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FEEDBACKS - PART 15
(Jan. 15, 2008 - Feb 23,
2008)
February 23,
2008
"My Mom is 86 and
this was a wake up call for me. Thanks."
"I am caring for my
mother now and this brought me to tears. So many days I ask for
strength so that she and I find hope that we will find a new
'normal' life. I think this should be a wish for everyone, just to
love and be patient with one another. Forgive those who don't have
your strength. If it all seems too much, give it to god, he will know
what to do. Jill Honig"
"This is by far the
MOST BEAUTIFUL thing I have ever heard- I sat crying, not much moves
me! But this is awesome! As I watched it I was thinking of my parents
I will always be there for them. Thank you for sharing your god giving
gift!"
"Thank you for
putting this together. I am 71 years old and it brought tears to my
eyes. Josh Groban's song goes perfectly with it. I will share it with
our daughter who will probably end up taking care of us when we can't.
Marge Smaglik"
"An incredibly
beautiful presentation. Thank you so much for making it available for
all to see. I am without words to describe my feelings. As a 66 years
old female I hope my children will take this in and remember when I am
unable to do the every day things they all take for granted that they
remember this touching email. Thank you from my heart. Carole,
Prescott, Arizona"
"Thank you! You
reminded me of the purpose of life... God bless!"
"I want to say thank
you very much for such a beautiful presentation. It will serve as an
inspiration to all, to the parents and also to their children. I hope
more people will read this and touch everyone's heart. It is really a
parent's wish. Thank you and more power. God bless!"
February 22,
2008
"This is a very
touching tribute!! Thank You"
"I have worked in
long term care for nearly 30 years. I absolutely loved the slideshow.
I think it is not only appropriate for families of residents but a
great reminder to our staff of the needs and desires of those we
serve. Many times we get so caught up in the task or regulation this
was a poignant reminder of always connecting to the person. Thank you
for this gift."
"This is awesome."
"Beautiful! My mom
passed 6 weeks ago at age 90. I think of her every time I listen to
Parent's Wish and the tears flow. Parent's Wish is on my favorites
list and I play it over and over. I have forwarded it to my children.
It is so so true and portrays the life of mom and dad and their love
for their children. Life goes full circle! God Bless"
"Thank you so much
for an amazing and beautiful tribute to our parents. I sat crying
while watching the video, remembering all the wonderful memories of my
childhood. My Mom is almost 98 years young and living with us. We need
to always remember that life comes full circle. One day, that will be
us. May God bless you and everyone who watches this!!
Joyce....Bullhead City, AZ"
"It would be nice if
our children looked after us when we are old but we must remember as
parents, especially if they are married that they have now a life of
their own and we should not really be a burden to them. We chose to be
parents along with all the joys and tribulations that parenthood
brings, we did not become parents so that we can assure ourselves
comfort in our old age. Hopefully we raised our children with some
compassion and character that they will willingly and with love not
forget us."
"I was very moved by
the beautiful video show. It reminded my of those special times
raising our son (now 28). Also it reminded me of several discussions I
had with my parents about their wishes as they got older. Incredible
how many you touched with this video."
"That video is
exactly what every parent needs to send to their children. Especially
when they get on in years, and those memories are almost all we have
left."
"It brought a lump to
my throat, my husband and I both looked to the needs of our surviving
mothers (95) and (99). I feel that our children saw what we did. We
have a loving relationship with our children but I will not forward
this to them as I don't believe they need it and why cause them to
weep before the time?"
"My name is Ms.
Radhika Perera. I'm From Sri Lanka. I just want to let you know that
it was so touching that it even made me cry. it's a very good message
that your trying to give to the world. all the very best. keep up the
good work and may God bless you, Always."
February 21,
2008
"I don't understand
why Josh is being so difficult. If anything he should be happy, and he
should appreciate that his music is being used, and if it costs 15
bucks per DVD, then he should be happy to take 1-2 bucks per DVD, and
move on. If I was the singer, I would feel honored, but I guess some
people have a big ego."
[Webmaster's note: In fairness
to Mr. Josh Groban, I don't think Mr. Groban is aware that we are
trying to seek permission for his music to be included in the CD/DVD
version. We don't have direct access to him and we are coursing
our requests through his website and his recording company.
Unfortunately the people working for him don't seem to have the
inclination to work with us with this project.]
"Just a note of
Thanks for the beautiful video, slide presentation you have put
together, I am a middle class baby boomer. My aging mother -- soon
will be 83 and she lives with my husband and I. I see changes in her
abilities to function and remember things, that cause her to be very
upset and confused at times. Sometimes it can be overwhelming to see
her struggle to communicate and do the things she once did so well.
Your movie has given me the ability to see her in a different light, I
always will Love her and remember all the wonderful things she did for
us as we were growing up. The many sacrifices she made for her family.
And the years of hard work and long hours she put in so we could have
a better life. Sometimes we need a reminder of just how frail life is,
and how much we all need one another. Thank you for the reminder! You
have given me the ability to try harder than ever to see that her
needs are met, that she will always be comfortable And that she will
always know how much we love her. This slide presentation brought
tears to my eyes, and really moved me. It really is true--- As we age,
-- how we revert back to our youth in so many ways. Depending again on
someone else for our comforts, and needs. God willing we will all face
that at some point in our own lives. Sometimes I wonder, if maybe the
Lord allows us to deal with these different life situations, not to
upset the aging parent, but to see what the children are made of and
how well we will cope and strive to do our best for the needs of
someone who did the same for us as children. God Bless you. Faith
Olson Grand Rapids MN."
"I sat bawling my
eyes out ..thank you for that message it is so true.......I help my
grandmother when she was in her final year and it just brought back
beautiful memories."
"Being a 68 year old
parent-- I would like to say this does a better job of explaining the
situation than we could in a year. Thank you so much!!!"
"Thank you for this
wonderful presentation....I cried almost all the way through...very
thought provoking."
"Thank you so much
for this beautiful presentation. It so touched my heart since I lost
my last parent (my mother) a little over a year ago at the age of 88.
She lived a very full life and was blessed with 10 children and
numerous grandchildren and great grandchildren. We had to care for her
the last couple of years of her life and I understand how sometimes we
as children forget to be patient with our aging parents. Life is so
short and we forget at times that we will be in that same position at
sometime in our life if God is willing. Thank you for sharing this
with all of us… Terrie"
"Thank you so much
for making this wonderful tribute available to such a wide audience. I
received the link this morning from my sister-in-law and sat at my
desk at work and cried more than I ever have at anything I have
received on the internet. Fortunately we have a small office. Josh
Groban's song is the perfect compliment to this tribute. My
mother-in-law lives with my husband's sister and brother-in-law and
they take good care of her. My mother still lives alone but only 5
blocks from us and her welfare is basically my responsibility, since
my brother and sister both live hundreds of miles away. I drive her to
any appointments, write out all of her bills and balance her bank
statement, shop and put away all of her groceries, prescriptions and
any other shopping needs. Even though I know I am fortunate that she
has her wits about her and can still walk with a walker, I frequently
roll my eyes and become impatient with her. Your Parents' Wish
really put it all in perspective. I sent the link to all of our kids
because I know they will benefit from this message, and empathize not
only with their own relatives, but with the 'older' generations
in general. Although many other countries revere their elders, we
Americans especially need this poignant reminder. Thank you again from
all of us for this blessing. Janet"
"Thank you so much
for sharing how us as parents feel about our children. To encourage
them admire us still as we get old. Karen"
"This is truly a
touching video. I appreciate all of your efforts. Lauri"
"I am an instructor
for a Long-Term Care Administrators course. I am always trying to
instill in the would-be leaders of long-term care the need to be an
advocate for the elderly and that aging is precious and has value.
Thanks so much for this - it is absolutely WONDERFUL."
"I'm here right now
with my mom. I needed this. It has been so hard the last 3 years. This
will make it easier. Thank you."
"It really made me
cry... truly!! Amila Perera, 23M Sri Lanka"
February 20,
2008
"I work in a Health
Care setting and this is so what we need to show form times to time."
