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FEEDBACKS - PART 12
July 31,
2007
"Really Beautiful
!!!Touched Me To The Core !!! Bette"
July 30,
2007
"Wow, how beautiful.
We lost our mother suddenly 18 months ago. My husband, daughter and I
moved in with my dad so that he may remain in his home with his
familiar surroundings and things he and my mom loved and built
together. Our decision was based on how we could take care of him and
help him be as comfortable and at peace as possible, without his wife
of 60 years! Even though he is still fairly self sufficient, there are
challenging days, as well as knowing there are probably more difficult
days ahead. This is an incredible wonderful reminder for today and
each additional day that we will be blessed with him in our lives. I
believe this would be great for children of all ages to read, not just
those with elderly parents, to remind them that parents too need love,
kindness and patience, no matter what age. If only I had another day
or month to help my mom or bring her flowers. Thank you so very much!"
"Lovely program.
Thank You!"
"This was the most
beautiful e-mail I have ever received. Thank you for sharing this with
the world."
"To the person that
wrote about 'defending' the 'right to die' movement and
'euthanasia' my mother use to say that to me for about a year
before she finally died. She would say I pray that the lord will make
it soon. I was move to tears with the memories as I watched the
presentation and is still in tears as I write this. And for the part
about don't force me to eat, I suppose that's how it is when you get
to that age. She would say to me I am only forcing to eat because of
the medication. So to the folks out there who perhaps looked at the
presentation and has no aging parents, just wait, if you are so lucky,
and blessed. Beautiful work, I just loved it.. and will be sending it
to all my family and friends. Keep up the good work Thank you for
letting me express myself. Antoinette"
"This email truly
touched me. I remember my 92-year-old father who one minute looked so
weary, eyes closed on the examining table in his doctor's office, then
the next minute give me a precious gift. He turned his head smiled
broadly and thanked me for all I had done for him. I have needed that
smile and statement so many times after his death. For those single
parents who read the signature of 'mother and father' too
narrosely. This is an inclusive message for all caregivers. I share
the concern regarding the comment about wanting to die. However, you
should realize that the elderly do get weary and may make such a
comment. Don't be shocked. This does not mean it is a death wish, just
a shared feeling. Donna Lawson."
July 29,
2007
"This says it all,
even without the audio. My husband and I have cared for his (80 – 90
year old) mother for the last ten years and – having watched her
abilities erode over time - we can vouch for the validity of every
single statement. It is very, very difficult for parents to admit they
need help, and they often react to our offer of help in much the same
way small children do... a stamp of the foot and an 'I’ll do it
myself!'. Help must be offered as tactfully to an adult as it is
to a recalcitrant child. Good parents raise their children to take
good care of their children, hoping that the time will never come when
they will have to treat us as children too; the harsh reality is that
if we live long enough, it will happen. The trick, young parents, is
not to raise your children to think the world revolves around them,
but to make them always aware of the needs of others, from
toddler-hood on. Just as prejudice is something learned from adults,
so is consideration. Those who have raised children who have always
gotten whatever they wanted (including their own way) have found that
it was a mistake not to teach them to give as well as get, and they
are paying for this lapse in the most painful of ways. Remember -- you
can’t give a child too much love, but you can give them TOO MUCH."
July
28,
2007
"If only it could be
edited for the single surviving parent!"
"The slide show was
very well done and true in so many cases. It really fit my parent's
perfectly. I was very touched. I will even send it to some of my
friends. However, I do have one negative comment. I did not like the
one slide that read, 'And when someday we say to you that we do not
want to live any more, that we want to die. Do not get angry. Some day
you will understand.' It might give the listeners the idea that
older people have the right to die, that euthanasia is a good thing
and wanted by older people. I disagree with that idea and therefore it
tainted the good feeling I got in viewing the otherwise excellent
video."
"If you feel ANY
shred of guilt after watching this slide show, it's for a reason.
Instead of looking who to blame, look inside yourself, find the reason
for the guilt and deal with it. Work through it so that you can begin
to enjoy your life and all the wonderful things that can be a part of
your life, including this wonderful video. Joanne McMillan, Pilot
Mound, MB"
July
27,
2007
"I've always loved
this song. Presently my mom is going through the last phase of life.
Her kidneys have failed and she is suffering from complications as a
result. I have the opportunity to share in caring for her, and what a
blessing!! She has been the most wonderful mother anyone could dream
of. She gave her life for all 13 of us. She sacrificed everything for
her children. Today, its our turn to give back. Thanks for reminding
us that our parents did it for us - with patience - Let us give back
to them what they already taught us. One Love. Virginia Luke"
"I just watched your
video and boy did I need a tissue (OK lots of tissues). This fit my
grandmother to a tee! After watching this it made it so much easier to
get her up and dressed in the morning, helping her walk, getting her
to eat and listening to her repeat herself over and over again. I love
her even more now thinking about all she has done for me and I thank
you for reminding me all she has done for me over the years. Taking
care of a loved one is not a easy job by any means and your video has
made me see that there is a reasons why I take care of her and why she
is still with us by the grace of God. Grandma is 92 years old and each
and every day I thank God she is still with us. Thank you again. Amy
Gallati"
"I like it but it is
signed Mom and Dad and my adult children have only a mom so I cannot
send it to them."
[Webmaster's note:
Click on the PLAY MOVIE option on the top and select the Single
Parents version]
July
26,
2007
"My parents sent me
this show, and I can't believe how hard I cried. It just made me
realize how much my parents really do love me. Thank you."
"To All the Fine
Folks that put this slide show together, THANK YOU for a wonderful,
heart touching and well made production. Any guilt felt comes only
from your heart. Look instead for compassion, patience and
understanding. I read some of the comments about this piece and I feel
that all the words written here tell the tale of how my wife and I
feel. We are in our late fifties and have forwarded it to our four
adult children so that they too will understand how we feel. THANK YOU
again for a thoughtful and well crafted piece. Joe Day and Jesse
Russell"
"Thank you for such
an inspiring slide show and music!! We have no children, our parents
are gone now, and we were caregivers to them as well. We are seniors
ourselves now.... so many emotions come tumbling out while watching.
.impossible to do without a box of tissues. It was awesome!! Suzanne"
July
25,
2007
"Thanks, it really is
great."
July
24,
2007
"A beautiful,
touching show. Many thanks to those who prepared it. Gerry B.
Belleville, Ontario, Canada"
"This is an
outstanding slideshow and my wife would love to take this to her work.
She’s an LVN at a nursing home. Thanks"
"What an absolutely
beautiful and inspirational piece of work that is!! For sure all five
of our children are getting a copy of it. And I am saving it too. It
is not often that anything on the net makes me dry, but this managed
to. Thank you so much... Sheila"
"God bless all who
put this very touching beautiful piece together. I now have it in my
favorites box and play it a lot. Even my cats (lol?) seem to relax
with hearing the music and song with me. Thanks again Josh and all
involved."
July
23,
2007
"This is so
beautiful.... yes, I cried and have shared Parents' Wish with
our three children. What deep thoughts! God bless you. Gloria
Holloway"
"This was so
wonderful to view and of course there is no finer a singer than Josh
Groban's voice to put with this. How true every part of this little
story was. Being raised by grandparents most of my life it seemed like
they were elderly as long as I knew them. But how very sad when it
seemed like them were gone before I really had my chance to take care
of them. Now I am sixty with a son being fourteen which puts me in the
same frame that I was in. So I try to make every day a good day for us
and we make sure to tell each other 'I love you' before the day
is over. We are raising him with some of the old fashion morals that I
was raised, always trying to help and respect the elderly for their
wisdom and learn from their knowledge on life. This just is such a
nice piece to share with everyone. Thank you for making it."
"I want to send this
to my children, but when I try to e mail it, it goes to the home page
and not the movie. What am I doing wrong?"
[Webmaster's note: We'd
rather that you forward the link to our home page rather than to the
actual movie itself so that the viewers will have a choice of the
server and version to play. Besides, our mirror sites might come and
go and so if you forward the actual link to the movie, it might not be
available in the future if that mirror site is no longer able to show
our slideshow.]
"I was so moved by
this video I sent it to the hospice facility that cared for my Dad. He
passed away two weeks ago and the message is so loud and clear. So
many times people forget that their aging parents are still people.
The impatience of nurses, doctors, children, merchants, etc. is
unforgivable. Going through this journey with my Dad has been
difficult but filled with many lessons. I trust as the boomers get
older, their adult children treat them with the respect and dignity
they deserve. Thank you for sharing this beautiful and inspiring
video. I feel honored to have had the opportunity to make the last
months of my Dad's life a little easier."
"OUTSTANDING! As a
long term care administrator I want all my staff to view this
presentation, and hope you are able to produce a copy of the
presentation on CD soon so it can be shared with more people. THANKS"
July
22,
2007
"What an awesome
message. I can't wait to send it to my children and friends. I cried.
I was so moved by it. I love Gosh Grobans songs and especially 'You
Raise me Up". Such a talented young man. Thank you for sharing
this beautiful site with us."
"My friend in the USA
sent this to me here in Scotland. How true the message is when you
have elderly parents, when it can be difficult at times to truly
understand. This has really struck a cord with me and is truly
inspirational. Thank you. C. Wilson, Scotland"
"Thank you for this
very real and authentic slide show. To touch the heart so well, makes
the soul of those less willing to see, to become aware of their
blindness.... for those who see this and beyond.... we are so grateful
for your inspiration... well said! well done. God Bless."
July
21,
2007
"I received this from
a friend and want to thank you. My mother also suffered from this
awful disease and now is with the lord. I love Josh's music and
especially the song You Raise Me Up. It has so much meaning to
it and the words really make me stop and think any more clips from
Josh would be very welcome. Thanks you."
July
20,
2007
"We are a growing,
non-profit senior outreach ministry. I just want to say it is
fantastic, very moving and such a powerful message for all. This
presentation really captures the essence of what we are trying to
share with our society."
July
19,
2007
"Thanks, I really
enjoy playing it."
"I received this
wonderful video from a very special lady who helps our elderly with
their life choices. My mom and when he was alive my dad lived with me
and my children for part of the year for almost 3 years. At times I
had her aide also living with me. When my mom took many falls in my
house, I had to make the very difficult decision to place her in a
private nursing home- t was very difficult for me, and I have carried
the guilt around for months! I know she is doing very well, is cared
for and appreciated by the staff. Watching the video gave me the
ability to let go and know I made the right decision. I also
appreciated hearing Josh Groban's music- how aprpos for the video. I
am attending his concert next weekend and know when I hear the song
how much it will mean to me!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart
for such a beautiful tribute. Sandi Smith, Clifton Park, NY"
"It is such a
beautiful message and very touching. I am thankful that the Lord gave
everyone involved in putting it together such wonderful talents to be
used."
"The message is
simple and yet, profound. My friend Josh Groban helps send the message
right to your heart."
July
18,
2007
"Josh Groban has
been a favorite and especially singing 'You Raise Me Up' ever
since he appeared on TV singing it. This particular song and the
printed words of the message should be required viewing by all
children of aging parents. Really too beautiful for words. Thank you."
"What an awesome
slideshow. I can so relate to that both as a parent and as a caretaker
of my elderly father with health problems. I currently am living with
my father while allowing my daughter and her family to live in my
house. I feel caring for dad is just payback for everything he has
done for me. God Bless all the parents and caretakers."
"It is a very
beautiful slideshow and I think even the most hard hearted person
would have a meltdown if they read this. Thank you with all my heart
for your efforts to share this beautiful slideshow with the world. I
will treasure it for sure."
"Thank you for
this beautiful and inspiring gift. My daughter who is eight years old
just 'flew' in from the living room to hear the song and
watched together with me and was so moved also. At the end, however
she walked away feeling saddened. You see, her dad chooses to live
alone. She cannot identify those things that the parent does for
the child, with her Dad. How do I console my daughter who is so sad
because yet again, she is reminded that other dad's do these things
mentioned in the song for their kids even though they may be living
apart but her dad, simply chooses not to? How will you fix things so
that other mothers like me will not have to shed an extra tear or two
after reading this? Regards, Laura"
[Webmaster's note: You
may wish to play the
single mother version of the slideshow for your daughter.]
"My husband and I
have both just recently lost our mothers, after years of caring for
them in their frailty. Our stamina was born directly of remembering
the years they spent caring for us when we were small and learning.
Your presentation brought 'out-loud' tears to both of us! Not
sad tears, necessarily, but tears of loving memories that will remain
with us throughout our lives."
"By the middle of
this presentation, I was sobbing. It is so very moving. I took care of
my dear mom the last year of her life, and this brought it all back to
me. I loved her soooo much, and it was a joy to care for her, feeling
even then that I was giving back to her what she had given me when I
was a child. Thank you for sharing this tribute with the world. Ali,
writing through the tears."
"What a beautiful way
to express the love, and the needs of us who are elderly, and want our
family and friends to know our feelings. Thank you."
"This was really
great. I loved the song that was playing, and the reading with the
photos were really touching.... It made me think of how I was raised
and how I raised my own kids... Thanks for sharing with me. I will
share it with all my email buddies."
"This was a
beautiful, incredible and amazing film clip! The music fit perfectly!
The sentiment is so true. The only drawback to this clip.......and it
has nothing to do with the clip itself.....is that I learned this
lesson too late. Thank you for allowing me to view this. I have to
thank the friend who sent it to me as well."
July
17,
2007
"Watching Parent's
Wish brought tears. I am 77 and caring for my mother, almost 96. I
need to remind myself of just what this tells. I am between the
generations. I can look at it from either direction. Thanks. Lucille
Gano"
"What a wonderful and
expressive slide presentation."
