and I would like to know what it is about. Unfortunately, as a blind computer user, I cannot read the flash movie text. I can hear the music, but my screen reading software does not read the text that my sighted husband tells me is there. Could you possibly put the text in a separate text only file? This would make your powerful message accessible to all. I am dealing with the decline of my mother into a level of dementia that is nearing the final stages. Her cognitive difficulties are a result of vascular disease and strokes, not Alzheimer's, but the result is the same. A once strong and independent woman is as dependent as a 2 year old and almost as stubborn when she does not want to do a particular activity. Thanks for considering the support that all computer users with disabilities need in order to use your offering."
[Webmaster's note: I have emailed you the words of the slideshow which you can find from item 10 of our FAQ]

August 18,  2007

"Thank you for reminding us of our wonderful parents. Lorette Peruch"

"Thank you so much. My Dad is 90 years old and has dementia. My Mother is 87 years of age. I am so grateful that I was able to view this wonderful slideshow. I believe that it meets the sentiment of both of my parents. I am going to send it to everyone of the children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and hopefully they will keep it for the great great grandchildren who cannot read yet. We are blessed to have 5 generations in our family. Continue to create such heartfelt videos."

"This is an enormous guilt trip…. music is beautiful!!!!"

"This was very beautiful. It really makes you stop, think, and listen. It will soften even the hardest heart and and make them think of the importance of life."

"I have just read and listened to this very moving and strong message. Both my parents have passed away. But, this message brought back many things. This message I hope gets sent around the whole world. Thank you. L.Barnett"

"My uncle sent me the this. I'm an only child, a menopausal baby and also a premature baby. I'm only 17 years old yet my father's age is 73 and my mother 57.  Listening to the music and viewing the slideshow I didn't notice that tears are already falling. It made me realize how lucky I am having two guardian angels given by God to me-- my tatay (dad) and nanay (mom). Because of this, I've said to myself that I want to die first.  I don't want the feeling of being left by my parents because of their death. But having seen this, it made me realize that I must be ready for that feeling and U must not die first, because I still have to help them once the stage of old age would come to them. Now I'm willing to be their strong arm when they're about to be weak, because they were once my strong arm too. If without them, I wouldn't be what I am today. My parents isn't just my life, they are my existence. Thank you so much. Nice work."

August 17,  2007

"Thank you! You've done an amazing job!!!"

"Enough said. My dad died in 1981 at 69. He and I were and are the best of friends. My mom lived to be 86, lived by herself in a big old farm house which was her wish until she needed assistance. I hired a caregiver to assist us with daily activities. When she died in 1999, I was there with my cheek to hers assuring her it was okay to let go and go be with dad. Broke my heart. Both my parents always did what was right and took care of my sister and me through all types of illnesses, circumstances and situations both and each would have and did the same or more for my sister and me. Never disrespect your parents and never warehouse them in a old folks home. They are the reason that you can walk, talk, read this message, why you know how to brush your teeth, comb your hair, take a bath or shower etc. Give them the respect they deserve, it is not about you, it is about family. God bless"

"I would have preferred the signature to end, 'Your Parent' rather than Mom and Dad.. otherwise, very well done and many thanks : )"

August 16,  2007

"Thank you… you offered me the opportunity to see that the emotions and challenges that were experienced during my mother's long battle with Parkinson's is shared. It made me laugh and wish I could hold her hand again."

"Thank you for this beautiful message. I received this from a friend just when I needed it! My Mom is going to be 58 this month - she had a stroke 5 yrs ago and is wheelchair bound. I am an only child, and do the best I can to help care for her. There are so many times I get frustrated, angry, and hurt. It's not easy, but this really helps me to remember. To remember how she felt all these things and more while raising me as a single parent. Yet she never gave up. It's the cycle of life I believe. Now it's my turn, and I shall cherish every moment. I don't have sound on my computer. I can just imagine how beautiful it must be, and how much harder I would have cried. Thank you. Wonderful work! -Jackie; WI"

August 15,  2007

"A friend just sent me Parent’s Wish and I am speechless! It is fantastic; a true blessing and inspiration. Thank you so very much for making my day a little more special with this."