"This is incredibly
beautiful and moving. My parents sent this to me. I cried through the
whole thing. God bless you."
"I want to say Thank
You for making such a beautiful presentation. You have done an
amazing, wonderful job. Thank you!"
"I loved this, I took
care of my Mother back in 1974 before she passed she had Melanoma
Cancer, with one leg taken off she was only 2 days pass her 36th
Birthday, I was 14, but I learned so much from her, I think its a
blessing to take care of our parents or grandparents."
"I am considered the
'sandwich generation' – raising teenage children and helping
out aging parents. As some of the words were touching, it also felt
like another big guilt trip to me."
"I wanted to say how
beautiful Parents' Wish is. I lost my loving Mother-in -law
March-07. This video touched my heart. There were so many things that
are so true for the elderly in it. Going through Mom's last 2 years
really made me understand how they feel. I hope this gets all around
so more people can understand and help their aging loved ones enjoy
the remainder of their lives with dignity. Theresa Burch"
"If everyone that
truly listened and read they would get the meaning of gratefulness!
God Bless you for all your work on the website. Sincerely, Teresa"
"Wish the loss of our
dear Mom and 2/7/08 - this had a powerful impact."
"I work in a Nursing
Home and this slide show is really touching...thank you for creating
it!"
"This beautiful piece
reminded me of the low frustration and understanding I had for my
mother after she slipped into Dementia. After my beautiful wife opened
my eyes on how I acted and talked to my mother, I was so ashamed. I
was my mother’s favorite and I treated her terribly. I prayed to God
to let me atone for my behaviors, and I enjoyed taking care of my
mother for 5 years, although she could not talk or probably did not
recognize me. When she left the world, my heart was content and I
understood the meaning of a real 'void' in one’s life."
"What a beautiful
show. I'm dealing with a parent who has Alzheimer's and it gets so
frustrating at times that I just want to scream. This show made me cry
and realize how it must feel to my Mother to not remember. THANK
YOU!!!"
"It is so beautiful.
Thank you so much."
"Thank you for
sharing your beautiful gift that God gave to you. The more the gifts
are shared the more beautiful they become. I pray that you will
receive many inspirations as you bless others with the love. God
Bless, Bob"
"Thank you so much.
It is beautiful!"
February 19,
2008
"I love this show,
but a would like to know if you have it in Spanish, this would help me
to send it to many friends who do not understand English very well,
and it will encourage people to see in a different way to old people
and parent, that are reaching the critical age."
[Webmaster's note: I am sorry
but we do not have a Spanish version of the slideshow.']
"Thank you sooooooo
much for sharing this beautiful piece."
"This is one of the
most beautiful presentations I have ever seen, I would love to know
when there will be a copy available to purchase. I think it should be
shown in schools and churches everywhere. I think it would be great to
show the women's organization that I belong to as most of the members
are a senior age. I just think the message is wonderful."
"Oh, my gosh! This
could not have come at a better time. I am dealing with ovarian cancer
for two years now and taking care of an elderly mother who lives
close. She has lost a leg and is suffering from dementia and other
age-related ailments. I sometimes get so impatient with her, I am
ashamed for my harsh words or crankiness. This just set me straight
and made me pray to God to forgive me for every time I was unkind.
Thank you for this inspiration."
"What a beautifully
written message. The timing could not have been more perfect in 'our'
lives since my dear sweet husband of 51 years was recently diagnosed
with Alzheimer’s Disease. Our son, daughter and their families have
been so very loving and caring as their Dad/Poppy and I are learning
to cope with this chapter of our lives. I must admit I did cry through
the entire video. Josh was a perfect choice for the music. May God
Bless and Watch Over You Always!! NJ Gram"
February 18,
2008
"So many times we
forget about the sacrifices our parents made for us, I took care of my
dad when he was sick and dying, he cried when I had to give him his
bath, but I felt good about it for he bathed me when I was young. He
died early the next morning. I will never regret those last 3 weeks
with him."
"My daughter from out
of state sent this to me and her mother. I can relate to this from my
parents many years ago. They taught me many things but at that time I
thought they did not know anything. Now I know it was me who was
wrong. They were very loving Christians. Now we have five grown
children and I look back when I was young and hope the love and
teachings are helping them. I thank you for this site and we have
Joshs' song that we play. Thank you again. God Biess You!"
"This is one of the
most beautiful emails I have ever received, not only because it
reminds us of how one day we will all get there but the way it was
worded and presented too. Thank you for sharing it with all of us !!"
"I have often thought
as a child that one day I will be looking after my Parents as they
have done for me and still are to this day. It's been a fear of mine
to never fall in Love or have a Child and be Married, at the age of 14
I knew it was OK if my fear becomes reality because I would be the
only one of 3 children to not be married and have kids or a wife, my
future is my Family and there is no sacrifice on my behalf for I have
already found Love with out Children or Marriage. My Destiny has been
molded since the first day I was born and I can't wait to care and
grow with my parents as they grow closer to their dying days, I just
wish I could have a nest egg for them saved up but it's so hard to
save when you live on your own with no other income from a spouse,
this has become my fear now, of not having the finances to help my
parent's, for my brother and sister have their own family's to contend
with."
"Wow... I am so
touched by this video. The music and content is awe inspiring. I
recently moved back to Florida to assist my parents. My father is 79
and in very early Alzheimers. But it is a daily struggle for me and my
mother. Watching this gave me the courage in knowing I am doing the
right thing. Thank You! Ana Powell, Jacksonville, Florida"
"I received the
Parent's Wish from one of my A.C.T.S. Sista's and it couldn't have
arrived at a more appropriate time. My in-laws, who are like parents
to me. Are very old, frail and in very bad health. Mom is not doing so
well she has Alzheimer's, dementia, renal failure, cognitive heart
failure, breathing, and occasionally has to be rushed to the hospital
for medical attention. Pops has C.O.P.D. is a chronic Alzheimer's, has
emphysema, continuously contracts bronchitis, upper respiratory
infections, has heart problems, and constantly suffers from back /
vertebra fractures which tomorrow he will undergo another surgery on
his back. The Parent's Wish is a confirmation of what I constantly
tell my children, family, siblings, friends and acquaintances which
is; 'It is our responsibility to lovingly care for our Parents in
their Golden Frail Time of need. They were and continue to be there
for us and our children in our time of need. Surely we can make time
to be there for them in their time of need to hold their hands, hug,
kiss, listen, nurture, try to understand and just be present to them.'
That is priceless to our parents and nothing in the world could ever
mean more to them or take the place of having their children there for
them. I know because I see it in their faces and I often hear it from
Pops and my Mom (Gma Panda) before she passed away. My Siblings In
Christ... if the Parent's Wish touched your hearts... PLEASE ~ PLEASE
understand that your parents need you regardless of their age, health
or needs. Just having their children present is worth much more than
gold and is a priceless gift to them. I pray the good Lord continues
to touch your hearts and many more as the Parent's Wish circulates the
world. Peace and Love of the Lord be with you and yours always. God
Bless You. Lydia R. Mendoza, El Paso, TX"
February 17,
2008
"Awesome! We are
entering the 'twilight' of our lives, and I have been a nurse
for 35 years. I have spent the last 10 years caring for the elderly in
nursing homes, and can relate to this inspiring piece. Thank you so
much for expressing it to eloquently. Alice and Bill, Ewing, KY"
"A wonderful friend,
really a previous girlfriend of about 36 years ago, sent this to
encourage me. This is precious! I have been blessed and enjoyed this
message. It has brought more tears to my eyes than any I have
previously viewed. This was a time capsule released at a very fragile
moment in my life. Recently my parents have become ill and they
appointed me their Power of Attorney. I know this is a tremendous
responsibility. I take the authority with lots of care and prayer. I
want to perform the duties required as I would have others to do to
me. I appreciate them placing the trust in their number one son of
nine children. There is nothing in this world that I have been blessed
with more than my precious parents for the past 55 years. My parents
have been Godly, a servant of the people, my father a minister of the
Gospel for the past 60 years, and my mother as a great help meet;
having great morals, mental, physical and spiritual support, who have
not only taught me the route from earth to Heaven, but in my presence
have been the perfect example."