"It is beautiful and
so true if you are a Grandparent listening to this."
"This was one of the
most inspiring videos I have ever watched. You really made me stop and
think about my own actions with my mother. Thank you."
"I think this
presentation is to remind us all living in this world that we are
dependent on each other. The more we give to our children the more we
can expect from them. The senior citizens can recollect what they have
done for their parents and their children, and a reminder for younger
generation what lies in the future. Thank you for the beautiful
presentation and so true."
"It is beautiful and
I am grateful to my friend for sending it. There is so much 'Food
for Thought' in this powerful message. Thank You for jerking slack
in our lives and reminding us of how our parents helped us in similar
situations as we grew up and NOW they should 'Reap what they Sowed'
as they grow old. Even among our siblings we fail to be good listeners
and cut each other off with - 'You said that before' or 'I
KNOW'. The BIBLE calls a person who interrupts BEFORE they give
the other person time to finish what they were saying, a FOOL
(PROVERBS 18:13). Sad to say there are too many fools out there and we
fail to treat each other with the same dignity and respect we feel we
should have. My heart grieves for the one dissenter and the hate they
spewed out at this beautiful message. God help them. Peggy (CHINA)"
"It is a truly
wonderful piece."
July
16,
2007
"What can I say.
I cannot listen to Josh with out tears in my eyes. The day that this
song hit the airwaves was the day that my precious Aunt Ednah pass
from this earth. When I hear that I think of all the things that she
did for me and my wife. Murry Faraday"
"I just viewed this
and it is what I always wanted to tell my children, so instead you
made it much easier for me, I had just forwarded on to them. Thank
You"
"There was not a dry
eye in the office when I opened this email. I am a nurse who cares for
the elderly in their homes in order to help them avoid going into
nursing homes and living their final years in the comfort of their own
homes. I supervise about 70 in-home aides in the Baltimore area. The
work is at times difficult both physically and emotionally and the
monetary rewards are few. However, my aides do this kind of work
because they love their elderly clients and care about people. I have
several training classes for them throughout the year and am always on
the lookout for things such as this to show them. Thanks so much for
providing this for me to show in my classes. I would be happy to
receive anything more you have which will help encourage my aides to
continue to help the elderly and make their lives a little easier. God
bless you. Liz"
"I had to watch the
video a few times because I wasn't able to read it all through the
tears. It reminded me of my mother-in-law, whom I am very close to.
She is in Stage 6 Alzheimer's. Very sad but VERY BEAUTIFUL!!!"
"My dad sent this to
all his kids. Very touching reminder to treasure our parents and treat
them with respect and love."
"I have never
received a better E-Mail than this. It sure makes you think."
"This is one of the teariest, most beautiful things I've ever read. I only wish I'd had it
when my mother was alive as I'd have better cared about and for her.
In our overly fast-moving world of today, we tend to overlook and not
take time to properly understand what our children are going through
just as much as it being the other way around and this puts it all
into proper perspective on both sides. I've sent it on to our children
and can only hope they DO understand that it's sent out of love for
them, not a guilt trip which is far from my mind. May we all receive
better understanding of one another as we read and listen to this
piece so beautifully written and sung. What a powerful combination to
witness to!! Thank you from the heart. CJ of S.C."
"This is truly
inspiring and brought tears to my eyes. I have forward it to a family
member. We are presently experiencing the messages brought forth from
this. We are from a family of 11 children, (two deceased, 9 living).
We can certainly relate to what has been said. Dad is 91 and Mom 87
and have been married 70 years. I can't thank you enough for reminding
us of how special our elderly parents are and what they have
sacrificed for us all these years. God bless you for the work you do
and keep passing the messages on. Theresa Walters,"
"Thank you so much
for this Parent's Wish. It fit so good and the music was great too. I
have raised 4 children. They are grown now with families of their own.
3 of them live a long way off. I will send this to them. Thanks again.
Merry Lee Sikes"
"I am 64. Thank you
for creating something that might help our children understand us as
we age and see that their love, and spending time with us are the
greatest gifts."
"Very nicely done.
Thanks."
July
15,
2007
"Well I just watched
this program…and wow I was in tears half way through it. My dad has
Cancer and when he told me I went numb all over. Cancer is very hard
to live with because you never know when your loved one will die. This
slide show actually helped me understand some things and I sent it to
another friend who’s father is dying as well. Thank you for making
this, it really helps me when I think of my dad."
"Absolutely
marvelous."
"This was beautiful
and perfectly timed. In February 2007 I lost my father. In March 2007
I lost my father-in-law. I needed it. My Mom needed it. My Brother
needed it. My husband needed it. Thank you"
"That was a beautiful
wake up call. Sometimes we get so busy and are all too often wrapped
up in our own lives and children...but this is so important...to let
our aging parents know how much we love them and could not have made
it through our own lives without them.... because they both were the
very best friends you've ever had Joanne, Florida"
July
14,
2007
"Thank you for
creating such a beautiful piece. This is exactly what children need to
hear as their parents are getting older and nearing end of life. I am
so grateful to you for sharing this with the world."
"Beautiful. As a
senior citizen, I hope that a lot of adult children take a look at
this and remember what their parents did for them years ago.
Sincerely, Joseph H. Endinger"
July
13,
2007
"I was totally
touched and moved by this video presentation. It brought tears to my
eyes. The lyrics/music, wording and photos couldn't have been more
appropriate. After my screening it, I had to share it again with my
husband. He, too, was also filled with emotion. We needed to just hug
one another for support and strength from this true and accurate
showing. We see our parents three times a year. I wish it could be
more now. My Dad is in his mid 80's, has Parkinson's Disease. Mom is
10 years younger and doing great, she is so full of life. She keeps my
Dad 'young at heart'. I have to admit whenever our visits
end and its time to say our goodbyes, I can't help but hug him harder
and give him an extra kiss plus I get always teary eyed. Deep down
hoping wondering, will he be just as great at our next family
get-together. I cannot bring myself to think the worst, or the
inevitable eventually. Thank you so much for sharing this video
tribute with us (we are in our 50's) and in turn our children, too.
Terri"
"I cant imagine
someone when seeing this video you put together, not crying. Its so
touching and sad. I love my parents and I don't ever want them to die.
Your video reminds me of how precious they are to me and how much I
really love them. I promise to take care of my parents when they get
too old to take care of themselves. Thank you for making this video
and i wish you luck when making your next. Sincerely, Season Barclay ~
Montgomery, IL"
July
12,
2007
"Is it possible
to get a copy of the music sung on the slide show? It's a wonderful
song and would like to have a copy of the music that Josh Groban
sings."
[Webmaster's note: The
background music is called YOU RAISE ME UP. You can buy it from Josh
Groban's online store at:
http://www.joshgroban.com/store/ ]
"Almost 6 years ago I
lost my father to cancer. Shortly after that my mother was diagnosed
with what they said was M.S of her brain. It was a very hard time but
I knew God could help us through it if we just let him guide us.
Anyways when I watched this movie and it just touched my heart in a
way and made me understand that you need to give back what your
parents did for you when you were younger and not to let a day go by
without telling the ones you love that 'you love them'. This is
the best movie I have ever seen and I am so glad to know that I can
come here in the times I get frustrated and watch this because it help
me get over myself. Ashley Catron Longview, TX"
"What do I think
of that wonderful email with Josh Groban's song? (She said as she was
trying to see through her tears). I've forward it on to many many
friends. Just plain beautiful! Thank you so much. Virginia Sebbo"
"This was so great.
So true and so right on. Everyone will be there one day. It brought a
tear to my eyes. Thanks, Patricia Gibbens"
"This was such an
inspiring show. It was sent to me the day before I was taking my mom
to her doctor. She had been calling me every day for 4 days saying she
had not been sleeping and was is a lot of pain. She lives in Assisted
Living. This show put everything in perspective. Is there anyway to
get a printed copy so that I can show my mom and the other people
there, they don't have a PC. Thanks and thank you so much for putting
this out there, you are right, everyone should view it. Everyone that
I have shared it with have been so moved. Thanks again, what a
wonderful site. Pat Ziegler"
[Webmaster's note:
Click here to view and
print the wordings of the slideshow.]
"Thank you so much
for this wonderful presentation. I am taking care of my 93 year old
father and struggling."
"What a beautiful
video tribute of parent/child relationships. It made me think of my
father. In his last few months of life my father asked me to come and
help him. I was his only daughter. I traveled 1,700 miles leaving my
husband and daughter at home. I spent six wonderful weeks with him
before he passed away. I will never regret the last moments I spent
with him. The bonding we had during the last weeks of his life will be
forever lost in my memory. Thank you so much for sharing."
"I work in a nursing
home for the past 17 years. I'm very fond of my work and think
for the new cna's that start it would be an eye opener, to treat the
residents with more dignity and respect."
"This is a really
very touching video. I wish everyone will watch it and cry like what I
did and I am so super sure I will follow the video. I am a very
emotional person so when I watch a very sad video or movie then I will
cry all day long and I am still crying now!!!"
July
11,
2007
"I have been
touched by your in depth understanding of parents. Thank You."
"I am a nurse and my
grandmother was just placed in a home because of Alzheimer's. I was
moved and I cried a few tears. Thank you."
"Thank you for this
love story (parent and child.) I am so thankful that I was able to
move back home to be with my parents in the last days of their life on
this earth. If we opt to live and exercise christian love, there will
be no guilt connected with this beautiful video."
"I have an elderly
lady friend who would like to know who wrote this. She said she could
not have thought of any better words to say to her children."
"This is truly
beautiful. Also, it is very true. The adult children are so busy, they
don't stop to smell the roses anymore. Thank you for this email. Terry Lehmann"
"I just watched the
video. It was a tear jerker, but it is true. It makes me stop and
think since my mother and mother-in-law are in their 80's and have
health problems. Sometimes we get short with them, just like we did
with our children. The video is very true."
"This could not come
at a better time since my 90 year old father has been living with us
for 5 years. I will keep this to be read often to keep reminding me.
Thank you to my friend who sent it to me."
July
10,
2007
"I can find
absolutely no reason for anyone to say that this video could make them
have a guilt trip unless they have something to feel guilty about. I
tried all I could to help my parents and my children help us a lot. I
think it is a wonderful and very touching video. I have watched it
several times and cry everytime because it touches my heart. Keep up
the good work."
"A friend sent me the
music and e-mail about parents telling their children what to expect
when they grow old. I'm not sure what the real title is. It is so
beautiful and I wanted to print it, but can't. How can I get a printed
copy of just the words in the e-mail? Please let me know.
[Webmaster's reply: The
words of the Parents' Wish slideshow can be viewed and printed from
this link:
http://parentswish.com/faq-01.htm"
July
9,
2007
"This is the most
beautiful and moving video I have ever seen. I know this is a free
country and people have the right to say whatever they think, but I
cannot understand anyone not appreciating this no matter whether they
already take care of their parents or not. I lost mine many years ago
and only had the privilege of caring for them a little while. I
certainly did not send this to my children to make them have a guilt
trip but to remind them of the love I had and have for them and to
help them understand our need to be understood. Not that they don't
now, but we all need reminding. I cried all the way through it and
longed to have my own parents back. I would love to have this video to
keep and pass down. Thank you so very much. Frances"
"I am sad that one of
your viewers feels this is a guilt trip for our kids. I pray that 'he'
will see the beauty in this. I took care of my Mom and although I feel
I did a good job, I wish I would have had something like this to
gently remind me of a few things. I don't want my kids to have a guilt
trip but in today's fast paced world, I feel we all need a little
reminder from time to time. Because you care to take the time, gives
hope that there are still so many caring people in this world of ours!
Thank you again."
"That was great."
July
8,
2007
"I do not cry very
often, but as I read and heard the song, a lump formed in my throat
and all I could think was how fortunate my brother and I were to be
able to care for our Father in the manner that we did. Three and a
half years went by before the Lord called him home and we were there
for him day and night. Believe me I am not blowing our horn, but I am
proud of how we gave him the majority of the topics in your
presentation. I just wish that today's youth will see this e-mail and
really listen to it's suggestions. Thank you so much and my prayer
will be that our young generation will turn back to God before it is
too late for all parents. We are far from perfect, but because of our
Christian upbringing and God really being in our lives, we were able
to care and respect our parent for all they did for as when we
depended on them. Leo and Louis"
"May God continue to
bless you. This is truly a wonderful gift. This slideshow has come to
me at the right time. My daughter graduated five days ago from high
school and the theme song of your slideshow was her graduation song.
Now I’m inviting her to view this slideshow with me as my gift to her.
I will help to keep this in circulation so I’ll be sending it to all
my email buddies. Keep up the good work. I pray that I receive a
similar production from your archive. Thank you and you will always be
in my prayers. Angela"
July
7,
2007
"I read some of the
comments and agree with the one that all health care facilities and
Nursing homes should watch this. I work for an Independent Living
Facility and would love to use this video in my orientation of new
employees. Susan"
"This was sent to me
by my our mother. It was a very sweet email. I work with the elderly
and this is an inspiring email presentation. Sometimes the younger
generation does not have as much patience as is sometimes needed for
their older family members. It is an excellent message and really
makes me think. It brought tears to my eyes and understanding to my
heart. This was beautifully prepared. I want to share it with
everyone. Thank you, Shauna."
July
6,
2007
"This is fantastic
especially for an old fogy nears the end of life. It is very moving."
"Thank you, thank
you, and thank you! What a great gift you have given us. I wish I had
had this reminder 15 years ago, when I was younger and didn't
understand. I could have done more. And after reading the feedback I
would add one more slide: 'PS. If I was not there for you, please
forgive me for obviously, I did not understand... and I thank you.'