"As more and more of us are involved in 3 and 4 generation families, and extended families, the more important it is for all the generations to remember to value one another for their simply being at the point in their lives that they are today. Once we were all young. Once we all were dependent. Many of us are no longer young, although we remember it. Many of us are or will be, again, dependent. And many are in that ‘sandwich’ generation who is seeing, loving, and caring for those both young and dependent, and older and dependent. Perhaps this marvelous work will not only put it in perspective for all of us, but help us remember to acknowledge the cycle of life, as in all things, there is a beginning and an end. The blessing is that we can love all in between."

"My pastor’s wife send me your Parent’s Wish via email. I happened to view it just before I left to see my 87 year old mother at the nursing home to help feed her as I have been doing for the past four years when I get off from work. She has dementia, Parkinson’s, hearing loss and wheelchair bound, yet the blessing is that she can still recognized me as her son and still remembers her family. Your slideshow was very very uplifting because at times I feel tired after a hard day at work, having to drive through traffic to get to the nursing home. Your slideshow left me misty eyed with a sense of joy of knowing that I will never have any regrets of the time I have given her to make the final years of her life a blessing to her. Your slideshow expressed the honest feelings that my mother has felt right on the nail. Several times, she wanted to die to be in peace from her condition, so for those who are offended by that wish from an aging parent, I say get over it, it’s reality, not fantasy, and I speak as a Christian. Thank you for the uplifting that I needed. Hector Martinez"

"It was very moving, and came at the right time as my wife's mother is in this same shape and we care for her in our home. We will show this to the rest of the family. Thanks"

"While I was reading this wonderful 'E' mail I sat and cried more like blubbered. It is a wonderful piece of writing and the music it is put with it is ideal really enjoyed it. By the way OUR kids treat us the way we wish to be looked after and this piece only confirms what they do for US. Gilbert R. SNIDER, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada"

"I am 81 on the 12 on this month and I really appreciated the message."

"It was a wonderful reminder of the sanctity of every life-from conception to natural death. Thank you."

August 14,  2007

"This email was amazing. Too often we fail to let our parents know how we really feel. Taking the opposite view, we parents, fail to let our children know how we really feel. I am grateful to have experienced wonderful parents and grandparents. I would hope that my stepchildren and grandchildren will always feel this way about me. Josh does a great job in singing and going straight to our hearts, doesn't he?:

"I love the warm, sensitive way that this was presented."

"What a beautiful site!!! I lost 2 of my brother's- one older and one younger- and many of these thoughts applied while I cared for them the last weeks of their life. Thank you. Andrea"

"This video was absolutely beautiful. I wish that all children of aging parents could view it. Thank you for putting it together. If it helps one person to treat their aging parents with dignity, it was worth it. Susan S., Winston-Salem"

August 13,  2007

"This is the most touching email I have received. This says exactly what I told my children when I was taking care of my Mother for several years. I was training them for when I was old and needed extra care and that it would be very hard to ask for care. Parents are always the ones who look after and care for the children and grandchildren. Then life takes a turn and we become to ones that need care and they must become the caregivers. Life is hard but love can ease all of its pain. Thanks to whoever created this."

August 12,  2007

"This is wonderful."

"This was beautiful."

"I think it's crap, and though I acknowledge that there are people that need to hear it, I doubt it would change their ways. I would not send it to my kids as I feel that it's insulting. I feel I'm being SHAMED into loving and caring for a parent, only because they did the same for us. Is that the motivation you're looking for?"

August 11,  2007

"I keep this and look at it every day. I only wish i had seen this before I lost my dad and mother. I hope I did for them as I should. This also helps me as a nurse. My patients are elderly and sometimes their family members get short tempered with them.  I wish I could pull this out of my pocket and show it to all of them. Thank you for a very beautiful e-mail. Probably the most heart warming I have ever received."