"Words are trite to
describe the amazing beauty of this presentation... Thank you.
Claudette"
"This bought tears to
my eyes even now as am witting this, note because this is the way I
feel, having m.s. and other health problems at my age 53. No one could
say it any other way like this Parents' Wish. Thank you for forwarding
this on and may God Bless you."
"I Took care of my
sick wife for seven years. I'm glad I did all of the things in the
movie. May all the children do the same for me if needed."
"It is heartbreaking
to realize that some children need to see this in order for them to
realize just what their parent's did for them while they grew up. I
could never imagine not being there for my parents no matter what
medical condition there is. It made me cry but truly tears of memories
of days gone bye! Thank you and may your message continue to make it's
way around the globe. Christopher Tessier"
February 16,
2008
"Thank you so very
much for sharing this incredible site with the world; it is a great
reminder of how much our parents did for us when we were helpless
babies and it will help our children view us 'oldies' with
gentler eyes and a more patient heart. I have thought about something
like this and I am very glad that someone took the time to create this
great presentation. Thank you! Rosely, Niceville FL"
"The email was sent
to me by a very close friend. It touched me in so may ways as I have
lost my father, 3 grandparents, 2 great-aunts and a young aunt. My
mother is reaching 70 and has physical problems--may this video/CD
remind me of the person she is and continuously treat her with the
dignity and love she deserves."
"I thought that the
email was so good and very lovingly put, I hope if my husband or I get
to the stage some people have, I hope they will take a look at this
email and realize what we have done for them and they will do for us,
God Bless you for writing this email....Joan Lee."
"We use the internet
for all kinds of business, communications, pleasures, and just
necessary daily information checks. However, I don’t think I’ve ever
been more inspired than when a friend sent me this touching video.
Having parents and in-laws who are aging, it certainly did touch my
very soul! Thank you."
"The tears would not
stop, I have never received anything so beautiful before, I passed it
on to so many my children, friends and Family. The music was
wonderful, the words filled me with both joy and sadness. Bless You.
Anita Kleinert"
"This is the most
beautiful web site I have ever seen. I play it daily before visiting
with my parents. I love them so much but this site makes me so much
more appreciative. Thank you so much. Carol Marino"
"Absolutely the
greatest email ever, we are on older couple who raised our
granddaughter for a long time and this video made the tears come and
the throat swell up, thank you so much, we put it in our favorites so
we can watch it often."
"This is so
beautiful. Thank you."
"Thank you, I was,
and still am moved to tears each time I play it. Being in our 70's I
hurriedly sent it to our 7 children reminding them that we are not
quite there yet but soon will be, I hope they play it often. What a
wonderful service you have offered by sharing this with so many
people. God Bless and again. THANK-YOU.X"
February 15,
2008
"Just wanted to say
that your video was amazing right and very beautiful. I think I
understand more now. Thank-you. Georgia"
"One of the very best
complete presentations I have ever seen and heard. Although still vary
active we are approaching the age when we need top explain to our
children and this is perfect. Also I have a 93 year old father who is
doing well but it brought in me an awareness of what he and Mum did
for us and now I can do even better for Dad as I am all he has. Thank
you, Thank you, Thank you. Robert Perth, Western Australia"
"The words and
thoughts could have easily from my heart and soul - ah, but that our
children's memories of us from their childhood could serve them better
than they do. Seems they are inclined to 'forget' all the love
and effort we put into raising them to be adults. It would seem the
children are the ones with 'poor memory', not the parents. This
letter needs to be sent to every child from their parent - parents.
Perhaps it would refresh their memory and they would be better able to
understand the thoughts and feelings of an aged parent - as the parent
had to try very hard to understand and recognize all the 'needs'
of that child to guide them in growing up - it was not easy for
parents, and from what I see daily - it is almost impossible for
children. God bless you for this letter, and I pray it will touch the
hearts of many children whose parents need their children's helping
hand and understanding. You have put this into perspective and it is
written beautifully as well. Thank you kindly for this contribution of
your time and talent. N. Baugh Missouri"
"I cried when I
watched the slideshow. I am a caregiver at an Alzhiemer's and assisted
living units. Working with the elderly is such a joy and a honor to be
entrusted with ones loved one or to be the only loving one left to
care for that person. I sent this to several of my directors and they
in turn are sending on to the others. What a tribute to our elderly
and such food for thought for those who take others for granted
Thank-you so much! Wendy Richerme"
"Outstanding!!! I
wish I had known my parents Jim"
"I lost my Daddy on
December 22, 2007. Christmas will never be the same for me. We had his
funeral on December 24, 2007. He had the dreaded illness of
Alzheimer's and resided in the nursing home only four weeks before
having a massive heart attack that took him from us. This was the song
that was played at his funeral, so you cannot imagine how this video
affected me. I still have my Mother, which is a blessing. Many tears
were shed upon watching this video the first time, but now it is
reassuring and comforting. Thank you the song and the video --
~~Ann~~"
"Thank you sooo much
for touching this tender issue. I am an RN currently working in a
Skilled Nursing Facility formerly known as, A Nursing Home. This is
such a poignant vignette with such an important message that I would
be pleased to own my own copy for myself as a reminder, on the days
that I feel, 'My goodness, he must have a shower' or ,
'If she doesn't eat, we'll be doing a a medical work up, try to get a
few bites into her' This is more than a message, what a powerful
teaching tool you have created. I thank God that He has used you to
spread the message which is so clear. May God continue to bless you as
you have blessed me."
"I just wanted to
thank you. I started to cry halfway through your movie - it touched
me, having had parents and grandparents who felt exactly that way. and
now that I am a grandparent myself, I understand. Thank you. Marci"
"My mom committed
suicide when I was 1. I have one younger sister and four brothers. We
are a little stressed to ‘cover’ helping our dad, 85 last
Saturday, with care at home during heart problems, a pacemaker surgery
and chemotherapy. This video and the music made me cry and realize how
lucky we are to be able to spend time with dad and how he has always
been there for us. We have made it through a crisis period of
intensive care and dad didn’t have to go to a rehabilitation facility
or leave his home where he is comfortable. We should feel blessed to
be able to care our dad and that he still is strong enough to want to
live as full a life as he can. One brother who self-employed with a
wife and two boys drives 500 some miles about once a month to be with
dad. He knows how much he will miss him when he can’t see him anymore.
Thank you for reminding us of how lucky we are to have one parent to
care for and love. Anne James, Whittier CA"
"Like everyone this
made me cry. It is SO beautiful. What a message. One we all want to
say but didn't know how. Sent it to my sons with my personal message.
Thanks. Shirley in Canada"
"As a male I seldom
cry but after seeing and listening to this awesome video sent to me by
a friend the tears are still flowing as I write this. With recent
major surgery for breast cancer at 67 I feel that my life is being
shortened and I wanted my 2 daughters to know how much I loved them
and their Mom who passed away from cancer a few years back. I plan to
purchase 'You raise me up' on Josh's web site so I can
play it when thinking of my kids and grandkids, thank you, Gilles"
"I, too, am very
touched by this video. I live with my mother and experience these
things on a daily basis."
"Definitely the most
touching thing I’ve ever seen and one of the most beautiful songs I
have ever heard. I have a Mom who is at that stage in life and it has
been very difficult to accept for me. I have often not had the
patience with her that I should and sometimes I get angry with her
because she forgets or because she is very stubborn and set in her
ways or because she thinks I should be with her all of the time. It
makes me sad to see this once strong and brave woman now reduced to a
feeble person whose biggest daily accomplishment is to walk to the
dining room and eat her meals. Now I see that it’s just the natural
evolution of one’s life. I have been ever so blessed that she has made
it to this point because regardless of her health or condition, it
means I still hear her voice and talk with her and help her in any way
I can. I’m able to give some small part of myself back to her in
return for all of the feelings of love, happiness, and even sorrow she
has shared with me over my lifetime. Thank you for helping me to
better understand and accept who my Mother is and my role in her life.