I'm sending this slideshow to all my family and friends, as it is such
a valuable life lesson. Again, thank you. Toronto, Canada."
"I'm 22 years old and
my mother passed away 3 months ago at 55 years old. This was/is my
dreams of her and she will always be in my heart. Just wanted to say
that this moved me in a way I didn't expect. I laughed!!! To all those
55+ good on you, hope your children get the chance more than once to
repay their hardworking parents."
"This is beautiful."
"It’s a beautiful
presentation. I am glad it touched so many lives. I guess we are in
real need of such eye-openers, as we tend to ignore the most obvious
things in our lives, especially our parents, as we take them for
granted, and they never spell out their needs or worries to us. And
yet, we need to make an effort to take care of them, emotionally, most
of all."
July
5,
2007
"Beautifully said! I
am sending to all 3 of my children. Thank you!"
"I know the truth in
this presentation/video. I am an MDS Coordinator, (an RN who conducts
and coordinates the assessments for our elders in a long term care
setting). The fact is we never stop loving and needing love. What's
important is to show it and to mean it in the million little ways of
life. Rebecca Meyer, RN, RAC-C"
"Wow, have a tissue
handy. This is awesome and it went to my whole address book but to my
kids first. Thank you so much."
"So it would appear
that parents last wish is to not leave us without one more good and
final guilt trip that we can take with us to our final day. Not
forgetting to wrap it all up with a mixed message of, 'We love you
child' and, 'We always wanted to pave the way for you.'.
Well that pavement is riddled with potholes. I would hope that any
good child would be able to care for their parents without being told
to, or without being given a guilt trip. To think that this would be
necessary for someone to consider their parents when they are in need
is terribly sad to me. I would hope that the parent would know there
child would do anything they could for them when in need, without a
big tear jerking song, and photo slide show. If your child needs to be
reminded to care for you in such a way I'd question your relationship,
and I'd start working on an alternative plan for your elderly care,
immediately. I for one hope my parents know I don't need a cathartic
enema to act as they have already taught me to. In return I hope they
would not insult my intelligence, or morals with such selfishness. We
know you raised us, we know you love us, we remember, and the feeling
is mutual and unconditional. If your child doesn't feel this way. Then
believe me. Whatever happened between you all needs more that this
guilt ridden band-aid to heal the wound, and I'd get moving on
repairing your relationship. This provides nothing more than a passing
moment of artificial emotion fueled with guilt, and it angers and
saddens me."
July
4,
2007
"It is awesome!"
"A friend e-mailed
this to me because she knows my Mother is suffering from Alzheimer's.
It was so beautiful. You picked the right song for it to go to. When I
first started taking care of her I did not want to. I said 'Why me
Lord'! But then I remembered growing up all the things she did for
me. Even in adulthood my Mom has always been there for me. So now it
is my time to give back to her what she gave me. I have been taking
care of her for 6 months now and have enjoyed every minute of it. We
laugh together all the time. I thank God every day for giving me this
time with her."
"I am 65 yrs old!
Just can't imagine how God brought me through these long and many a
times, struggling moments of shame, anguish and pain. It is just His
sheer grace that I stand today to give Him glory and praise and
thanksgiving which are due to Jesus alone. When I saw the slide show I
could not hold back my tears. God bless you richly. I'm sure many
younger sons and daughters will be touched to witness this touching
piece. Christy (India)"
July
3,
2007
"I am a caregiver in
an Alzheimer’s assisted living home and my Mother has Alzheimer’s. I
am sharing this with our family support group to let them see the
beauty of this presentation, and the importance of the message. Thank
you so much, Patty"
"I had received this
from a friend of mine and sent it off to others. In 2000 - 2001, we
lost both my in-laws and my father and in 2005 I lost my mother. I
wish that I had seen this prior to their passing because now I
understand. This should be sent to anyone who has children. It is
touching, emotional, heartfelt and filled with love. It touched my
heart in a way that nothing else could. Everyone needs to know about
this. I believe that it will help the young understand the elderly.
The music that went with this is beautiful and helps to create the
sentiment that is expressed."
"Thank you for this very
nice but sad email."
July
2,
2007
"I am a graduate
student and I am doing a social work internship at an Alzheimer's
special care unit. I see depicted everyday what this video is about.
The video was so moving and such a tearjerker; yet so true. The music
went with the video so well. I am impressed; it was a very impressive
power point. I want to thank Patricia for sending it to me. It is so
beautiful; very moving and I have been and continue to be blessed by
this video. Thanks again, Sandra, Mississippi"
"Beautiful, thanks..
put tears in my eyes, and I'm only a very young, youthful, healthy,
golf playing, still tennis-ing 70. But I sent it to my three children,
grown with children of their own.. as food for thought. You are
wonderful to take the time to make us sit back and take check of our
lives.. and so the circle continues. Bobbi, Pepper Pike, Ohio /Boynton
Beach, Florida. I have sent it on to many of my friends."
"It is very well
done, and is certainly appropriate to send along to other seniors, as
I have just done. HOWEVER - - - I am 83 years old, and there is no way
I would send it to my children, grandchildren or great granddaughter.
There is a serious risk of sending them all on guilt-trips! Hugh
Hardy"
"I would also like to
add something, and that is if at some time, you must help to put your
parents in a nursing or assisted living facility, once there do not
forget them. I took care of my mother and stepfather, my father and
stepmother until they died. Even after I could no longer care for them
in my home, I picked the best of care facilities and then visited them
so often along with our children and grand children visiting them. I
have 4 sons and they all say that mom and dad took care of us, then 4
sons can take care of two parents. Thank you for the beautiful video,
I will pass it along to my sons."
"I am 11 years old
and I just got this e-mail from my mom and I cried so much. That when
my mom gets home I will hug her for a very long time. I will wait for
my dad. He works on a ship and I pray everyday that something won't
happen to him."
"This slide show
touches my heart each and every time that I view it, and listen to the
music. You have done a beautiful job."
July
1,
2007
"This is priceless
and very close to home. Thank you Ellen S."
"That was beautiful
thank you."
"I just wanted to say
that the e-mail with the music was great! It touched me. My mom is
starting to lose her memory and my dad now walks with a cane every
day. Thank you for touching many people's heart. Beth"
"Thank you for
putting this together, it really touched my heart with tears. This was
forwarded to me awhile ago from someone that I have forgotten but I
have saved it so that I can revisit it at times. I am speechless
everytime that I see/read/listen to it and decided to send you a big
thank you anyway."
"BEAUTIFUL. I
definitely want this on CD. I have 5 aging parents right now - my Mom
and Dad who divorced when I was 18; my Dad's new wife; plus my wife's
Mom and Dad. Thanks."
"Both of my parents
have passed away in the past three years. I sat next to the bed when
my father couldn't raise his head to drink or eat by himself, finally
just giving him ice chips when he couldn't do anymore than that. I
received the slide show on my nephew's 1st birthday who is named after
my father. When I opened it, I thought about how proud they would have
been to see their grandson's first birthday and be involved with the
party. I sat at the screen and cried because they aren't here with us
physically any longer and I can't sit and listen to them 'ramble'
if they did get confused. The presentation was a very touching tribute
to the love that a parent has for a child. It was wonderful!"
June 30,
2007
"I was just sent this
by my sister after a trip home to see my 89 1/2 year old Mother who
can no longer do things for herself. This really touched my heart and
made me feel so good when I was able to help her eat, push her
wheelchair, and just let her visit with her 87 year old sister and to
just listen to her talk. THANK YOU so much for this! Linda"
"I cried after the
first few words. My mom passed away on May 8, 2007 and I miss her so
much. Daddy died on December 15, 1996 and I know they are with God and
together again. Thank you. Peggy F."
"This was absolutely
beautiful. Although both of our parents are no longer with us I have
many friends who will appreciate receiving this."
"I have to say thank
you for reminding me that old people are truly a blessing and we need
to really learn from their experience. I care for an elderly lady with
Alzheimer's and it can be frustrating at times. Thanks for the
reminder that her life is not over and it is my job to help her find
her way home. It is my vision to assist this lady with compassion and
to smoothly help guide her into Heaven when our Father see's that the
time is right. I was becoming somewhat discouraged when I received
this email. It reminded me of my vision once again. I have learned so
much from this lady...and I am thankful. The video was and is
extraordinary. Thank you. Kim"
June 29,
2007
"What
a lovely message that we could send to our children. Thank you, thank
you! My lovely friend from church knew that I would enjoy this and
sent it on to my children too! Jo Ann Wise"
"This truly is
inspirational. Every health care workers in the world whether they are
workers in a nursing home and/or long term care facility and/or
hospital should see this presentation. Saskatchewan, June 29, 2007"
"WOW How beautiful
this is!!! I am still teary!!!! How can I get a copy of this to save
forever??? THANK you for this!!"
"The video is
glorious! Thanks very much for sharing it with us. It is an eye opener
for everyone to look back to their dealings and relationship to their
parents. Its something people should be reminded of... to take care of
our parents when they grow old because that's the time they needed us
most. Also, to provide awareness to people that parents have given
their lives for us in many ways we don't usually count.
Congratulations for a very good deed. once again, thank you very
much."
"Wow!"
June 28,
2007
"What
a beautiful email. Thank You sooooo much for creating it. I came from
a very, very abusive home. (FATHER) I have two wonderful children,
four wonderful grandbabies, because I turned my life around. This
email could have been written by me. I (we) worship our two kids, I
(we) worship our grandbabies. The love we have for our kids and
grandbabies is given back two fold. Our kids and grandkids know how
much we love them, and believe me we are given back twenty times the
love. Thank you. A. & H. Ontario, Canada"
"A beautiful and
insightful presentation of aging parents and the love for their
children and the fear of aging. I cried most of the way through the
presentation, tears of joy of having a grown daughter (my best friend)
and tears of sadness for the day our relationship ends due to my
aging. I want to always be able to do for my daughter and not the
other way around. ~Lisa in TN"
"Just great and so
beautiful and true. I am 78 and hoping to go the road a bit longer.
Thank you and good life to all."
"It's GREAT!!"
"My mother went home
to be with the Lord on December 21st. This letter is so her. She was
so loving and caring to me and my feelings for her were so described
in this letter. She was lucky in the assisted living facility that she
was in treated her like family. This is so beautiful. Thank you."
"Absolutely incredible.
Thank you for this beautiful piece of work."
"Wonderful! Thank you so
very much for sharing."
June 27,
2007
"I
truly loved this. I am an only child who lives and takes care of my
mother. She is a joy and an inspiration to me. I am a divorced 57 year
old woman with two grown sons and neither of them can comprehend why I
love spending each and every day doing for her. She is 76 and in poor
health. I know the day will come when she is no longer with me so I
want to have her enjoy the time she has left. She is the love of my
life and I could never do enough to make up for all she did for me as
a child. She took good care of me when I was a baby. She taught me to
walk and to talk and gave me values. Now it is my turn to take the
same care back to her. This piece said so much to me. Thank you from
the bottom of my heart. Susan Knight, Rockwall, Texas"
"Excellent!! Very
well done... Ron"
"Just wanted to say
THANK YOU.."
"This is so beautiful
and inspiring. I want to thank you for taking the time to put it
together. My parents are both in their late eighties and this was so
moving for me. Thank you, again. Ileana"
"The video is very
touching."
"This made me think
about my parents who unfortunately did not live to this age, but it
does take me back in thought to my beloved grandparents. Gee, how
badly I miss them all so if you are reading this and have viewed this
wonderful website, cherish each remaining moment with them."
"It is
great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank You."
"Thank you! Such an
important message to share! Thank you!"
"The CD is very
powerful… not just for those who are repaying the kind care they
received as a child… but for those adult children who never had that
kind care and want to stop the cycle of family neglect."
"So touching and
beautiful - much needed encouragement for those of us dealing with
aging parents - and there are many of us out there. A loving and
gentle reminder for us at times of frustration. I cried through the
whole thing. Music appropriate! Great job! Thank you so much!"
June 26,
2007
"A
friend send this on to me - I have just recently lost my Father to a
long courageous battle with cancer. The cancer progressed slowly, but
at the end was unbearably quick. My Mother-in-law has Alzheimer's and
we not only have lost her once, but will again. This video brought me
to tears, tears that have been held in and needed to escape - and I
feel I can go on---JM"
"I work within a
nursing home and if only the world could only see the elderly and how
tired their bodies and minds are and to watch them to struggle to do
the simple things in life, they too would want what Parents' Wish" so
gracefully with dignity describes."
"A very good and
lifelong friend sent me this presentation. Without going into details
it could not have come at a better time. It so happens that I believe
in angels. I met my first one in Korea in 1952, since then I have met
two more. We all have them. I know that my dear friends' angel told
him to send the program to me. There is no other way he would have
known how much I needed it now. Thank you for posting it."
"Just received your
slideshow from a friend. It is the most beautiful show I have ever
seen. I lost My Mom within 6 years. I cried for her and for me in
future. Thank you for bringing such a beautiful experience to families
and the world. All Safadi's family - Syria"
"Beautiful and
touching. The front of my shirt is wet with tears. I lost both of my
parents in the last few years and although I was there for them I feel
I could have done more, but like a lot of the baby boomer generation I
was spoiled and more than a little self-centered. I'll voice an age
old sentiment, 'if only I could be given another chance.' I
have 4 children and I will forward to all. Thank you and the music was
awesome. I love Josh Groban. Sandra of WV."
"I am 48 years old
and this site is really great. I sent it to my daughter and hope it
shows her my love for her. She is 21 with a son of her own. Kudos to
you. Thanks."
June 25,
2007
"This
is the most beautiful slideshow I ever seen. I cry every time I watch
it. It teaches you that a Parent's Wish is for you to love, honor,
respect and to not take them for granted. Never forget the famous
saying..... Once a man twice a child."