"This was the most wonderful e-mail I have ever received. I must say it really hit home. My Husband of 55 years passed away the day after Thanksgiving, this past year He was 91 years old. We had a special relationship and I will always be grateful for the life we had. I sent the e-mail to many of our friends and family. I can't see how anyone could take offense in listening to it unless they had a guilty conscience. What a beautiful way to express a thank you for the life we have lived. Thank you again for jogging our memories. MF- Ca."

"It was absolutely beautiful."

"This made me want to cry. It should help children understand, I had never thought of the comparison from child to parent to make it understandable to grown child to old parent. I am getting to be the old parent and sent this to my children and to all my family and friends. Even if children have good parents, many are left in nursing homes and at home with no care - it seems in this world times move so fast and everyone seems to busy to slow down and enjoy life the way God meant for us to live it. And yes, family is above all and everything."

August 10,  2007

"Thank you for creating this wonderful clip. I cried.. Then I sent it to over 100 friends and family members. Praise God I was blessed with wonderful Christian parents. Thank you pastor 's wife... Joyce Jones"

"I just read and viewed a Parents' Wish. The tears flowed the entire time. I am taking care of my mother who can't remember from one minute to the next. There are times she doesn't want to eat and I hold her arm when we walk in the yard. I know it upsets Mom to be this way and it breaks my heart to see her like this. I try to hard to be patient and understanding, but I am only human. There are times I become frustrated and angry. When I feel this way I will watch your beautiful video. Thank you."

"This brought tears to my eyes!"

August 9,  2007

"Thanks... I cried for 30 minutes after I saw this. It touched my heart so deeply."

"This is wonderful; thank you for sharing it with the world. I lost my Dad in February 2007 at the age of 61. In the last three months of his life, I spent as much time with him as possible, which I will always cherish. I can admit I was guilty of some of those things in the slideshow before we received a diagnosis from the doctor. My one wish for everyone – if you suspect something is wrong with your loved one; have them see a doctor immediately. If the doctor does not come up with a diagnosis, continue to push. It took a few very bad incidents with my Dad for us to be able to convince the family doctor something was not right. An earlier diagnosis would not have cured my Dad, but it would have allowed us to understand the changes he was going through and that it wasn’t really my Dad doing this, it was the disease. Remember to love your family to the fullest."

"I found the video to be moving and a long needed message. As a daughter and nurse in long term care you would be surprised at the number of residents whose family forgets their loved ones. I am sure that a large number of them were good and loving parents and yet their sons and daughter forget them in their busy lives. When the sons and daughters come they are usually in a hurry and seem uncomfortable around their parent. If we could only be as comfortable and caring with our aging parents as they were with us when we were babies."

"I just saw the slide show and want to thank you for creating it. It brought tears to my eyes. The message is so strong. I work in a hospital/nursing home setting and after seeing the slide show, I felt compelled to go and hug every resident I could find. In this type of work setting, we tend to forget that our elderly people are still just that – People, who still need our help, understanding, patience, and most of all, love. I am going to share this with my mother, my daughter, and my granddaughter, and many of my cherished friends. Thank you again and may God bless you for creating such a beautiful thing. Thanks, Kim"

"Loved this. Send me more nice things to see. I'm old now. Don't get out so I look at PC for pretty things."

"Very well done. This presentation communicates to people on so many levels. I look forward to it's release in CD format. Thank you for all the work you have done to package this important message in such an appealing package. As far as being a Christian, even Job recognized that there were times that it was more than he could bear and he asked God, 'O that in Sheol you would conceal me.' (Job 14:13a) He was not being pessimistic, but realistic when he noted: 'Man, born of woman, is short lived and glutted with agitation.' (Job 14:1) Job was not weak; He showed* *STRONG faith in God and he knew he could turn to him for his support at ALL times, yet especially during this most difficult time in his life."

August 8,  2007

"PATHETIC, that both from the author’s own perspective, and so many of the 'feedback' writers’; there is a NEED to deliver this insight. By title; it’s called a wish, others write that it is: a lesson, an eye opener, a message or a gift. Well, a while back, it was summarized this way: 'Before gray hair you should rise up, and you must show consideration for the person of an old man,' God - Leviticus 19:32. As for the principled us: Thanks for the tearjerker of a reminder. B.T., Ormond Beach, Fl".