God Bless. Ronnie G."
"I teared. An amazing
peace of mail received by my uncle. We have so much work that we
hardly have time to call our parents. This mail reminds me of my
childhood. Thank you!!"
"This is just what I
have been looking for I could not find the words myself. Thank you so
much. It made me cry. May God bless you and keep you. Archie"
"Done very beautiful
and very touching."
"I want to tell you
that made me cry and touch my heart because our mother wished to die
and slowly starve herself over the years since my Dad died. She drove
us crazy by doing this act. But we knew she wanted to be with my Dad.
We couldn't understand why she did this. But, we do know why now.
Thanks."
February 14,
2008
"This is a wonderful
presentation, I work for Hospice and I hear my patients say these
things to their loved ones, their greatest fear is losing control over
their life and being a burden to the family. Great patience,
compassion, empathy and the touch of another human being is needed
whether by family or pd. caregivers to insure that our loved ones get
the best possible care they so richly deserve when they are no longer
able to care for themselves. It's our responsibility to continue being
advocates for our family members when life turns the child into the
parent and guardian of those we hold so dear."
"I would like to say
Thank-You for the slideshow Parents' Wish. At this time, I am
taking care of my soon to be 93 year old Father. I have seen a lot of
this in my time with him. And it is very nicely put! It makes me stop
and think."
"Thank you very much
for the beautiful and meaningful slide. I've watch it for few times,
but still tears are in my eyes. Make me always remember on how
wonderful my parents are. Thank you very much. A grateful heart,
Julia"
"I received this from
a beloved sister-in-law who cared for her father for many years as he
declined in health. She was the most loving, gentle, respectful
daughter anyone could ever pray for. Her father was truly blessed by
God to have had her love. I immediately thought of another
sister-in-law who cared for her mother, my mother-in-law, for many
years until her death just this past December 22nd. Both of these
ladies afforded their parent love, patience, dignity and respect. I
sent it to my daughter who, oddly enough, was offended. She thought I
was putting her on a 'guilt trip'. That was never my intent! I
was totally moved by this message. I pray that, when my time comes, my
children will feel these things even though I intend to make plans to
be placed in a nursing home when appropriate. Our elderly have earned
the right to kindness and dignity no matter what! Thank you for this.
Myra in Maryland"
"Thank you for this
wonderful e-mail. I have just lost both my parents to Alzheimer's and
went through this time for five years while looking after them. I wish
I had read this before they were gone. It is all true, and I hope this
inspires all the caregivers out there to understand what the parents
are going through. I think I made both my parents happy and loved, but
if only I could have one more day. Marilyn"
"My brother sent me
this message and while I was reading it I was bursting out with tears.
I'm so sad that I don't get the chance to serve my dad coz he died so
young. Wish he's still alive so I could show him how much I loved him
and thank him for what he had done for me. He gave me the greatest
gift he could give: Love and Care. God bless you for this
inspirational message and hope it will touch millions of lives to
change. Thank you. Bambie."
"This comes at a
time, when my mother had a knee replacement, and awoke in a state of
extreme confusion, a deep dementia. I feel like my world has fallen
apart. For my father, her husband for 58 years, I can't imagine what
he's going through. I am sadden, I don't quite know how to explain or
put into words how I feel. We are Christians, and that is the only
thing I can lean on right now. Someone sent this to me, not knowing
the timing, they can't imagine what it means. Ckvincent"
"The most touching
and true video I have ever seen. Tears flowed down my cheeks as I
watched the video. I am now 65 years old and recently widowed, so this
really hit home. Thank you for making this available to everyone, God
bless you all. Judy"
"There are so many
families where only one parent is left that it would be nice to be
singed another way. I am to close to this to even send it to my
children. Thank you for the beautiful piece."
"That was so heart
felt and I just wanted o cry. Sometimes we get impatient with our
parents but we do need to step back and really look at all they have
done for us. Must learn to have the love and patients for them as they
have had with us. Remember that when they are gone they are gone and
being angry and impatient with them is not the remembrance we want to
have. Thank you for that inspiring clip it really did touch my heart
and make me think of my mom whom I still have now and dad whose
deceased. Baby"
February 13,
2008
"I am a Geriatric
Certified Nurse Assistant Of Almost 15 years and during that time I
not only provided care for many, many parents but for my dad as well.
People do not comprehend this 'transition' from a healthy,
independent person, gradually to needing assistance with what we call
the activities of daily life. You can not begin to imagine the loss of
dignities associated with it until you are there."
"This is beautiful.
Mom lived with us for a long time, many of these things happened in
that time. She lived to be almost 102 years old, and I still miss her
every day. Your advice is on the mark. Thanks for this beautiful
slideshow. Beth"
"Thank you so much. A
friend, knowing that my mother passed on 4 Jan 07, sent Parents'
Wish to me. I truly believe this message is helping me to heal and
deal with my loss."
"Thank you so very
much for your work with this slideshow presentation. You've definitely
been inspired by 'The Great Muse'!"
"As a guy who just
turned 60 and had quadruple by-pass, I am seeing more and more of a
memory problem. What was presented in the slide presentation reminded
me of my parents who are both deceased, and my children, and more
importantly, daily I see myself in my parents' elder years. This was
so moving I had to watch it 3 times, and send it to all the people in
my address book."
"Dear Mom and Dad: I
would like to thank you for the inspiring video. I will continue to
listen to you and honor what I can. I will visit often if not daily. I
will be here to hold your hand, to assist you in walking, bathing, or
changing an undergarment. I will do that proudly, for they are my
parents. Please understand, that as your adult child I have a huge
responsibility to you, my parent. I understand that as you age, you
are not the same person who raised me. I understand, as you age, your
health may decline. I will take care of you. As you have told me
several times in the past, 'Don't be afraid, You can do this! I am
here for you!', I am now saying this to you. You, my dear parent,
are deserving of that. With all my love, Your child."
"Such a beautiful and
meaningful creation!"
"You will never know
how much this is appreciated. Thanks so much. Gayle"
"I work in a long
term care setting and this would be a wonderful presentation for
family members and staff to view. Thank you for an excellent thing."
"Thank you! How
inspiring :)"
"Beautiful job. Thank
you. Donna."
"Absolutely
marvelous! Made me think and appreciate those who have guided me. This
should inspire everyone who sees it to have more compassion,
understanding and patience. John in Ohio"
"I was just emailed
this today and moved by the contents."
February 12,
2008
"You have the most
beautiful voice and you sing like you have lived every word, please
never stop. Wanda Blessing"
"What a wonderful
reminder of what my mother did for me. She is 82, lives with my
husband and I, and has Alzheimer's and dementia. It can often be very
difficult to cope with the mood swings, forgetfulness, repeats of the
same things over a million times. I wish I could have this play
continuously, until I know every line by heart. So that no matter how
difficult the day has been I would never forget it's amazing message.
God Bless you, no, God HAS Blessed you, by giving you this gift to
pass on to the many that need it so much. Thank you. Nancy Linn Creek,
MO"
"Thank you. This is
an awesome video. Gail"
"I was very moved by
the slide presentation and as always Josh in the background tucked
away in my heart. I just lost my mother and each clip reminded me so
much of what the elderly wish for and what we try to do or make them
do, it really opened my eyes. I have passed this on to others so they
can find inner peace."
"My grandmother told
me, when I was a young girl 'Be careful how you treat your babies,
because that's how they'll treat you when you are old!' In my half
century as a maternal child nurse, I have repeated that saying many,
many times. Your video 'tells it like it is', and brought me to
tears, even after decades as an RN. I am now 77, and I am observing
the 'flip' side of this with a 92-year-old relative in a
nursing home, Unfortunately, watching how elderly parents are treated
may well give some inkling of how they themselves treated their
children."