"It is the best video
I've ever seen, especially when you're 85. I received it a few years
back and all parents should send a copy to their children so they can
understand how we feel when we get old and assure them we will be
alright. Thank you for a wonderful slide show plus Josh Groban is the
perfect song for it. I can't stop watching it. Much success."
"I watched Parents'
Wish and was very disappointed. It is not about parents but a father.
The mother is the one who does everything for the child and yet
pictures show a man throughout. Most father's are not around."
"Parents' Wish is
beautiful!! This slideshow says so much in dealing with the elderly
and the way people are reverted back to being children, children of
their children. Love Josh Groban, you couldn't have gotten a more
beautiful voice to sing this song for you. Thank you!!!"
"What a great video!
Thank you! It's a good reminder to everyone what we need to remember
as our parents and others of their generation grow older. Yes, we too
may be there in the some situation one day! We need to show them
respect and honor! Too many forget or don't care about the older
generation! Some of the pictures reminded me of my maternal
grandfather to whom I was very close! He went home to Heaven in 1999.
I was also very close to my maternal grandma and she struggled in the
last few years of her life with various health issues; so I know and
can understand what happens in aging! I'm ashamed to say it, but yes,
sometimes I would get annoyed when she wanted something, because I
didn't want to take the time to do it or I had something else going
on. I think part of it was denial that she was getting older and
wouldn't be on Earth forever! Both my maternal grandparents were in
their mid 70's when they went to Heaven. Dawn Cook"
"Living as the only
caretaker of my elderly mother times come when things seem
overwhelming and so very frustrating. This reminded me to be
understanding and loving even at the most difficult moments. This is
something every child who is a caretaker of a parent should definitely
see. Thank you so very much."
June 24,
2007
"How
many people can you email to at one time? You use ";" and not just a
comma!"
[Webmaster's note: It
will depend on your email program. If you are using Outlook and
Yahoo Mail, you should separate the email recipients' address with a
semi-colon (;). Other email program will require a comma instead of a
semi-colon."
"I am 80 and my
sister is 85 and we are both repeating ourselves, walk with canes,
etc., though we and our families keep our sense of humor. This is so
beautiful, I want to own this. I'm so glad you changed it to Parents'
Wish but the pictures you have and the song puts it all together
beautifully! Thank you and the person who forwarded it to me!
Virginia"
"How dare you make me
cry…. I’m a macho man! Seriously, thanks so much for this wonderful
tribute. It is important right now in my wife’s family (my
mother-in-law) and I’m sure will be applicable to my wife and I in the
coming years."
"OMG that was
absolutely tear jerking. I think there are so many people out there
who can relate. I wish there was a way to put this on paper and save
it. Thank you."
"This was so
BEAUTIFUL! This song touches my heart, and brings tears to my eyes in
so many ways. Looking at the pictures, reading it all, has brought
tears to my eyes. How so very true.... our parents had patience with
us, now it is our turn to have patience with them as they grow older.
I am so thankful to have wonderful, caring supportive, loving parents,
and to have them here with me is even more special ! A circle of life
: )"
"I love Josh Groban.
Every time he sings this song I get goose bumps. Chris"
June 23,
2007
"I
have lost my mother 2 years ago and now my father is sick and has
Alzheimer's. I could not express how much this means to me and how I,
in fact, do this everyday. But this reminds why I do it. I hope many
will read this and truly understand how much dignity is required of us
for our parents and ALL elderly people."
"Its so true and
beautiful."
"When a friend of
mine sent me this slideshow I was crying so hard remembering how
wonderful it was to be a Mom and to bring up my son Brian to be the
great man he is today. We are now empty nesters, with no grandchildren
so this is especially poignant for us. I have forwarded this slideshow
on to our son and I have asked him to never delete this; to remember
that he has parents who love him and want him to be in their lives. He
lives in a different state so we do not get to see him often, so I'm
hoping by sending him this slideshow it will remind him of how
important family really is. Maybe this will be the miracle I have been
looking for to get our son, Brian Doering, into our lives again. God
bless you and do everything you can to keep this slideshow going.
Sincerely, Jennifer J. Doering"
"This was a wonderful
gift this morning!!! I am a social worker in 2 nursing homes. I have
been associated with many others in my work as a hospice social
worker. The lack of sensitivity and understanding from children is
more common than many people think. It is typical of nursing homes who
must try to make up for it. I am preparing a 'Sensitivity'
in-service currently and this reading says it all. It is like saying 'Don't
make me do something I don't want unless you walk a mile in my shoes
and know and understand my feelings'. As a social worker in a
nursing home, many residents come to me to express these feelings. I
even help them plan their funeral services (music, scripture, etc) and
even help them write their obituaries for their approval because their
families think it is morbid and don't want to think about it. It is
truly a gift to me when we have completed it and they look at me with
tears in their eyes and say 'Thank you! Now I feel I am ready to go
home'. I have even had the privilege of singing and playing the
organ for many of these people. Thank you again for an uplifting
morning. Diane Schroeder of Shiner, Texas"
"Thank You for making
this beautiful presentation of Parents' Wish. I cried through every
minute of it."
June 22,
2007
"As
my Daddy and Momma were dying from Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, I
thought that I knew all there was to know about dying, since I had
worked in a Alzheimer's unit at a local Care Center. I knew nothing,
until I saw the pleading in their most beloved eyes. I knew nothing,
when their voices had been stilled. I knew nothing, when their arms
could no longer hug. I knew nothing, when their bent over bodies tried
to walk with faltering steps. I knew nothing, until they were gone and
I dreamt of them running through the fields, holding hands and
shouting for joy that they were FREE!"
"That was a really
moving movie !!!"
"This is one of the
most touching e-mails I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing it with
those of us who are in the sunset of our lives. Doris B. Jones"
"I was never so
touched by your video and music, what a wonderful message, I am an
adult child of parents who have been dealing with the illness of
depression of my Mother who is 71 yrs old now. It has been a very long
journey for my Brother and I, when we were at our breaking point, I
was so glad a friend of mine sent this email to me, I was able to
really see the difficulty my parents are going through as I watched
this video over and over. I have sent this on to all of my friends and
relatives in my email address box. Thank you for creating such a
touching and important video. God Bless you and thank you and to all
who were involved in this presentation."
"Thank you so much. I
cried when I read this and the music is beautiful it makes you realize
that sometime we will all need some one. I took care of my father a
lot and it brought back memories. May God Bless you! Mary"
June 21,
2007
"I am one of 9
children. Our father passed away 37 years ago. Our mother just passed
away January 8th of this year. She was 94 years old. Me and my
siblings took turns caring for mom in her home 24/7 from November,
2002 until she went into a nursing home February 11, 2006. It was such
a rewarding feeling when she passed that we did everything we could to
help mom in her later years when she needed us most. We always kept in
mind that she gave up a good part of her life when she was young to
take care of us. After dad died, she cleaned houses, ironed and
pinched every penny she made to make ends meet. We hated to lose her
but we feel so proud that we did all that we could do to help her.
This video and words to this song are so moving. Patience is the
number 1 everyone needs when caring for an elderly person....just like
caring for a baby. But never make your loved one feel like they are a
burden anymore than you would make a child feel like they are a
burden. The similarities between children and the elderly are amazing.
And always remember, if you live long enough, this will be you some
day. Thank you so much for a wonderful audio/video presentation. Di"
"It was wonderful!"
"This is by far the
most wonderful thing I have ever read. With my husband so sick now, I
sent it to my sons along with plenty of tears. My husband and I could
have never put our feelings into such a beautiful way. I thank you
from the bottom of my heart for this site. May God bless you."
"I just wanted you to
know how this riveting video moved me. I am a Meals On Wheels
volunteer, and due to the need I saw in the elderly, I recently formed
a company to aid seniors in relocating, called Seniority Solutions,
LLC. Like I’m sure most do, I sobbed throughout watching it, and then
played it over and over and sobbed some more. I sent this video out to
others and simply stated below the link, that, 'This explains why I
volunteer for Meals On Wheels.' I also donate 10% of all profits
to Meals On Wheels, so that the elderly and those in need are provided
with a nutritious, hot meal each day. Thank you for working so hard to
see that this endearing and poignant video is out there for all of us
to see. You did a great service to the vast number of people who use
the internet, and with this message gave them a warm, memorable
feeling for the rest of their day. I praise you for your efforts. We
need to help those in need. And you did your part. I wanted to
personally thank you."
"My mom is struggling
right now trying to be supportive of her mom who has serious dementia.
There are days that she doesn't recognize any one and it is very hard
on my mom. I forwarded your URL to her as encouragement and to promote
understanding in my mom's situation. Thank you! Joe Mennel, Indy"
"Absolutely touching
piece of work."
June 20,
2007
"Thank You, for this
beautiful message. It brought tears to my eyes. I want to live a long
life, with my husband and daughters, but only if I'm able to care for
myself. This may sound selfish and partly may be, but I never want my
children to live their lives, with their parents as children. Life is
so short and too beautiful."
"WOW!"
"This song was
playing when my husband, who had been dying of cancer for two months,
passed away. My son sent him a CD that his wife AND family had put
together and You Raise Me Up was the lead song. My daughter
tells the story that for months after 'Bud' died, heard this
song on the radio at different times during the day just when she was
needing a lift. Today I had to put my dog in the hospital for
treatment and I was feeling really down when I received this email. I
sobbed so hard and long that my cat got nervous. I really needed
that...THANKS."
"I am 71 and i sure
appreciate this and it's the truth. Chet"
"I am a 43 old man
and that was the most touching video I have seen in a long time. To
all that see this, remember what has been done for us in truly the
name of love. Thank you to the producer of this. Gary, St. Louis, MO"
"This was beautiful.
Thank you for publishing it. Hallie"
June 19,
2007
"Thank you so much
for a beautiful slide show. Lovely...and very touching."
"This brought tears
to my eyes. My Dad surmounted tremendous hurdles in his life. He was
supporting his family in rural Ireland at the age of twelve and as his
only child, he just took for granted that I could too, and he gave me
the confidence. It was just a natural thing to do and that I could do
anything I set my mind to. Mom, however, was afraid of her own shadow
when dealing with life in a big city and I was there for them in their
final years, and was so very thankful of the chance to be there. Dad
gave me the confidence, Mom taught me how to care for the more
vulnerable. Lovely send, Linda in Montreal"
"Thank you for a
powerful video."
"WOW! This is the
most powerful, inspiring, heart wrenching, tearful presentation on us
the older generation I have ever seen. Then to put Josh’s music with
it makes the tears flow, the heart to expand and the memories flood
back. Thank-you for seeing us with sensitive eyes and heart. It should
be played on every TV. channel around so those who don’t have access
or can’t see a small screen on the computer can enjoy this. Bless you
and keep up the good work, God will bless you for this. Thanks again.
Pat Gooden"
"Thank you so very
much for this is very beautiful. Bev. Wisconsin"
"I tried to forward
this to my children and it opened up Outlook express. I am not
configured to use this, I use Yahoo. How do I do this?"
[Webmaster's reply: If
the email link of your browser is not configured to use your email
program, go to your email program and just forward the slideshow to
your friends by mentioning our website address: http://www.parentswish.com.]
"Awesome! How true!
God Bless you for putting this together! Pam N Kernersville, NC"
June 18,
2007
"It was beautiful. I
cry all through it. It touch home."
"Fantastic, extremely
well done."
"Thank you for
bringing my Dad's need for me in his life to the forefront. Dad is in
a nursing home where my presence has been diminished, shamed, and
ridiculed by the staff to the point that my anger has caused me to be
fearful of visiting. I realize that my support and presence is the
last gift I can give my Father. Thanks for giving me renewed courage
in this difficult time to stand by him, against immeasurable odds. I
have sent this to the staff in hopes that they can see the harm they
have created in attempting to separate a daughter's love from her
Father. Jeanette Anderson, Phoenix, Arizona"
"Thank you so much
for this beautiful slide show. My father just died on 6-1-07 at the
age of 87. He was in a VA nursing home with Alzheimer's. I cried the
whole time I watched the video. It was very moving and it really did
touch me in a very positive way. Thank you for this beautiful way to
honor my Dad. Shirley Bobe, Fombell, PA"
"I want to thank-you
for this poem. My Dad died on June 6 and my Mom died June 17. I had a
class and we watched this emotional scene unfolding and I thought-'Oh
my, someone made this for my family!!' I had made a poster of this
with pictures illustrating all of our memories-this was in April. I
never knew that I would have to face their deaths so soon. I hope that
I can read this at my Mom's funeral service this Wednesday. This was
really a Blessing to me."
"How beautiful – my
cousin in Canada sent this to me, here in Australia, and it made me
cry for the loss of my Mum but also to appreciate my Dad who is still
living in the UK. Thank you so much. Jenny Blinkhorn"
June 17,
2007
"This would be an
excellent presentation for my high school students who are learning to
be nurse aides."
"God bless you all
who put this together! This says it all what I have been trying to
explain to my sisters and all my patients families and friends that I
come into contact with. If our society just for this small moment
listened and read this small slide show how many hearts would change?
How many children would stop and thank their parents and grandparents
for all their devotion and encouragement they gave to them when they
where growing up and needed it. God bless America for freedom of
speech for this and may it make it all around this country one hundred
times over. One out of three siblings how cherishes parents as much as
life itself.
"I thought this was
so beautifully written and was ready to send it to my children until I
read the last words- 'Mom and Dad'. If would not be appropriate
for me to sign it this way and would not be for many others, for
various reasons. Please let me know your thoughts. If it were not for
that, I would send it in a heartbeat. Thank you. Sandra Trammell
[Webmaster's note: We
do have a Single Parent version. Please click on the PLAY MOVIE button
above]"
June 16,
2007
"This is completely
lovely! Very moving!"