"Absolutely wonderful! Thank you!"

"I am a single mom and I really loved this. I sent it to all my children. Thank you so much. Every thing you say is true. Ruby Jewel Roberts, 72 young not old."

"For those who need reminding, it is probably an important message. I found it disturbingly negative, but I know that each situation is different. I pray that I will always remember the things that I was taught as I grow older. I pray that I will never consider one day of the precious gift of life as 'surviving' and will always 'live' life to the fullest, whatever that may be. I pray that I always hold life sacred and never find myself wishing to die because I'm elderly. My grandmother suffered from dementia before leaving us at age 91. We cared for her and never stopped loving her, even when she could not remember who we were or why we were there. It's called 'family' where I come from. It's just an understood part of life. It saddens me that so many people will find a need for this slideshow, but again, it is good to know that it brings comfort to so many."

August 7,  2007

"This is beautiful!!!! But, readers keep in mind that not all parents are/were patient/loving/giving parents. After reading this beautiful message, I take with me the motivation to continue to 'try' to be a loving, giving and patient parent for my daughters. I whish that some day my daughters find in their hearts the love and desire to help others, but not because it’s expected of them, but because I was able to set that kind of example for them. We, as parents, must keep in mind that love and respect is something that must be 'earned' and that if we don’t give it to our kids, we really can not expect it from them. Best wishes to all of you in being a wonderful human being!!!!!"

"This film is the most moving one I have ever seen. What a remarkable job you did."

"I have just watched the Parent's Wish. It is so true of many of our Older Parents. My Mother is just like this and I cried when I read it. Thank you for putting it so nicely."

August 6,  2007

"This is one of the most heart felt email I have ever gotten. My dad has been gone for nearly 7 years and there was a time during these 7 years that my mom told me she was ready to die. She passed away in 2004, everything in this clip hit home for me. Thank you so much for this. Charlene Reaney, Tallahassee, Fla."

August 5,  2007

"This is the most beautiful presentation that I have seen. I've always been a Josh Groban fan, in fact went to see him in Fort Lauderdale, however, this presentation is totally outstanding and personally I feel you should truly go further with this. I have forwarded this to many of my friends my age, the response has been 'Thank you Helen, it was beautiful'! Please do more!!

"Awesome!!!! Keep it going!!!

"This video and music combination is absolutely awesome! I sobbed as I watched this! Not only did it bring back memories of the loss of my parents, but I also want to send it to my 2 kids. The message in the video is also how you want your kids to understand you as you grow older and how it relates to you and them. This is most beautiful! Sandy from Kutztown, PA"

"Thanks. It's really beautiful."

August 4,  2007

"As a parent, I would not ever send this message to my children. I hope when I reach my old age, they will have been raised in a manner that they will not have to be reminded of all the things I did while raising them, it will be a part of who they become. While I don't think it is selfish to fear being forgotten or mistreated in old age, I do think it is selfish to let you kids know ahead of time that they owe you. I would NEVER allow my parents to suffer or be forgotten, not because they sent me a sad slideshow reminding me how very selfless and doting they were to me as a child, but because I love and respect them for how they raised me. I was very disappointed and insulted that my mother sent this to me. Have a Great Day!! Love, Julia"

"Although I did agree with 99% of your site the 1% that I did not agree with was a very big disagreement. You said that they should not fuss when we say we wish we where dead. Life is too precious to come to the conclusion that we wish we were dead. There is never ever a time when someone should come to that conclusion. When you have God in your live then you do not need to wish you were dead. I think you need to rethink that section of your display. Sincerely yours in Christ Jesus the Messiah, Jackie S, Romans 1:16, A Jew for Jesus"

"A copy of Parent's Wish should be apart of every 'Living Will'....Subil18, Long Island, NY"