"Thanks for sharing
this to everyone that was nice enough to receive it. Gerry"
"This was truly the
most beautiful message that I have seen in a long time. Thank you! May
God bless you and your family."
"This is the most
amazing e-mail I have ever received. This wonderful country of ours
needs to sit back, watch this inspiring video and benefit from the
lesson this story teaches. God bless everyone involved in making and
sharing it. Cathy"
"Someone forwarded
Parent's Wish to me a few days ago. I was and still am very much
moved by the music, pictures and especially the wording. I am
caregiver to my Mother who is 94 years young - she is a lovely person
whom I dearly love and with whom I am struggling because of the
problems and changes taking place due to her advanced age. The video
touched on so many of the issues confronting us, it is so moving,
powerful and eloquent."
"My Aunt sent me the
Parent's Wish today and I cried like a baby. I sent it to my sister
and she cried. It is such a true and beautiful video, the words are so
very true. I sent it to my dad and just received an email from him
saying it made him very sad. I'm not sure if he meant that as a good
thing or a bad thing. I just wanted to say it is one of the best
things I have read in such along time, I just lost my dear Mother,
seven months ago after reading this I sent it to all of my kids. I
have four grown children and two still at home. I just wanted to say
Thank you, and God Bless."
February 11,
2008
"My wife and I
both cried. We have old ones nearing that time.......we have time to
be patient. How soon we forget what they have tried to do for us".
"While writing this
with tear blurred eyes, from the peace it gave me from the sorrow of
having my Grandmother, Father, and Mother, all wanting to go in their
own time, I have to say 'Thank You' for this. I regret a lot of
the things that I didn't do for my parents before, now wishing that I
had, but I now have a better understanding of them. I wished I had
seen this long before now. Then maybe instead of wishing for better
parents I would have strived to be a better child. GOD BLESS YOU."
"I think your slide
show and the music were beautiful but I only have one request. It
should be done for single parents, as they too, love their children
just as much. I know the natural order of things or the politically
correct thing is Dad and Mother but that is not always how it turns
out in the real world. My children's dad left me with 6 children,
married a girl young enough to be his daughter, and never looked back
at the children or me, so you see I could not send your slide show for
my children to read and enjoy, since and not to my choosing, I was the
only parent my children really had for most of their lives."
"As I approach my
70th year, I fully absorbed the beautiful message and music with a
full heart. I have forwarded it to my 4 daughters. Thank you for
expressing something that no one wants to talk about. Gayle"
"I recently lost my
mom, but took care of her for 2 full years in an assisted living
apartment. My uncle sent me this e-mail, and I can't view it without
welling up with tears. I have 5 sons of my own. It is such a reality
check, for younger people."
"What an amazing
slideshow!"
"This is a beautiful,
heart-warming, and thought provoking slide-show. I am a parent and a
recent (10 months now) grandparent. I lost my parents quite a while
ago...but have a lot of non-related, extended family parents. God
Bless whoever put it together and continues to make it available to
the rest of us. K. Groth / Hansville, Wa"
"Thank You. This was
absolutely beautiful. It brought many tears and rightfully so. I have
emotions over my own aging parents as well as the 600 residents I work
with day in and day out at Sunset Association."
"This has so well
defined where we are and where we are going, both for us, our parents,
and our children. Thank you for such a stellar program and for sharing
it. Judy : )"
"This was sent to me
by a loving and wonderful daughter who said it expressed what was in
her heart. I cannot imagine a more rewarding compliment. I only wish
that some day her daughter might send this to her."
"I am a social worker
at a local nursing home in Erie, PA. It is absolutely beautiful."
"We are a non-profit
organization that provides housing for Seniors. I was very impressed
by your slide show and we hope to use it as a training tool for our
staff in the future."
"This must be great
to see if you had a parent like that but many have had abusive parents
and none of this applies. However it does let us know what abused
children missed - the patience and caring and nurturing. And later the
pressure to behave toward an elderly person in ways for which there is
no precedence or model to follow. The video brings sadness in more
ways than than the comments posted here."
"If only more people
realized how true this is for one day it will be us."
February 10,
2008
"This was awesome!
Pulled the tears out of me, that I have held in for too long! Aggie"
"That's good and the
best film since it has closed captioned on it which I'm Deaf, and I've
been around with Adoption children tried to teach them as manner which
that film is big example of manner in Life, I shall bless that
movements. Thanks for making like that!"
"I teach CNA students
to be caring, productive nurse assistants. This video would be the
perfect start and end of class. Can I purchase this so that it
downloads to a DVD or a flash drive? Thanks for the beautiful and
moving video. It captures so many of the issues our students see and
deal with on a daily basis."
"This was the second
time I had the opportunity to view your slide show, both times I
thought how well done it was! The first time was before I took a job
in a facility working with various levels of elders. Having now had
the experience of dementia and Alzheimer's for both the patients and
their family members, my hat is off to the creators! Further, I think
that your slide show would be enormously beneficial for newly hired
employees in this field. It is a wonderful reminder that the patients
that we serve are human! P. Alonso"
"I thank my friend
for forwarding this beautiful message and I commend your good deed of
spreading this amazing and heart-melting video. I am a daughter who
loves and respects my parents so much. When I saw this video, I was
very much touched and I cried because I want to give all the best for
my parents more than what I've done before and I said to myself, 'I
have to love and respect them the more'. To all the parents in the
world, 'I COMMEND YOU!'. -aries0417
"I received this
email and I have an 18 month son and he is my world and this email
moved me like no other. I love it. Thank you for sharing."
February 9,
2008
"This has to be the
best e-mail that I have ever received, I will forward it on to all of
my friends and relatives and will keep it in my favorites file. It is
beautiful and so true, Thank you so much for sharing it."
"This is the most
inspirational video that I have watched in a long long time. Three
years ago we had to take care of my husband's father that was 94 and
had just lost his wife of 68 years. She was 84 and was my husband's
mother. He did not want to live after she passed and we were at a loss
as to how to deal with him. This video would have helped us. As it
was, we did our best, and he lived four more months and I think he
enjoyed those months because we were there and he knew we wanted that
time with him. It was a precious gift from him."
"Wow! I don't know
what else to say. I sit here with tears streaming down my face and
feeling a lot of guilt. I find myself complaining when my Mom asks to
to do things for her even though I know she is capable of doing them
herself. I find myself being short with her and not patient enough. I
should be ashamed of myself, because there is going to come a day that
that I wish she was around to ask me to do things for her. Life cannot
get that busy for me to where I can't just drop what I am doing to
her. She did it for me when I was young. Thank you for this beautiful
presentation and for reminding me that life is precious and so are my
parents. I will definitely change my attitude and have more patience
for them starting right now. They are still fairly young and healthy
but anything can happen to them today to where I need to be there for
them. This really brings things into perspective for me. I will save
this presentation in my email and watch it periodically to remind me
of all the things my parents have done for me. I will also send this
to my 2 daughters just to remind them how very much I love and
appreciate them. When you're young you don't even think about getting
old and needing help. It seems so far away, but it really isn't. God
bless you!"
"A few days ago I
received an email from my daughter that touched me and encouraged me
to continue the journey that not only I but my five siblings and their
spouse have been on for many years. Our family is close and closer
still because of the journey. Our mother never drove and my father
worked out of state a lot of the times. We made sure that whatever we
could do to help the family was done. Our mother was a Godly woman and
went about caring for her family. She worked hard as did my dad. As
time went on her health failed and demanded more of our time. She only
ask two things of us: 1) that if possible we keep her at home.
We were able to do that and shared in the most precious time of our
life. She went to be with her Lord and Saviour on March 21, 2007 at
the age of 82 with most of us at her side. 2) that we take care of
our dad and if possible keep him at home. Thus far we have been
able to do this. Almost a year has passed and his health failing
rapidly. He is 85 and has grieved so much. His desire is to be with
mom and we know he will be when God is ready for him. Parent's Wish
touched me so because without thinking we as children and now adults
have honored are Mom and Dad. To God be the Glory. Thank you for the
encouragement through this movie. God Bless You."