"I cared for a dear
elderly Aunt Kay who died in a nursing home and am currently caring
for her sister in the same nursing home. My Aunt Kay was the most
generous, kind, loving person I have known in my life, and at the end
of hers there was much suffering and confusion as she had dementia and
was so confused at times. Unfortunately there was also much family
drama going on and many hurt feelings over what should and shouldn’t
be done. When she was confused about who she was or where her family
was I had a letter that was in a frame over her desk and her bed that
explained who she was, where she was, where her siblings and parents
were, and that she was suffering from an illness that clouded her
thinking, I did it for her and for the aides and nurses so they could
help her when she needed it. I stayed with her till the end and held
her in my arms, I thanked her for the love she had given me and the
strength she had shown, it didn’t matter if she could hear me or not I
knew somehow what I was saying mattered. Experiencing what I have for
many years now in the nursing home has been extremely trying, I go
daily to check on my other Aunt, taking her treats, visiting and
letting her know I care and I’m there for her. I am forwarding this to
the administrator of the nursing home and hope that they will pass it
along to others…thank you and may each of us in our time of need have
the dignity to die with love all around us. Thank you, Donna"
"I am 71 and my
husband is 74. Our son, only child, asked us to move near where he
lives so that he could be available 'just in case'. It was not
an easy move (1,000 miles from our last home of 29 years) because we
had lots of friends and activities. However, we know that we did this
for a good reason. This video brought me several emotions. My own
parents died when I was 22 and 25 years old. I never got to help take
care of them, they died quickly. But I remember the love that I was
raised with. They would do anything for their children. I hope my
child remembers me with the same love that I was given. Thank you for
a wonderful reminder that family is so important."
"Your slideshow was
very touching. Thank you. Sandra"
"I lost my mother
some 30 years ago to cancer. As a 17 year old it all went by in a
blur. My beloved father passed away seven years ago. He had
Parkinson's disease, suffered mini strokes and had probably stomach
cancer. Watching his life force slowly ebb is something I will never
forget. I swore after mums death that I would make it better for dad.
I hope I did. I hope I was a good and loving daughter and was able to
be all the things to him that this presentation encourages. I miss him
every day. I have sent this to my children.. at only 46, I hopefully
have many years to go. But I hope it reminds them of their beloved
grandfather and that the lesson stays with them forever. Thank you."
"It is the most
touching presentation I have ever seen. It not only brings tears to
your eyes while seeing it, but has a lasting effect for days and days.
It makes us regret for not having done more for our parents (no matter
how much we did). As parents, it creates a little fear about our old
age and makes us wish for our children to continue loving us till our
end, because for us our children mean everything."
June 15,
2007
"This is such a
beautiful arrangement."
"That is the most
beautiful email I have every read. Billie Tuttle"
June 14,
2007
"I thought that was
beautiful it made think of my parents and children and that I am very
grateful to have the parents and children that I have."
"Thank you for
graciously sharing this presentation. It was moving and powerful. My
grandmother is ageing, and our family has been dealing with some tough
issues lately. This presentation was a blessing from God as a reminder
of how precious she is and to continually cherish her."
"I speak to many
groups about Alzheimer's and I am a Caregiver for my husband who has
this terrible disease. I would really love to be able to show this CD
- I know it will be so effective in helping us with our challenge of
educating our community to be more caring for our citizens with
Alzheimer's and Dementia."
"I really like this
and have sent it to all my friends. My mom is 88 years old on June 27.
I know she will love this. THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!"
"My oldest and
dearest friend just e-mailed me your message and I had to
comment....it was a 'nice thought' --- but the comparisons as
to what we did for our children and that this is what they SHOULD do
for us is just not right in my opinion. Our children did not ask to be
born, and whether they were wanted or a surprise for us as parents, we
OWED it to them to do everything for them. They do not owe us as
parents, but if we raised them right, they will want to care for us."
"You got me!!!! What
more can I say? BEAUTIFUL! -Vickie"
June 13,
2007
"This is very
beautiful and yes, it does bring tears to my eyes. I sent it to all my
children and my friends. Thanks."
"What An awesome tape
or movies what every you want to call it. Every parent should sent
this to there children or grand children. Wow"
"This is one of the
most poignant productions I have ever seen!!!!!!!!! In a time when us
baby boomers have become the parents to our parents, it behooves us to
remember, remember, remember..."
June 12,
2007
"This is lovely so
thank you very much for persisting and making it available to us in
Cyberland. I have had the privilege of taking care of my elderly
mother with Alzheimer disease, and fully appreciate the impact of this
inspirational message. May God bless you for developing this poignant
message. Dorrie Santorelli"
"How touching. It
made tears come to my eyes because it was so true. I am 77 years old
and my husband is 83 years old. We are healthy now but the years ahead
are out there waiting for us to become what your pictures showed. It
is what every child should see and understand. Thank you so much for
giving us this and the music was so inspiring. I love JOSH GROBAN AS
WELL. THANK YOU AGAIN."
"Powerful, beautiful
and very moving. Thank you and may God bless you."
June 11,
2007
"This has sent me
into an emotional tailspin. I absolutely adore my parents and I don't
want to see the day come when they are ailing and can not take care of
themselves, but i can assure them, I will be there for them when it
does come. Life does a complete 360 on you when you become old and you
need the love, the comfort and the patience of your family because
nobody will take care of you like them. so hats off to whomever wrote
that piece and put it together with the music, it was beautiful."
"So poignant and so
true. Sometimes amidst the chaos of caretaking we lose perspective and
need a little reminder. Thank you"
"I was touched by
your presentation and will now share it with my family. Thanks for
your hard work and excellent presentation. Leonard"
"Outstanding! Not
only am I getting older but, my own mother is up in years. So many of
the thoughts in the video made me stop and think of all she has done
for me and my siblings. God Bless You for your great work of art.
Carol"
June 10,
2007
"This is the most
beautiful thing I have ever read or heard on the internet. We need to
have more compassion for one another and especially for the elderly.
Thanks, for such an outstanding job."
June 9,
2007
"WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Very true!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!! This
will help a lot of us to remember our parents when indeed we did this
for them. Thanks again and keep it going!!!!!!!!!!!"
"Do you get sick of
the stupid and ridiculous questions that people ask? Do you wish that
they would all just get a life? Congratulations a great presentation.
Why can't people just enjoy things for what they are!!!"
June 8,
2007
"The presentation is
totally awesome!"
"This is one of the
most powerful and touching presentations that I have seen in so long.
With the baby boomer generation aging and so many people going into a
stage of elderly care, it will be more and more important over the
next decade. It would be awesome to see more people of color in this
presentation, as all people in America are gaining and need a helping
hand. Blessings."
"THANK YOU for your
efforts to make this widely available!"
"I have received a
lot of emails, but this is the most inspiring and feelings and I thank
my friend for sending it to me so my e-mail addresses receive it and
they will pass it on. I will watch this every day because between the
sayings and song what can beat that. May God Bless each one of you"
"While your site is
admittedly very touching, the problem I have with it is the matter of
choice; we chose to have them, while the reverse is, by definition,
not true. We can hope for their understanding, love and care, when we
revert to childhood in our old age, but trying to make them feel as
though they owe it to us, for services rendered, is, in my mind,
patently unfair. We reap what we sow. If we raised our kids well,
they'll be around to take care of us; if not, it's the bed we made."
"Sorry. This lovely
display of, no doubt, SINCERE SENTIMENT looks to me like, once again,
a selfish plea by a self-centered generation (who stockpiled their own
elders into nursing homes without a second thought) that can now not
bear the thought of being cast aside by their own children. The sad
thing is, this ME-FIRST generation will continue to carry this selfish
mindset into retirement (with a majority!) in support of entitlements
that they never DREAMED of giving to anyone else, having spent their
working years squandering a good portion of their earnings amassing
material goods and services without consideration to their impact on
humanity, much less their own neighbor or grandchild. I am afraid it
makes me ashamed of being a baby-boomer. Susan Masephol"
June 7,
2007
"Thank you very much
for sharing. It was very touching since I lost my mother to cancer two
years ago. Keep up the good work. God bless. I am a mother of four.
Gladys Nieves"
"Thank you. It is
very inspirational."
"That was the most
touching email I have received in a long time - thank you to who ever
created it. I'm still crying - I was very close to my grandmother,
whom I lost almost 7 years ago. I am a new mommy now, my little one is
just a year old and I named her after my grandmother. Losing her was
by far the hardest thing I have survived, but it was time. She tried
to talk to me for close to 2 years, I just wasn't ready to let go. I
still miss her."
"This is so beautiful
and compelling."
"SIMPLE yet very
touching. Keep up the good works(",)"
June 6,
2007
"That was so
beautiful. I sent it to everyone I know on the web and my daughter's.
I wish you a good day. Keep up the good work... Barbara"
"I can't begin to
thank you enough for making this precious video. EVERYONE needs to see
this! A friend sent me this last night and I cried like a baby when I
first saw it. Then my husband watched it and he did the same. My dear
mother passed away over 7 years at 91, and I wish I had seen this
then. Even though I spent time with her and helped her, it truly
wasn't enough. As the years have passed I now know all she wanted was
time with me. Because I am adopted, I was the most precious gift from
God she and my Daddy had ever received. The love and life they gave me
would never have happened if it hadn't been for my birth mother who
gave me up to them.... knowing she couldn't give me the life she
wanted for me. I thank God for her every day. It was the greatest gift
she could have given me AND them. Today all we have left of our
parents is my mother-in-law. She's very precious to me and has loved
me like her own daughter ever since I came into their family. 2 years
ago she fell and broke her hip and 2 months later, fell again and
broke the femur in the same side. She's now living in an assisted
living and doing very well physically. But even she knows her memory
is going and it frustrates her so. Lately I've not been patient or
compassionate enough for her and when I received this email, it hit me
like a ton of bricks! I've seen how selfish I've been and I ask God to
forgive me for this. I'm also praying I will remember this for the
rest of her life. We have one son who was married last summer and he
and our daughter-in-law played this song by Josh Groban for the
parents' dance. Therefore, the music is as special to me as the
message! I plan on sending this to him when the time is right. Thank
you again for making this and I will keep this as a reminder for
myself AND our son!"
"This made me cry
like a baby as I realize this will soon be me. Such a lovely lovely
song to present it too. Thank you. from Sandra - Sydney - Australia"
"My Heart just felt
so over whelmed by this. From the time the video started I was already
crying. I’m 42 years old and by the GRACE of GOD we still have our
parents which I THANK GOD for every day. Both my parents lost there
parents and seeing what they went through was very devastating. I
think this should be shown to all young adults and teenagers who think
they have it so BAD. Peer pressure is nothing compared to getting old
and not having someone there (meaning your children). My Mother is 60
and my Dad is 64 and there is nothing in the world that I wouldn’t do
for them. And I know my siblings feel the same way. I’ve been married
going on 5 years and I’ve told my husband from the day he asked me to
marry him that he would never be 1st in my life, 1st GOD, then my
Mother and then him and you know… he was alright with that. I ask that
GOD truly BLESSES the Person or Person’s who made this video. The
power of it is just amazing."
June 5,
2007
"I cried wishing I
had more quality time with my Mom and Dad. I am now 64.. My husband 65
and my son does not realize how much we love him. He takes us for
granted... and cussing up a storm. But we love him so... lest he would
only listen. Oh well another day - another place - may we make peace.
Sharon Loken"
"I sit here with
tears in my eyes wishing that I would have had the chance to care for
my mother in this way. She died suddenly while still a strong vibrant
woman. I did get the opportunity to care for my dad while he was dying
of cancer. It was a taxing time, but I would not trade one single
moment for anything. To have the honor of giving back to the man who
loved me and took care of me and to show my own children how to care
for their parents is a gift beyond measure. This presentation is
lovely, and touched my heart…Thank you. K. O"
"It is just so
appropriate. Thank you."
"Much has been said
about growing old, both with humor and sincerity. Parents' Wish was
done in the 1st person, which made the message even more personal. I
love good music and the background selection has been a favorite. I'm
76 and have cared for six elderly people and feel privileged and
fortunate that I have been able. When my mother was my age, she felt
it important to move near one of her three children, and I always felt
honored that she chose us. Those 15 years were the best. Now this
wonderful video speaks for all of us, including me. Thank you to all
who made this possible. God bless you! DDF"
"I was so moved by
this song as well as the pictures of the people. I could not hold back
the tears while reading it. I immediately emailed this to all 5 of my
children. They, too, were moved by the message and pictures. I am
fortunate enough to have loving children and Grandchildren, also great
grandchildren."
"It is wonderful."
June 4,
2007
"That was done so
beautifully! I was crying the whole time and will definitely pass this
on to many friends and family. Thank you so much."
"THIS IS SO
BEAUTIFUL"
"This is so helpful
for our children to understand what Alzheimer's is like."
"I am 61.. I'm very
healthy, energetic and strong - now - yet, there is always the thought
that one day, I'll NOT be as strong or independent. I STILL take care
of MY 'children' (ages 33 and UP) as best I can with
encouragement, kindness, thought and assist them to the best of my
ability, generally with the ONE thing that I have to offer - love...
pure unconditional love. I'm again, beginning a new career path at my
age... I do this probably every few years - I still don't know what I
want to be when I grow up! Today, I received this Parents' Wish and
cried my eyes out - not in sadness but knowing that my daughter sent
it and heard my unspoken thought... Thank you for expressing so
beautifully, what we all feel as we pass the age of '20'
- Joy Braverman wishing joy-2-U always"
"It is a loving
tribute and beautifully done! Thanks from all of us who are in the
'care giving' role and sometimes it all gets to be a bit much!