"What a touching email, the tears are still flowing. How true it is. Thank you for keeping it going. Yes, how true it is and we surely must look after those who have always looked after us. L. Marks Hartford, CT"

"I have just read this beautiful email. My father died just 2 months ago. My mother is not doing too well. Her health is not very good, but with the help for some of my large family we will endeavor to do the best we can to make sure her remaining days, months, years are happy ones. I wish she had a computer as I would love to send this to her. To let her know that we know what she is going through. She and dad was there for us when we needed them, now we will be there for her when she needs us. Geraldine Fraser, Melbourne, Australia"

August 3,  2007

"I received a call from my mom who told me she had a very rare, untreatable cancer. I had my family packed up and moving within a week so I could be there to take care of her in her final days. I was able to be, and do, everything this wonderful show said but my brothers weren't. Mom passed, at home, 3 months later. While I have no regrets, I can't say the same about the rest of the family. Hopefully, this will help others before they have a reason for regret afterward. Thanks to all for a great reminder of how things should be."

"Kudos to you! The slide show is very moving and the tears ran down my face during and for several minutes after viewing it. Thank you so much for sharing and God bless you. Judy from PA - (a sixty year old mother in poor health)"

"Thank you for this beautiful movie. I am 70 years old and to get out and around I must ride in a motorize wheel chair. My son and daughter- in-law do not come to see me very often. This movie really hit home to me. God bless you all for this web site."

"It is really heart touching. My age is of 23. I never thought of things that happen at that age. I promise that I will treat old people and my parents to my best which will make them happy and I will never neglect any one who are in need like this. The show is really ultimate and heart moving. Raj. INDIA"

"It is beautiful. My mother gave up and willed herself to die. Now, I am getting old and I understand. Thank you for producing this wonderful piece. Christ Bless You, Donna - Marietta, Ga"

"Thank you so much for this beautiful presentation. I am so blessed to be 65 years old and still have both of my parents. Mom is 85 and Dad is 95, so you know I am experiencing quite a few of the things mentioned. I am honored to be able to help them in their 'golden years'.

August 2,  2007

"I can't tell you how much this slideshow meant to me. Two summers ago my mom decided to quit getting blood transfusions.  She said if God planned to spare her life it would be through his miracle and not transfusions. It was tough. I can't even explain how tough it really was to hear that. My sisters, nephew, daughter, fiance and myself stayed with my mom and dad the last 2 1/2 weeks of her life. We laughed so hard sometimes the neighbors probably thought we were crazy. We stayed up late and we laughed. And we cried as we took turns lying in bed with her. But the laughter is what I will always remember the most. I have to think about that everytime I remember the day she said 'It's the quality of life, not the quantity'. I guess I've always questioned the fact that I did not argue with mom the day we sat at my dining room table waiting for the doctor to call to give us the blood count for that morning's blood work and mom said 'it doesn't matter, I talked to daddy last night and I've decided to stop getting transfusions'. Your slideshow showed and told me that we did the right thing in supporting her decision. And it's ok. Thank you, Robynne, Heinemann, IL"

August 1,  2007

"Thanks so much for such an inspirational message. Anyone who can watch this and not be moved to tears has a real problem and they need to stop and take a good look at their life. Thanks again."

"You mention the part about a parent speaking of wanting to die, and tying this into euthanasia. My mom is 91 years young-she has watched her life deteriorate, as she can no longer help herself. This wonderful lady was kayaking @ the age of 83. She is now in a hospital bed suffering w/ heart, diabetes and macular degeneration. Every time she is touched it hurts. When she speaks to me of wanting to die, she is not requesting euthanasia, but rather that God hears her plea and she is able to die with dignity. You see, at this stage, there is no quality of life left. I love my mom very much, and I am all she has. I can truly say through my tears that this video has helped me more than any words I have read. It see what I have never seen before through her eyes! Thank you, Sandra Smith, Clifton Park, NY"

"I watch this video every time I return from the hospital seeing my 91 yr. old mom who would like to go peacefully into the night! This is even more poignant as I saw Josh Groban in person last weekend."

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