"How beautiful and
moving, straight from the heart. I couldn't help but cry when I
watched this. My mother had dementia, my brother has it now and I see
how drastically their lives have changed, from vibrant personalities
to not even knowing who I was many times. I sent this to all four of
my children, believing with all my heart that if this is my cross to
bear some day, that they will show compassion. I am sixty six years
old and have seen my self slow down, not thinking as fast as I once
did and also knowing, yes, I will be like that one day. May God
instill in all our children love, compassion, and understanding to our
elderly people, for but by the grace of God, there are we also. Thanks
for this masterpiece of love."
"Hi just listening to
Parents' Wish and can so relate to what he sang. My Father is
in the early stages of Alzheimers and am seeing some of the things he
sings about... Man it certainly tears at your heart. Well done.. Keep
on doing what you do. W. in Canada"
"We get lots of
videos, emails and pictures of a wide variety of things. Most of it is
pretty much crap and not worth forwarding, answering nor saving. This
is by far the best video ever. I will send it to all my FRIENDS AND
children. It says so much not only for those that follow behind but
about what we need to consider when we are lucky enough to still be a
child to one of our parents."
"I just received one
of the most beautiful emails from a friend of mine. I work in a
nursing home and I see this everyday. Children not understanding their
parent or loved one. I just wish that everyone could see this and
learn from it. Donna"
"If only our children
would listen to this. You have done a beautiful job. My wife viewed
this and cried. not because we are old, but because today's youngsters
do not want to hear this. Bless you."
"While reading this I
remembered my grandmother who suffered from dementia, and watching my
mom, and aunts take care of her, with love. This is so utterly moving,
that it moved me to tears with the memory of my grandmother. Thanks
for giving a voice to those who sometimes cannot."
"Thanks for what you
do....lc"
"This is by far the
most touching e-mail I have ever received. I cried like a baby, as I
lost my father, who suffered with Alzheimers, last November. What a
soul stirring reminder of the aging process. Ironically, more often
than not, as we get older we revert back to childlike behavior,
especially with Alzheimers. I often felt so inadequate when caring for
my dad, as I remembered how he loved me, protected me and cared for my
every need when I was growing up. Thank you for your perseverance to
see this through and publish it on the web again. God bless you for
touching so many lives in this way. It's a message that bears
repeating over and over. Donna"
"I am an 81 year old
widow, and this is the most beautiful thing I have ever read on the
internet."
"I just watched this
video again this morning, and it touched me again as it has every time
I have watched it. I can see my mother and father before their deaths
and know they were saying the same things. I intend to send this to my
2 sons and 2 daughters. I know the daughters will understand, but I am
not sure about the sons. Even though they are in their 40's, they have
some maturing to do. My MIL has rapidly advancing Alzheimer's which
has to be the worst disease there is. I will send this to my
sister-in-law as she is one who is closest to her. Thank you so much
for making this available. Shirley in Indiana"
"Thank you for making
that song. I think it was wonderful and the truth. It really did touch
my heart. I hope you keep making songs like that."
February 8,
2008
"This is beautiful. I
work with elderly religious women. These sisters are the women upon
whose shoulders we younger women religious stand."
"This is truly an
'Awesome' slideshow!! I lost my Dad to cancer at 76 in 1986, and
my husband at 51 in 2003, and my Mom to Alzheimers at 82 in 2005. But
she thought she was still living with my Dad in the 50's or 60's. Can
any of you imagine how hard it is to tell your Mom over and over amd
over that her husband had been gone for almost 30 years. And that her
parents can't come to see her. She would ask everytime I went to see
her, in the nursing home, if I had talked to my daddy. Among others
that already had passed on. The day before she died, she had a bad
stroke, but she gave me the most beautiful smile. I keep that smile in
my memory, but it still doesn't take the pain away of missing her. I
am 54 now and I know one day that might be me going through what she
did. Please cherish all your loved ones, you never know when you are
going to loose them. Thanks again for the slideshow. GDF-from GA."
"Absolutely the most
beautiful E-mail I have ever received. Josh Groban needs to thank you.
I went to Barnes and Noble (my favorite hang-out) and bought his CD
with 'You Raise Me Up' because of this site. I have sent this
site to all those I know and have received nothing but kudos back.
Next I'll try sending it to Cable Stations (hint, hint to all those
who love the site) to promote it. Thanks again."
"I just got thru
watching your slide show. It is great I took care of my mother-in law,
she had dementia, macular degeneration, a bad heart, diabetes, and
hearing aids. My mother has dementia, acute depression, she has had
cancer surgery on her colon. She also has osteoporosis. She is still
living at home with my dad who is not in the best of health his self.
You really have hit the nail on the head as an old saying goes. I am
going to send this to everyone on my e-mail list. Thank you again.
Sherry"
"Simply Divine... so
touching and oh so many memories of my precious mother and father who
both live in my heart today and always... as I grow older, I realize
how incredibly fortunate me and my two sisters are to have had such
incredible, caring and loving parents who virtually saw to our every
need emotionally, financially, educationally and on and on.... THANK
YOU IMMENSELY for your steadfast determination to get this fabulous
video out to the public, YOU obviously had incredible parents as wel
.. .again, a hearty THANKS from Texas!"
"For many years, I
worked as a nursing assistant in a facility that specialized in caring
for people with Alzheimer's and other forms of senile dementia. I have
held my patients' hands as I helped them walk down to the dining room
for meals. I have wiped away their tears, telling them there was no
reason to be embarrassed because of an 'accident.' I have
laughed with them as they watched the same Lawrence Welk re-run for
the thousandth time. My heart cried out with joy when they would hug
me and thank me for just being there for them. One day, though, I
stopped being the caregiver who could go home at the end of the day.
My parents, who are in their eighties, became more and more dependent
on my sister and me, especially my mother. It has been so hard to
practice what I preached all those years to all those families who
were tested to the limits of their patience and their resources. Your
wonderful message has reminded me why I did what I did for my
patients, and more importantly, has helped me replenish the strength I
need to help my parents. I love you, Mama and Daddy, and I only hope I
can be one millionth as good to you as you have always been (and still
are) to me. All my love...from your daughter."
"I am 68 years old. I
lost my wife 2 years ago at the age of 64. I play this over and over
and each time it brings tears to my eyes. I sent this to my 3
children. I know they will understand. Thank you Josh"
"This was very
realistic for us. We aren't quite there yet, but moving along very
quickly in the direction. We sent it to all of our 5 children. At
first I was disappointed at the quality of the music, then I got to
thinking that it sounded just like the old wind-up grammophone we had
a home when I was a kid! I am sure now the sound is the way it is
intentionally."
[Webmaster's note: For
the benefit of those who have slower internet connection, we had to
reduce the compression ratio of the background music which resulted to
an inferior quality. In the CD/DVD version of the slideshow that we
are still in the process of obtaining copyright permissions, the
background music will be in its original quality.]
"I am only an 11 year
old girl, and this movie has really touched me. Now I know that I
should push away all those awkward feelings when I am with my older
family members. Thank you. Jesse Ann Ledbetter"
"I work for a
not-for-profit extended care organization, and like most people, our
Education team was moved by this presentation that we would like to
show it at our orientations."
"I want to commend
you on a well put together presentation. I care for my mother who is
66 and my grandmother who is 86. There are 3 generations in one house
and I would not trade it for the world. My grandmother has Alz/Dem and
I try to just let her live her life to the fullest and do things with
them to make them happy. Although they have much joy, I can really
relate to the messages that each slide touched on because I live these
quotes everyday with the both of them at different levels and I it
makes me have joy also. This presentation just helped me to put things
into perspective and rejoice."
"I am so grateful for
such beautiful thoughts. May our children remember when we are so hard
to get along with. We don't mean to be, we love you my dear children.
May God always bless you. Mom"
"This is a very nice
piece--I am only almost 60 though, and I'm having a hard time relating
to this just now. I am striving to never be in a condition to put my
children in that position. I'm going to make a point to do the healthy
thing and try to eek out those 113 years our bodies are supposed to
last!"