This helps remind us and humbles us to try a little harder!"
"This is the most
compelling story we have seen and we have used the website version
many times for our staff and other audiences."
"I don’t know if I
can type through my tears after watching this presentation. My beloved
Mama… my best friend, teacher, advisor and role model… suffers from
Parkinson’s disease. She is the most amazing woman in the world, and
it breaks my heart to know that she is embarrassed by her illness. I
have pledged to both of my parents to allow them to die with dignity.
They devoted their lives to their children, and to our friends as
well. They deserve nothing less. Mama and Daddy, if you read this…
know that I love you. –beth- houston, tx"
"THANK YOU!"
"This was the best
e-mail I received in a long . I lost both parents eleven months apart
and miss them dearly. I am sitting here crying so hard and realized
they are gone and taught me so much about life. Sharon, Cape Breton,
NS, Canada"
"This is really very
beautiful and meaningful.....a good reminder to all children - no
matter what the age - to take good care of and to cherish their
parents. I am a mother of two very young children now and have
received the best care and love that a child could receive and hope to
give the same to my children. Hopefully, they will in turn grow up to
be very loving and caring children. In today's world, many of us
forget what we have and take a lot for granted, especially our near
and dear ones. Sites like yours help to reinforce and remind what is
the moral thing to do.Thanks."
June 3,
2007
"Just received your
slideshow from a friend. It is the most beautiful show I have ever
seen. I lost both parents within 5 years. I was the caregiver for my
mom who had Alzheimer's disease. I cried for them and for me. Thank
you for bringing such a beautiful experience to families and the
world."
"I cried."
"It is beautiful and
unfortunately I did not receive it until I lost my Dad. I lost my Mom
to Alzheimer's 2 years ago. My parents were 93.5 Dad and Mom 89. I was
fortunate to be able to love them longer than most people have their
parents. Thank you. God bless."
"WOW! This is just
the most beautiful thing I've experienced! Tears flowed as I read the
words and listened to the music. Thank you so much."
June 2,
2007
"Very appropriate to
the needs of people I work with. Thank you."
"This is one of the
most poignant and beautiful things I've seen in a long time. Thanks
for sharing it with so many. "
"Love the slide show,
I'm 71 and a great grand father. It touches me and I surely will share
it with all."
June 1,
2007
"It made me cry, as I
am getting older and seeing my parents as they are and remembering as
they were, it is so true that we need to have more patience and they
become 'children' again in many ways. Thank you."
"I work in a high
school in Virginia. I start my day early with a prayer and I have the
music playing in the background as I say ‘Thanks’ for all God’s
blessings. I have played it for my students and they were moved
by the lyrics and was awed when I showed them the slides. It moved me
to tears when it was first forwarded to me. I thought of my dad who
passed on 8 years ago. I took care of him the best I know how but I
still feel the guilt – the guilt that I should have done more. Thank
you so very much. Ilda"
"Totally awesome.
Brought tears to my eyes."
May 31,
2007
"Thank you so much
for sharing this incredibly moving slide show. Not only is this
important to share with family and friends but with the people who
work with the elderly. I teach Health Care Aides and try to instill in
them a deep respect for the people in their care. Showing this CD to
my students would really send the message home."
"A beautiful piece,
wonderfully done, can't wait to send it to my kids and friends. Thanks
so much!! Joan"
"I have just received
this email, and I keep crying. My mom is going through a rough time
now with dementia and this video has reminded me that I really need to
be there for her and for my aging father, as well. It is difficult to
watch your parents go through these stages in life and to try to do
things for them, when distance is a bit of a problem. I wish I could
be strong and be there more for them. It is very difficult to be
raising children of your own and trying to take care of aging parents,
too. This video is a great reminder of why family is so important to
me. I am going to share it with everyone I know. Thanks for the
wonderful show!!! Carol R., Ontario, Canada"
May 30,
2007
"This was absolutely
beautiful . My husband turns 72 in October and I'll be 68 in October
too. My mother will be 90 next year and this explains some of what she
may be feeling . I am thrilled to be a part of this to see and hear
the music and the captions. Thank you so much I'll print this out and
leave it in my bible so one day they will come across and understand
us better. God Bless. Sally Hibben"
May 29,
2007
"How very beautiful
and moving, Gary"
"BEAUTIFUL"
"This was very moving
as I just lost my mom on March 9, 2007. She was 92. Thank you. Barbara
Taylor"
"I have never been
moved in so many ways by something so beautiful, inspirational, and
emotional. I cry every single time I view this. It is so truthful and
honest and really makes we as children, to really sit back and realize
what our parents are facing as they age. The words, the music, the
whole package truly hits my heart as nothing else in my life has ever
hit me. I want to shout this to the world, but seeing that probably
not quite the way to go, I would love to pass this along to every
Nursing Facility, Assisted Living Facility and any other place where
seniors and the elderly reside. I would just give them this website
address. Is that allowed? Diane L. Christopher"
"It helped to bring
back some of the happiest times of my life. Having children is a very
important experience every dumb kid needs to have as it can assist
them in becoming real human beings. Now on to kids anyone who is in a
state where they need their kids for help is truly in dire need. This
is one reason why over my life I've given what ever help I can to my
friends as they age. Why? Well when you stop and think about this, it
is fairly simple. Kids are kids. They usually will remain in this
condition for the rest of their lives in constant need of someone to
take care of them. The need for this video makes that abundantly
clear. Seniors and others need to care for each other because
kids just can't get there. God love them. I can't wait to look down on
them as they grown into old age. Tom Knost"
"I lost my mother on
Valentine's Day, 2007 and my daughter sent this to me May 26th,2007. I
read most of it without problems, but when it came to the part where
the person didn't want to go on living anymore, the cord was struck
and the tears flowed. That's exactly what happened, Mom said, 'I'm
ready to die.' This was an absolutely wonderful message from
beyond, and I feel it is about the closest account of the way it is
for the elderly as anything I've ever heard of. Thank you for having
this available for young people to be able to see and read. Maybe it
will help someone enjoy their remaining time with a loved one."
May 28,
2007
"Just Wonderful.
Everyone should see this!"
"Whilst doing some
research for a project on the feelings of patients being cared for by
a close relative, I came upon your site. As there is so little written
about the patients feelings (much is focused on the carer) this
article pretty much summed up what I was trying to describe in my
project. I admit to shedding a few tears during the slide show as both
my parents are no longer with me but I have printed off the words and
will site this in my references and e mail to others who I know will
appreciate the sentiments."
May 27,
2007
"Makes me think of
the times I had with my mother. She had that terrible brain disease
and now my older sister has it and I sent this to her children in hope
they read this. I cried everytime I read it. Thank you very much for
this website and its so true we never wake up till too late. But with
my mother I had all the patience and time in the world for her."
"WOW! There are two
individuals in my life right now who unfortunately are ailing- my
Grandfather (Popa) and my Mother. Popa has come with age and recently
diagnosis of cancer has believed to be found. Mom however, was struck
with her illness is to blame on a workplace accident. 22 years a
nurse, 17 in the fast pace ER, slowed down entering a private family
doctor's office. Negligence of one employee, mistakes made, she was
stuck with a needle (never before in all her years) and since her
health has declined. Since this accident I thought of all the
arguments and quarrels we've shared since these events, but elected to
somehow forget many of the good things and happy times we shared.
Nothing compares to a Mother's LOVE, and with this slide show I want
to show her nothing compares to the LOVE of her son. ~~David A.
Lancaster, PA."
"I was ready to
respond to this until I read all the other responses. They said it
all. This is one of the most emotional e-mails that I have ever
received. I am saving this to a special folder and I am sending to my
children. Thank you for a truly beautiful work of art."
"Thank you so much
for this film and song. So very few people know about
the devastation of Alzheimer's. I am glad we had some training and
assistance from Area in Aging in our area here in Phoenix. They had
some tapes and DVD that were very helpful. We
just couldn't take care of my father. It took 24 hour care by then
and there were 5 kids. It just got too much for all of us. I loved to
walk with him when I used to visit especially when he got agitated, it
would calm him down. I miss him, I will miss my dad this Father's day
but I have so many good memories. Thank you again for this memorial
song and movie. Sincerely, Elizabeth F."
May 26,
2007
"Thanks, it is
beautiful and makes me cry."
"Thank you for this
beautiful music and tribute to aging parents. When it arrived in my
email from an AZ friend, it brought me to tears. I immediately shared
it first with a dozen family members, and then with each and every
friend that has computer access. My sister's children and my brother's
children needed to see this since they are now in the stage of caring
for aging parents with health problems. One of my friends is being
nudged towards assisted living or a nursing home because her possible
need for care threatens the social life of her children. This is
beautiful, sensitive, and a real tug at the heart and the soul."
"Beautiful, touching
and very moving presentation! It made me cry. Thank you!"
"Beautiful and it has
come at the time I needed this most. I have just re-read 2 letters
from my middle child (sent to me across the seas 13 years ago), newly
married and anxious to please the in-laws?? She wrote with such love
and care for me and thanked me in both letters for the use of my car
(4 months, and it came back damaged too??). Now I am thinking how I
can ring her without her ignore=ring my call as her phone states who
is calling. If she answers what can I say that won't anger her. She
says that she was going to see her mother-in-law on Mother's day as
she had given them so much. What more can I give her but my love and I
did give her life??"
"Enjoyed Parents Wish
so very much."
May 25,
2007
"Thank you so mush
for this video. I cried like a baby. The pictures; the words and the
music made this the most powerful sentiment I've ever seen. My Daddy
passed away in 2005 and he was everything to me! I have one son who
gave me a reason to live. Due to circumstances, I may see him and my
grandsons five or six times a year, if I'm lucky. God Bless you. Gwen
D. Ballard Guin, Alabama"
"This brought tears
to my eyes. I will pass this on to my children and friends. They need
to know the importance of what I or others may go through before
judging them. We raise our children with values and morals, so that
they can raise their children the same way. It would be great if a
movie could be made about the reality of how someone growing old, and
it is a process which we all have to face, so that the process of a
new life may begin. That is where the circle of life continues. I have
noticed people that I have grown up with, and watched their TV shows
have aged gracefully like myself and are now using reading glasses. I
have to giggle I never thought I would be using them myself. We need
more base valued movies than the gory one. I would pay a dime for
them. God Bless everyone who sees and especially the one who made it."
"Thank you for
sharing this beautiful tribute with us. As a mother (age 60) I will
send this to my daughter as a way to share the thoughts we all feel as
we begin to sense our own mortality. As a daughter I will hold this in
my heart when I am with my mother who has Alzheimer's and has been
unable to speak or recognize me for a very long time. I hold her in my
arms and tell I love her when I am with her. The message in the email
applies to all of us in the three generations. Brenda Diekman"
May 24,
2007
"My wife is a charge
nurse in a nursing home and would like this in all it forms as a
training tool. She believes this would be a VERY good mind set tool
for the care of the elderly in nursing homes everywhere. I have
watched this several times and I agree with her opinion on your
presentation."
"It's great."
"I love this song. I
used it a lot while my sister was dying recently from brain cancer.
But I could not help but feel if I sent this to my family, I'd be
laying a 'guilt trip' on them. I have high hopes that if I need
their help at this time in my life, they would out of love, extend all
they could to me for my comfort, not out of guilt because of what was
required of me for bringing them into this world."
"This is awesome and
inspiring. Thank you."
May 23,
2007
"Bravo, this is
absolutely beautiful! I received this on two different occasions and
each time I read it, I cried my eyes out! I am only 57 and my hubby is
59 but I know, unfortunately one day this might be one or both of us.
I've sent it to both of my daughters ... hoping they will remember,
understand, and be patient! Thanks!"
"I was watching the
video of a Parents Wish and it brought tears to my eyes because it is
the truth. I had this video for over a year now and it still affects
me. I gave it to my kids and they cried too. Harold"
"This was one of the
most beautiful tributes I have read. I will surely pass it on. There
is so much truth in it, I pray people will read it and take heed."
May 22,
2007
"Once again I would
like to thank the person or person's who sent this for the first time
to someone who would pass it on and on so people such as myself and
others would be able to share."
"What a beautiful,
moving and powerful message you have shared with us. Thank you so very
much."
"I remember when our
HE teacher showed this to us we went back to our room crying. The
message is really touching and we just can't help thinking about our
parents and their love for us. Even my guy friends cried too. I really
like watching this again and I still think the song You Raise Me Up
is really appropriate. It made me remember how my parents worked
hard just to give us everything we need and how they supported us in
everything we do. As a teenager, sometimes I go through a lot of
problems and I'm really glad my parents helped me through all that and
believed in me. I'm really glad i have very loving parents. Thanks to
my HE teacher I got to know about this slideshow and made me
appreciate my parents even more! Whoever made this slideshow...THANK
YOU VERY MUCH!--->Kathy "
"This is one of the
best e-mails I have ever received. It took me back when my
mother-in-law was in the nursing home in Denver. My wife and I went up
a couple of times a week to be with her. When it was time for Mom to
let go we had to almost shout in her ears so she could hear to let Mom
know it was alright to home. I sit here with tears in my eyes just
thinking about it. Thank you for this excellent parents wish. I just
hope my own children will read it and have compassion and be there for
us. I am 76 so the time could be short or 20 years down the road.
Right now we take no medication for anything but as I said that could
change at any time."