"How very appropriate
and touching for everyone. Please, please notify me when and if this
becomes available on CD. Thank you for a very moving and touching
video. As someone who is 'raising' a parent it brings tears to
my eyes and makes me stop and think how lucky I am to have that
honor."
"Absolutely beautiful
– my only criticism would be that the sound and the pictures are
somewhat distorted. Initially this is distracting but the message is
so powerful that it overcomes these deficiencies. Overall inspiring!"
[Webmaster's note: To
prevent viewing the slideshow with a disproportionate size ratio,
click on NORMAL VIEW while the slideshow is playing]
February 7,
2008
"I want to salute to
you for this email. I think it makes people think young and old what
goes on with someone getting older and someone who had passed on what
they went thru. I thank you so much for all the time and effort you
had to put together getting this email up and on the computer. Thank
you again. Nina"
"I want to thank you
for the beautiful message you are sending and this should be given to
every family so they can prepare for this journey...what goes around,
comes around...Robert Munsch writes terrific stories about this same
subject...this is truly a gift and so are our families."
"I had gotten this
email a while back and I forwarded it then. I just came across it
again and now I forward it because it's so powerful. My family has
been through so much over the last couple of years and everytime I
hear this song I get inspired. Thank you so much, Josh...you are truly
the best! I love your music, especially this song. Now I have a
favorite...NOEL! God bless you for your beautiful voice! Colleen"
"I am a care giver
for Alz. and Dem. people and this is so true; and it is so very
beautiful, yes you made me cry, but it was a good cry. Thank You"
"I just got the email
today, and was so moved by it, I could not stop crying. My mother is
in a nursing home for the last six years, and is in the last stages of
Alzheimers. Three years ago, I would never have believed the horrific
change than can happen to such a wonderful person. She is a shell of
what she used to be. There is no hope. This video should be shown in
all nursing homes in the USA. Maybe that would give the workers there
some clue of what they and their family members are going through.
Maybe that would stop them from laughing, or get so annoyed with the
patients. Maybe they will realize, if it can happen to my wonderful
mother, it can happen to them too. No one knows what the future
brings. Life certainly can play a trick on you. God Bless, Lori"
"The music was
beautiful. I would, however, like to have the words and pictures in a
booklet. Thanks for sharing your talent and this very meaningful
message."
"This touched me very
much. I am 73 & hope when I send this to my 5 children they will
remember this in a few years if this happens to me. This is a very
touching and real poem. Jaf Florida"
"I have been seen
this a few times and each time I cry. My son just sent it to me, so it
made it more special to know that he thought of us. I have sent it to
my children so they could understand what it will mean be a parent. To
love one another, as Jesus loved us. Each of us will travel this road
and it is comforting to know that we are not alone and our children
will be there to hopefully understand it all. I did it for my parents
and my husband's and it is a rewarding experience to be there for
others when they need you. For God is always there for us."
"I love it. Lancebert
Clarke"
"Thank you so much
for putting this together."
"I thought this was
the greatest, I sent to my daughters. I am in my fifties now, but my
mom is 81 almost 82 and she is very active but I see things that are
coming about. Thank you for reminding me how it should be. Virginia"
"I have gone through
your site and found it very touching... God bless u all."
"This is a really
beautiful presentation. I cried when I saw it."
February 6,
2008
"Thank you! Yesterday
marked three years since my father died. I was fortunate enough to be
with him to the end and spent many a Friday lunch with him in the last
year. I wish it had been more but he lived out of town. Although I
feel very blessed to have had what I did and I treasure the time I
have left with my mother. I pray that I have raised my sons to
understand me when I get old."
"I was touched by the
video. It can only be understood by the process of time. Thank you"
"This is very moving,
for I have taken care of both of my parents, still taken care of my
Dad, my sweet Mother has passed on and have also taken care of a dear
friend who is like a grandmother to me. This is a many 'tissue',
site."
"Thank you so much
for this wonderful E-Mail-Story. My wife and I are 61 years old and
our Grandparents and Parents have moved on --- We miss them a lot. We
have 5 daughters, 4 son in laws, and 4 grandchildren and because of
this E-Mail I hope that it will give them all an understanding of how
we feel about all that is important and meaningful in life, so that
when we decide to step out early and avoid the hard and brutal
times.....It will give them peace and resolve. Thank you again..."
"Oh my, what an
awesome amazing thing you have done. I am a nursing assistant and I
specialized in Alzheimers and hospice. Most people do not understand
what their loved ones are actually are going through. I myself have
always tried to explain to have a lot of patience and always make sure
your loved one knows how much you love them. Even if they hit you,
step back give them time, they still love you, even if they swear at
you, leave the room, give them time, they still love you, the best
thing children can do for their parents is to try to understand the
terrible disease that's eating their parents bodies to death.
Especially dementia and Alzheimers. I have saw time after time when
patients couldn't remember their own children. But when they would
leave they would hug them and tell them to be sure to come back. Out
of 30 years of experience I think I could write a book. BUT YOU MY
FRIEND, DID A MUCH BETTER JOB. MAY GOD BLESS YOU!"
"I was sent this
e-mail and am touched by it."
"Thank you so much.
God uses many different angels."
"Thank you for such a
beautiful gift; I immediately sent this to two of my friends who are
watching their parents regress through Alzheimer's disease. I also
sent it to my brothers and sisters--we need to hear this message. My
Dad fell, I picture him alone, outside, on the ground struggling to
get up and remembered how many times he picked me up, and kissed my
knee to make it all better. Yes, we each need to hear and live this
message."
"What a great way to
be remembered. Response to Sheryl in Minneapolis Sorry you feel this
way. With a lot of luck in your life, you may live to experience what
they are talking about. Don't know your age, but your response sounds
like you can't get along with older people. R Hartness (and still
going strong at 73)"
"Beautiful and very
moving. Well done!"
"Thank you for for
this and the opportunity to share with others."
"Thank you so much
for sharing this. I tend to get impatient with my mother when she has
repeated the same story over and over again. It reminded me of all she
did and still tries to do for all of her children and that I need to
enjoy the time I have left with my mother. Thanks for the Blessings!
Elaine, Charleston, WV"
February 5,
2008
"Oh, beautiful!!"
"I would just like to
say that was so beautiful. Who ever thought of putting that on the
computer is a very smart person. Thank you."
"I thought this was
beautiful. I sent it on to my own daughter. I am disappointed because
you allowed negative comments to be published in this section. It is
very sad that people have not learned the lesson most of us were
taught in childhood: 'If you can't say anything nice, then don't
say anything at all'. If someone happened not to like this, then
they are cold-hearted people, and should keep their opinions to
themselves. It doesn't hurt them in any way at all to simply ignore
the show and make no comment at all concerning it. Why are they
allowed to diminish it for the rest of us? This being said, I will be
watching this many times. It sincerely touches upon many important
issues of growing old. I have lived these things from both sides now,
first caring for my own parents, and possibly soon needing the same
support from my own child. Thanks for publishing this. Peace and Love,
Caroline Witte"
[Webmaster's note.
Thank you for reminding me. I was just reading the introduction to the
Feedback and it says "If you have been inspired by the Parents' Wish
presentation...", which means this feedback is only for the vast
majority of people who enjoyed the slideshow. From now on, I will now
ignore the negative comments that are few and far between.]
"Thank you, Josh, for
saying so well what we as children cannot put into words. I am 63
years old and have taken care of my Dad who died with Alzheimers in
2001, and now I am watching my Mother go through the same thing all
over again. She is in a nursing home as well. I kept her at home as
long as I could, but I finally realized that I could not give the care
she needed. I hope that children of aging parents will be kind, loving
and compassionate and realize that the best care is not necessarily in
the home, so don't feel guilty if a nursing facility comes into the
picture. They know you are doing the best thing for them. Josh, I
would love to get a copy of the song you sang behind the video. What
is the name of it? and how can I get it? God bless you."