"This was so
beautiful! Even when we love our parents dearly, we do not always
exercise the kind of patience they deserve as they struggle to make
their way through the challenges of elderly life. When their memory
starts to diminish does not mean their hearts do. I loved my parents
very much and watched both go through debilitating illnesses. But,
they kept their sense of humor right up to the end. That's what's
important. Not how we see them, but how they remember and appreciated
the world they lived in, and at 70-90 years old, they have seen a lot
in their lifetime. It's that kind of compassion I have tried to
instill in my children and grandchildren. Thank you so much for
reminding me how much my parents and grandparents meant to me. NJB"
May 21,
2007
"That was SO VERY
T-O-U-C-H-I-N-G, impressive, true, and sad, ALL at the same time! As
far as the elderly or having grandparents to grow up with, I didn't. I
only knew one very dear grandmother who visited 1-2 weeks a year. Now
that I'm a grandmother and ADORE it, I realize all I missed, as a
child. My Mom is still alive at 89 year old. She has said some very
hurtful things to me the past 3-4 yr, some as a part of her being
bipolar and some just in her becoming much older, I believe. She has
really 'mellowed' out and appreciates all that is done for her
and thanks us, very often. My two brothers, BOTH, lived in the same
town and have both, equally, been 'SAINTS' to our parents. I
challenge any sons to be THIS attentive / good to their elderly
parents. My husband and I took in his Mother the last 8 months of her
life--she could not walk or anything. What LOVE --he and I gave to
that precious lady, while her other son in town was NOT allowed to
visit or help, due to his mentally ill wife's anger, over a minor
thing of a request in her Will. Don't EVER let ANY spouse keep YOU,
from YOUR loved one. Mom said she STILL loved that daughter-in-law who
never came and kept her son away from her. That's the kind of
WONDERFUL Christian woman she was. By the way, SHE was the 'close'
Mother I never knew and I was the 'daughter' she NEVER had!!!
Thanks--this brought out the heart / feelings I needed to share!!
Thanks! M. Ellen"
"What a wonderful web
site. This was sent to me just after my father died in January 2007.
My mother who is very ill after a stroke is unable to speak or even
scratch her own nose but she still gives me a smile. When her time has
come I will always remember that smile. My father and mother would
have been married 65 years this October. He was her only boyfriend.
She was just eighteen when they married in 1942. I feel that she just
wants to die and be with him. I sat by my fathers bedside for three
days and two nights till he died so as he would not be alone. I will
also do the same for my mother. They were always by my side in life
come what ever happened both good and bad and gave me any help I
needed and I am prepared to do the same for them both. The words in
the video are so true and I feel all people who are in some way
connected to the sick or elderly should be aware of said words. Thank
you also to my husband who has given me more help than any one could
ever ask for. Thank you. Mrs Brenda Sullivan, London, England"
"Excellent, made me
cry!!!!! I did send it on to many."
"Josh Groban's
singing makes this so special. He is a marvelous singer. Hopefully one
day my child will understand me."
"I just wanted to
thank you for an outstanding presentation. We have an aging parents
resource network established for our Associates and you can bet I will
be sharing this with them at our next lunch and learn."
May 20,
2007
"This is incredible!
Our mother is 99 years old and the examples you gave with the
beautiful background music brought tears to both my husband and me.
Thanks for taking the time to share your talents with us who are
watching our parents go through this very difficult time in their
life. Thanks Again!"
"I so enjoyed this
presentation. I have had responsibility for my Mom for a number of
years and at times, I feel like it is a burden. Watching this gave me
a new, fresh perspective of my caring for her. It did make me feel
guilty of doing some of the things in the presentation, and I have now
a better resolve to be as good as I can to her from now on. It
motivated me to be a better person. Kathi"
"Thanks for the
beautiful presentation of Parents' Wish. We have five wonderful
children who are doing these things for us and it is truly one of
life's greatest blessings. Best wishes MJW"
"This was so
beautiful. I am glad a friend sent it to me and I am sending it
on to other friends. It is very emotional."
"Thank you. The
slideshow was great!!"
"Thank you for
sharing this wonderful message. I have cared for many elderly
individuals in my family (grandfather 98, grandmother 87, father 82,
stepfather 78, father-in-law 89, aunt 97). It gives me great joy when
I see or hear of people reaching out to the elderly. These are the
shoulders that we stand on today. I thank God for wisdom they pass
down. I could only share tears of joy for this God sent message. My
son, Daryus 38, sent me this message. I am 61, and I know he will be
there for my husband and I, if and when we need him. Thank God
for you. CharlotteThomas- Littlejohn-Driver"
May 19,
2007
"My wife passed away
almost 5 years ago. This brought back a lot of memories. Tears are in
my eyes. No she wasn't my child or Mother yet the memories I have
while caring for her are so precious. Thank you for creating this.
James F. Roberts Niceville, Florida 32578."
"It was beautiful .
It touched my heart. Thank you."
"Damn, that was
beautiful."
"Honestly, I was
crying when I was watching it. Thank you for making such a touching
message show... I love it..."
May 18,
2007
"That was the most
beautiful and meaningful thing I've seen in a long time. That is the
message that kids need to receive and abide by their parents. God
Bless you for a wonderful creation."
"I sent this to our
only daughter and she was very moved by it. She showed it to our 15
year old granddaughter and after she viewed it she was moved to tears
she informed me. I also was moved to tears and it made me more
thankful for my mother that just turned 88 May 11, 2007. So this is
excellent."
"It made me cry. My
parents are getting older and have notice some of these signs in them.
Thank you."
"This is beautiful
beyond words. I am a caregiver in a nursing home and work with
Alzheimer patients and it breaks my heart when children of some of the
residents fail to come by to visit and ignore some of the basic needs.
I am a senior citizen but we have 2 loving daughters who call almost
every day. Joanne Braun, Sebring FL"
May 17,
2007
"Thank you so much
for caring enough to prepare this slideshow. It is so true, and we ALL
need a reminder now and then to think of all the patience our parents
had with us as children. I wish I could download it somehow into a
format that I could share with others who don't have access to a
computer. This slideshow should be a MUST for every worker in every
nursing home! It is so sad to see how many elderly are abused by their
caretakers. This might make them think! Thanks you."
"I want this CD
played at my funeral. It says what my heart feels."
"Thank you for this
wonderful piece! I lost both of my parents and in-laws since April,
2001. My Mom and Dad were the kind of parents you gave tribute to so
beautifully. My Mother-in-law had Alzheimer's, and she taught us so
much, as we cared for her. My husband also learned so much from his
Dad, even to his dying day. Thanks again! Joyce"
"This came to me 3
days after my mother-in-law was put in the hospital. She has a stroke
and is doing well at this time. However, we do not know how much
longer we will have her. She is as close or closer than my own mother
as she is here where I live. The slideshow is very moving and
definitely brought tears to my eyes. Thank you. Karen from Illinois"
"This was an
extremely moving piece. Beautiful photos and music. It makes me want
to leave work right now and go home to hug my kids. Thank you."
May 16,
2007
"I have a two year
old son and a beautiful surprise on the way. This is a beautiful story
to tell to all ages. I am just starting to raise the future and I am
just now realizing the sacrifices and joys and pains and heartaches
that come with raising children. My respect for my parents has grown
so much since becoming a mother. I plan to save this movie for my
children's keepsake box in the hopes that someday they will understand
the true gift of family and what it means through the passing years of
ones life. Thank you for creating the words, visions and sounds that
so many of us need. I can't wait to share it with my parents and look
forward to taking care of them in the future just as they have taken
care of me in the past. Sincerely, A Mother."
"The song and music
and slides that I have viewed-- I loved it a lot. The music and song
are very touching"
"There has never been
a more powerful e-mail sent to me. My Father has already passed and my
husbands mother has already passed. We both have one parent left. They
both are in their middle to late 80's and we are experiencing the
situations in this e-mail. Tears streamed down my face as I read and
listened to Parents Wish."
"This e-mail is the
most powerful e-mail that I have ever received."
"We are a small,
privately owned nursing home company and this video would be excellent
to use in orientation with our new employees and also as an in-service
presentation on the topic of aging, respect and understanding and fits
so well with our mission and values."
"That was beautiful.
I emailed it to my three and hope they will get the message. You
really should supply tissue with this video. Thanks again."
"I work with the
elder population at our hospital, and this is just perfect for the
orientation for all new employees in learning to treat our older
patients with dignity and respect - and gentle kindness - as we were
treated as children by our parents."
"What a wonderful
job!!! BJ"
"Josh the music adds
so much to the message, thank you. I am 86 and in good health but I
can relate to this message and I sent it to all of my friends. I thank
God that much of this doesn't fit me yet, but I hope it will help some
one that crosses their path. God has been good to me. My Children, my
Health and my Friends. Blessings to you, Wanda Whitted"
"Thank you!"
"This is so powerful
and we would like to share this at the funeral when he times comes."
May 15,
2007
"I have all my
friends in tears of heartfelt emotions."
"The presentation is
truly beautiful and ever so true. I have always loved the song that
Josh sings. It is so fitting with this piece. Definitely food for
thought. Thanks so much, E.G. New Brunswick, Canada"
"Thank you for the
great work."
"I just wanted you to
know how moved I was by this. My mom is ill and I know sometimes I am
not as understanding as I should be. This however, has left me with a
greater understanding and a change of attitude for the future. Thank
you."
"A friend e-mailed me
this address due to I have a mom with terminal cancer. She's only 53
years old. I'm 33 and my daughter is 3. My mom is the type of
person who would do anything for others and she's really been there
for me. But know how much longer? They are trying the last type of
chemo they can think of on her and it's not working yet! Let's pray
something does. As you know she has her good days and bad. Nights are
bad mainly. Lots of crying! Boy does that hurt! I hate to see her
crying . She's my rock! I thought I could have my dad but he's dealing
with life with vodka and beer."
"This is one of the
most heart moving films I have ever watched and so true to life as we
live it. Anyone who sees this and is not moved hasn't a heart. Thank
you so much. Wish my parents were alive to see this . Lynda Cardigan
P.E."
"BEAUTIFUL! Thank You
and God Bless!"
"Being a single
mother raising 3 children alone this is so beautiful. Josh Groban was
the perfect choice for back ground music. But why are ALL the pictures
of men and not women... who usually do more of these things than men.
I did forward it to my children with directions to click on single
mother... which only shows one mother."
"My father took ill
over three years ago with a terminal illness and I watched him fade
away gradually until last March. We were never close while I was
growing up, but I learned a great deal from him during his later years
about dignity, bravery and courage. I don't know how he survived
everything he had to endure and it was painful for me to witness, but
it taught me so much and we were finally able to have real
conversations about what was really important in the grand scheme of
life. I also noticed how well meaning people, professional and others,
were so patronizing and condescending and how it must have frustrated
him! My uncle, who is now in his late 80's is suffering with a life
ending illness and can no longer walk on his own. It pains me to see
him having to deal with his disease every single day and I know it is
so frustrating for him and people just don't understand. Why do we
treat our wise older citizen's this way? I emailed this to both of my
grown sons and I hope they get the message. Thank you. Carol in Toms
River, NJ"
May 14,
2007
"This is absolutely
beautiful. A friend sent it to me today, as my father who is 97 years
of age is in failing health and a week ago this past Sunday was taken
to the hospital with excruciating pains in his legs. Today they have
transferred him to a nursing home to try and regulate his medications
in the hope that he will be able to return home. This was so uplifting
to read... and tearfully I am sending this email along to you. Gemma
Montani"
"This is the most
beautiful thing I have ever seen and heard. I received this 3 days
after I laid my Dad to rest and it has given me true peace and
acceptance. Thank-you. Cathy, Collingwood, ON, Canada"
"This show has made
such an impact on me."
"I think it will be a
great thing to have because we already lost some in the family with
dementia. I think it might help the younger ones of the family
understand just a little more. Thank you."
"I was disgusted by
this sappy presentation. It caters directly to the fears of aging
parents and is insulting to adult children. It's not a loving gentle
reminder. It's a pitiful, sad, lecture intended to ward off
insensitive, unkind behavior. It victimizes parents and argues that
children 'owe' their parents for having taken care of them as
children. That's just wrong. Children don't ask to be brought into
this world. They are a gift and responsibility to their parents. They
don't 'owe' their parents anything. Love is not a form of
payment. If parents have done a good job raising them, children don't
need to be told to treat them with love, respect and care as they age.
Love is not a response to guilt and shame."
"That is the most
beautiful and inspirational website I have ever seen. I'm caring for
my 87 year old mother who recently had a slight stoke. Today, on
Mother's Day, we took her to brunch and then to the casino, where she
really enjoys herself. It's not easy, trying to keep a constant eye on
her so she gets around and is able to play the slot machines she
likes, but I thank God every day that she's still able to do it. I
recently retired young (age 55) and take Mom to lots of doctor's
appointments. She always says to whoever is around that I'm retired
and have to be burdened with taking her to appointments. I always
respond with 'Mom, I have lots of time now and I really don't
mind!' And you know what? I REALLY don't mind. Yes, at times it
tests our strengths, but I thank God every night that I have the
strength and patience to take care of Mom. She's my idol, and if I'm
half the person she is, I'm a very lucky daughter. Arlene"
May 13,
2007
"I really loved it."
"This is so true as I
have done this with my mother. She is gone now but this piece really
tells the truth. Thank you."
"The most heart
touching and meaningful I have ever seen in my life. I only wish I had
the chance to see it before I lost both of my parents. Thank you so
very much for inspiring me to be more patient and understanding with
those who are growing older. Each day is a gift----treasure today!!!!
<*)))-{"
"I enjoyed this video
immensely. It was so touching because it is so real. I volunteer at a
Nursing Home with patients having Alzheimer's. I made a copy and have
it up on the wall for all family members to to read, (music not
included). Everyone that read it couldn't keep tears from flowing. It
was so touching because it is so real. Keep up the inspirations.
Thanks for sharing. Lorraine"
"Hi and thank you for
such a beautiful understanding for our Moms, Dads and older people. I
help take care of 39 of the Most Wonderful Older Ones...words can not
every be told how I feel about them, their love for me and mine of
theirs...Yes, the video of Parents' Wish is so true.... Thank you for
putting it together and thanks to my friend Debbie for sending it to
me...God Bless all of you. Linda"
May 12,
2007
"I am a nurse care
manager for the elderly population in Southern California. This is the
most amazing short video. Thank you for this very meaningful video."
"Your presentation
brought me to tears. The words were so absolute! These words speak for
the elders, where it may be difficult for them to speak for
themselves. Thank you, thank you, thank you."
"My best friend sent
me this site, and I'm glad she did. It really made me CRY from start
till end. I'm 28 and also a mother of 2 little kids. How I wish they
will be good kids until we (me and their dad) get old. While watching
the video, memories of my grand pa just flashed back to me. I missed
him so much!! I really love him. Even if he was already 90++ years
old, he was strong still able to do lot of things. Still took care of
me when I got pregnant and all. Played with my daughter even. My
grandpa has 3 children,. my mom.. my uncle and aunt.. but we grew up
with grandpa. That's why were still together until he left us and went
home to his creator.. and I am proud to say that we had took care of
him very well... me and my brothers and sisters (were 7) though there
are misunderstandings sometimes.. we still love each other so much..
that is why when I watched the video, I can relate to it so so much...
I miss him.. Thanks for the video. I will pass it to my friends."
"How amazing. My
biological father sent this to my daughter and I for mothers day. He
knows that I went through a difficult time last year losing my step
father to brain cancer and it really hit home especially the part
about giving them the dignity they deserve. I hope that this sends a
message to a lot of people who don't realize how life can change so
quickly. In a moments time my life changed forever. I am so thankful
to have been blessed with two fathers in my life. I will cherish each
moment I have with my father that is still with me today. Thank you
for such an inspirational video. Dawn"
"This was beautiful, and
the music (one of my very favorite songs) fits it very well. I do wish
you had a version for single parents, though. I'd love to send it to
my children but can't send it from 'Mom and Dad' as it was only
'Mom' for too many years. Thank you.
[Webmaster's note: Yes,
we do have single parents version. Please click on the
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"Absolutely beautiful. I
only wish you had one signed by 'mom' alone. I raised my three
children by myself and would like to forward this to them but I can't.
A beautifully phrased work. Thank you. Elaine Keltner"
May 11,
2007
"This is so very
beautiful. Thank you! However, have you thought about the fact that a
lot of us sending this on are not a couple. Could you do one that says
your Mom or your Dad--we would like to send this also--but we are not
any longer two! Sincerely, Lynne Withers ---I have 4 sons, but their
father is remarried for the last 30+ years."
"It needs to be shown
at EVERY nursing home to the care givers as well as those who have
family in nursing homes. The loneliness, fear and lack of hope will
break your heart."
May 10,
2007
"Thank you for a
lovely view of growing old. Lost my mum when she was 95 and she she
had no will to live, as she said she had seen it all."
"This is absolutely
beautiful. Never saw anything like it. Sent it to all my boys--5 of
them. Thank you"
"Wonderful!! I lost
my Mom to Alzheimer's in 2005 and this made me realize that it is
really hard getting older especially if you have dementia. It made me
sad and guilty and it also made me wish that I had spent more time
with her while I could. She was an awesome Mom and I hope that I can
be just like her. Thank you so much for putting this together. People
who have aging parents should watch this at least once a week to to
remind them that we all will be there eventually. Well done!"
"Thank you for
sharing this wonderful and important message. Today too many of our
young people are self-centered and tend to live in 'their own
universe'! I was moved to tears, as I have lost my mother
several years ago and this was truly a reminder of the precious gift
she was to me and my family. My father is still living and this was a
well needed reminder to 'love him as he is' and enjoy and
cherish the years we have ahead of us. I passed this wonderful message
on to everyone in my address book and of course to my children. May
God Bless and keep you and prosper you in your endeavors! Andrea
Johnson"
"Thank you for
sharing this beautiful Wish. My mother passed away a few years ago and
this slideshow brought tears to my eyes. I am forwarding to everyone
in my address book. May God bless and keep you in the many years to
come!!"
"This was a beautiful
and meaningful video. As a single parent I did not object to the 'mom
and dad' at the end. I just added my little blurb and sent it to
my kids. We all cried over it as I had been through dementia and
Alzheimer's with BOTH my parents so knew somewhat what this was about.
Thank you for sharing... CJ in Seattle"
"Thank you so much
for this little video. I think all children with older parents should
see this. I am an older parent and I would hope my children would feel
just as this little clip shows. Thank you so much."
May 9,
2007
"Wow!! You hit the
nail on the head! Thanks you so very much. May the Lord our God bless
you and your family. Mark"
"This is absolutely
the most beautiful tribute to the aging. My mother-in-law is in a
nursing home and has dementia and I cried and thought of her as I
watched this video. I can relate to everything that was said in it
because this is exactly how she feels. Thank you so much for the
wonderful tribute to the elderly."
"I cried. It reminded
me of when I worked in an old peoples home as a carer. I just
wish their families had seen this. It might have made them feel guilty
about how often they came to visit. Maureen"
"I don't know how it
could be communicated any better!!! Beautiful music and right on the
TRUTH especially these baby boomer days!.... .kudos, kudos,
kudos.......Eddie in NC"
"Thank you so much
for such a powerful show. My husband and I live with my 87 year old
mother who is an Alzheimer’s patient. My father has been deceased for
6 years. I would like to think that I have done the right by my
parents. They were wonderful and loving parents to me and my five
siblings. It is sad to know that there are some children who do not
even call or care about their parents."
"This is one of the
most lovely things I've ever seen. I have worked with the elderly in
many ways, from companionship to working in nursing homes and hospice.
I have my own aging Mother. This made me think about things... and I
cried like a baby. Thank you for making this ! I'm passing it on.
Robyn N. Abington MA"
May 8,
2007
"Thank you so much
for making this important message available to so many people! May God
continue to bless everyone's incredible efforts."
"My 30 year old
daughter sent this to me today. As soon as it began to play I knew I
needed tissues. I want her to be able to read this in about 20 to 25
years- when she is at my stage of life. My widowed Mom is in a memory
care unit in an assisted living home. She talks little now but for the
past five or six years remembering what she is trying to tell us has
been difficult, she needs help eating bathing and dressing and a
wheelchair has just become a necessity. As I am caring for my mother I
watch my daughter care for her 3 young daughters- ages 6 weeks, 1 year
and 3 years and often I see us doing the same things. I am honored to
be able to be a part of my mother's care and enjoy watching her react
to her great granddaughters. When I am older and frailer I hope my
daughter will remember the example she is ! now seeing and treat me
with love and respect that I am giving my mother. Thank you so much
for putting to words and music what is happening to so many of us."
May 7,
2007
"Being a kid this
really makes me stop and realize I should be with my elders a lot more
than I do. It tells me to do more with them and if they talk you,
listen even if you don't care what they're saying, just listen."
"WOW. I just loved
every bit of that! I'm dealing with a Grandmother at this time that
has been my '2nd' Mom my entire life. When my Mom couldn't help
me or give me guidance, my Grandmother was always there. When my
Grandfather died, my Grandmother sold her home, and moved back to her
hometown to be closer to other relatives and her only sister. During
this period, she has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is in her
early stages, and it breaks my heart to see her slipping. When I
see this video, I feel that she was there to not scold us when we did
wrong, but to guide us through it and into something more stable. Now,
it is our turn. It comes at a price though, as I feel our
communication with her is hampered or stifled due to her resistance
and not understanding WHY we do or request what we do. So, we have
decided to just step back, and let her make her decisions... just like
in the video. I must say, you touched a big chord in my heart...and
letting us take those steps back will be a little easier. I wish that
she would 'walk with that cane' though, not literally, but try
to guide herself a little better. Thank you for a wonderful message, I
will send it to the rest of my family!! Charles Hunnicutt Franklin,
N.C."
"I sat here for a few
minutes after viewing the presentation. It is simply wonderful! Both
my parents have passed away and I would dearly love to be able to
share of the things with them. I was able to help them when they were
living but I miss them so. Thanks for such a beautiful reminder. I
hope one day my daughter will be able to look at this and soften her
heart."
"Wanted to send this
to my grandson for his Mom but he doesn't have a Dad, so every time
something says Mom and Dad, I feel like it is reminding him that he
does not have a Dad. This is not a complaint - just wishing we could
change on our computer who it is from. No problem- beautiful
otherwise."
"This should be a
reminder to everyone who has ever thought about abusing an elderly
person - they too are human beings and someone's parents. It should be
mandatory for every employee who works at a rehab or nursing home to
have to watch this, every time they walk into work! Words can't
possibly describe how beautiful and well put together this was. Thank
you!"
May 6,
2007
"I listen to this
almost every day. I am 67 and because of a misunderstanding have no
contact with my son. He will never know how much I miss him. Thanks
for this and my prayers for him, I am able to cope. Sandra Gilbert"
"I actually found
this somewhat self-serving and condescending to the children of older
adults and a little preachy. Bottom line…. better take care of us
because we took care of you! Maybe I’m in the minority here but didn’t
find this helpful and don’t want my children to feel they owe me. I
don’t raise children for that reason."
"How beautiful is
this! I have forwarded Parents' Wish to my two sons, my grandson, to
everyone I know who needs to know that some day - they will be saying
these same words. I am keeping it in my special file so that I can
play it back when I want a good cry - when I feel that my sons, my
grandson, or my nieces and nephews are not getting the message that
this so beautifully portrayed here. Thank you so much for a treasure
that is so desperately needed in this year, at this time, in our busy
lives! We love it!"
"Send this to your
children and you are starting them on a long guilt trip."
"I have NEVER in all
of my 59 years of life ever viewed anything as moving as this. I lost
my dear and precious mother on April 22nd 2007. She had just turned 82
on April 11th. Prior to this she was in a Nursing Facility near
our home for almost 3 1/2 years with Alzheimer's disease. I cried the
first time I watched this movie. My heart broke into a million pieces
as I could well relate to each and every picture and each and every
line. I played it for my husband and we cried together. I wish
everyone in the world could view this. It would truly open a lot of
hearts and a lot of eyes. Nobody knows what this is like until they
walk that path. Thank you for this beautiful site which I enjoy more
than I can say. God Bless You."
May 5,
2007
"With a dad who just
turned 80 and isn't in the greatest health and a mother-in-law who is
'failing' mentally, this came at just the right time! Thank you
for reminding me of the gift of love they have given us and help me -
with God's help - to be a little more loving, a little more patient.
M.H."
May 4,
2007
"I am not near the
age of the parent in this video, BUT I recently had a stroke. I no
longer talk, walk or do the things I could before my stroke. I am
sending this video to my daughters and almost daughter. It made me cry
and reminded me so much of how my mother is now living. My sister that
lives with Momma, has often commented, 'SHE IS MY BABY.' Thank
you very much. Pam Adkins, Chesapeake OH"
"I found this to be
very inspiring. I am a retired registered nurse and share your views
and the views of the elderly. I've been trying to decide what type of
volunteer work that I want to do and you have helped me with my
decision. I will join a local nursing home as a volunteer to assure
that all are given the love, care and respect that they so deserve.
Thank you and bless you."
"Thank You for
putting together a beautiful slide show. 5 years ago my father was
diagnose with rapid progressive Alzheimer. My mom takes care of him
during the week with some help from nurse's aides. I visit on the
weekends and take over as caregiver as well as when my mother needs a
weekend away. Even though my father cannot speak he speaks to me with
his eyes and hands. I cherish every moment I have with him and
remember the days when he took care of me. This is the most wonderful
email that I have ever received and I will continue to share with
friends and family. Thanks again for the parents wish. God Bless."
"This is a beautiful,
moving piece of art. It's very touching. I am an empty-nester, and I
work with elder patients in a hospital. I also head up our elder
advocacy program within the hospital. So, I see all the different,
difficult, unique, and glorious sides of aging. But, I've never
thought about it in this particular way. Leslie Schwarz, M.Ed".
"As a child, you
never realize that your parents will get old or sick, much less die.
Now that both parents and grandparents are gone and I am a senior
citizen, how, oh how I wish I could go back and hug and kiss them
again and tell them, thank you for loving me, cherishing me and
helping me to grow into the person I am today. B.F.S.P"
"This was very
emotional for me, and hit home very hard. I have 2 sisters who live
away from me and have to take care of my sick mother alone with my
father who doesn't always understand things and is very upset with the
situation he's in. I'm happy to have been sent this website and the
message it has sent me. I just hope it is sent to my people taking
care of their parents so they'll get a better understanding of what's
going on in the minds of their parents. I know I have."
"I received this in
an email from a friend the night I left to see my Granddaddy for what
may have been the last time. I cried like a baby, the song, the
messages that it conveys. I had watched my Granddaddy's health decline
very rapidly in just a few weeks and he went from healthy as a horse
at 92 to unable to to even speak by the time I got there. He passed 48
hours later. The song touched me in such a profound way that I used
it, pictures and video of his life and made my own DVD for my family.
The messages are all true to my experiences and everyone elses' who's
parents and/or grandparents are ailing. Today, my friend from years
past contacted me to offer his condolences and told me about his
grandfather that is slipping away and that he's not really sure how to
deal with the changes. I sent him this email and I hope it helps him
as it has helped me and my family. In Loving Memory of Daniel Russell
Ward~~July 19, 1914 ~ April 14, 2007"
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