[Webmaster's note: The
title of the background music of the slideshow is 'You Raise Me Up' by
Josh Groban. You can buy it from his website at:
http://www.joshgroban.com/)
"I really enjoyed the
experience of reading and listening to the music. I learned al lot
about love and dying from caring for for my parents. Dad had dementia
from small strokes and I was able to have conversations with him even
though he didn't know who I was. I loved the conversations. Mother was
too proud to admit that she might have a memory problem, but I was
with her to the end (101) and she always knew who we were. It made me
peaceful that I was able to help my parents, and learned things about
live and death that my siblings will never learn. However, I thought
about people who do not have the kind of parenting that your video
describes. Thank you for the video."
"Depressing stuff.
You want me to let my parents say they want to die and do nothing? I
should let them not eat? If they are suffering from depression, they
need help! Sheryl Minneapolis"
"Thank you!"
"My friend sent me
this and I almost deleted it, you know oh 'I don't have time'
to read all this messages, but something made me open this one and I
am so grateful I did. What a powerful message and it brought me to
tears, I think of my Mom who has fought many battles over the years
and my Dad who is a Cancer survivor and I thank God every day for
them. This was a truly amazing email and hope that everyone that took
the TIME to read it and was as moved as I was. May God bless each and
everyone one of us with his love, and may the road that we travel in
the days ahead keep us full of joy and happiness."
"What a beautiful
thing you did in this presentation."
"This was the most
encouraging e-mail for any one to receive. It make a person realize
how everyone old or young are an important part of your life. It even
brought tears to my eyes just listening to the song and reading the
phrases. I look back at my grandparents and wonder if there was
something different I should have did. From this day forward, I have a
different out look on my elders. Thanks for having made this e-mail
possible and letting it open my eyes."
February 4,
2008
"This is so awesome!!
It made me weep both thinking of my dear father who died in 1997 with
Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s as well as my mother now at 79 who has
breast cancer and and is so ready to go home and be with the Lord and
my Dad. Thank you for this beautiful tribute to our parents---it is a
message that needs to be heard!"
"I just wanted to let
you know that my mother emailed me this link a year ago after I saw
her watching it on our computer. Now a year later when my 92 year old
grandfather juts passed away, I watched it again. Although it affected
me deeply the first time, it was a great reminder of what a great
father/grandfather he was but also how great my mom was in taking care
of my grandfather in his last years. Thank you for allowing this to
not only reach out to children but also grandchildren!"
"I received this
movie on an e-mail from a dear friend. It is the most outstanding
wording and music I have ever seen, especially for this very important
theme. I would love to send it to so many people in book form so that
we can all sit and read it from time to time to remind us to be
patient with our parent. So, are there any plans to make this into a
book for those who are not internet folks?"
[Webmaster's note: We do not
have a lot of request for such so we will have to focus our efforts on
the CD/DVD version due to lack of resources for the job]
"I just received this
piece from a very dear friend of mine. He knew I had lost my mother at
Christmas time 2002 and that my father is now 80 years old. A Parents'
Wish was so moving to me I thanked him immediately (through the
tears). I sent it to my only daughter and I made sure my Dad would see
it also. Keep up the wonderful work! We need more like this to give us
all a wake-up call to be able to say I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT
before it's to late. God Bless, Bonnie Klingman"
"Words cannot express
the feelings I had as I watched this video. First as a daughter I
thought of my aging mother and was made aware that I have not told her
lately how much I love her and appreciate all that she has done for
me, but it also inspired me to be more understanding of her. Second as
a health care worker It made me see my older patients in a new light.
I have always tried to treat them with respect, however i have been
frustrated at times waiting for answers. This has helped me to renew
my vow as a nurse to treat them with respect, dignity and patience.
Thank you so much for this beautiful inspiration. Keep up the good
work. Jenny"
"Thank you so much
for this wonderful video. It was very touching as I watched this the
tears just started rolling down my face. I thought of my mother who I
lost unexpectedly. Thanks for sharing AP KC, KS"
"I have 8 children
and I need it. I am 70 yrs of age and it hit the point. Thank you."
"I was really touched
and misty eyed cause I remembered my Mom and it really hurt me most
when she died that I was not on her side and not able to attend her
funeral cause I don't have money for the fare until now I still have a
pain in my heart for the last time I did not see my MAMA anymore."
February 3,
2008
"My 'OWN'
mother sent this to me and she told me to have a handful of tissues
close by when I opened up her e-mail. Right again she was. This
was truly a tear jerker and tugged at every string to my heart! I wish
I could have had the privilege of having this article when I was doing
hair at a 'Retirement Home'. I would have tried my hardest to
see that this was posted in the enclosed glass showcase at the
Entrance’ at the Home! Thank-you for such beautiful wording. Sarah
(Sally) Paulsen. Blaine,Wa"
"I had my mother in
law send me your slide show. It was very beautifully done. I hope it
opens hearts and minds and ministers to the needs of the elderly and
their children."
"This piece was put
together just beautiful...and so very true as my parents are 87 and 90
years old walking with canes and need help.. If only everyone
understood people that age need compassion and a little TLC. Thank you
so much for sharing..J.H. from WI"
"This was so
beautiful. Every family should share this video. It will help us all
to remember what is really important in life. Thank you for sharing
these beautiful thoughts. I love Josh Groban as well!"
"My wife and I lost
our son of 25 years suddenly and her dad and my dad in the last 4
years. When I ran the slide show I got lump and cried but the message
is what I too wish for my children. Well put together and thought out,
God Bless."
"I was the primary
caregiver for my 92 year-old father. This power point brought back so
many good memories. It made me realize how precious those years were.
I am proud to know did my best with him as he with me. My father went
to sleep in the Lord May 28, 2005 Thanks. BJ O' Neal"
"It is an incredible
picture of the circle of life."
"I just sent this to
my sister in law. I have lost my parents already and she doesn't
realize how lucky she is to still have her mom even if she is not 'perfect'
anymore in her eyes. It breaks my heart every time she talks unkindly
about her mom and I just want to say 'She's your mom no matter how
old and feeble she is. Love her while you can and be proud of her no
matter what...she's your mom.' I hope this video will finally make
her realize how lucky she is to still have her mom. I will forward
this to lots of friends and I wish you could make this a 'have to
view' for all nursing home workers. Thank God for parents!
"This is just
beautiful, and oh so very true. Thank you for sharing it with us. I am
63 years old next month, and I thank God that my Daughter understands
the aging process. We only have one child, but she was with me all the
way during the 4 1/2 years that I looked after my Mother who had
Alzheimer's disease. My Daughter and I went to classes to learn how to
deal with living with loved ones with Alzheimer's disease, and when I
needed a break, she was so very willing to look after Mom. It was a
very difficult journey for us, and unfortunately, due to health
reasons myself, we had to put Mom in a PCH. It hurt me so much, but I
am so very glad that I spent that much time with my Mom when she was
living with me. So very difficult at times, but patience and
perseverance got my Daughter and I through it. My Mom lived at the PCH
for 5 years, and I saw her every day. There is nothing worse than to
watch those you love so much deteriorate like Mom did, then at the age
of 93 years old, her journey ended, and a peaceful one began. There is
not a day that I don't think of her, and the changes that I would have
made if I were able to look after her again in her final years. Thanks
again. Sincerely Joy"
"Impressive! I very
much appreciated the slide. And very much touching to me, a tears
comes out."
"Broke my heart. My
parents passing is still very fresh for me (past 2 and 3 years).
Profound words with meaning beyond all. But left me with peace and
comfort."
February 2,
2008
"Many thanks for
taking the time that you have done to make this beautiful piece easily
accessible to those of us with slower computers. I must admit I howled
when I read it for the first, second, third ..... times and have sent
it on to all my family and friends and i know that they will
appreciate this heart touching wish. Thank you once again."
"I lost my 89 year
old mother just over a year ago. She had MS, lived in a convalescent
hospital and was wheelchair-bound for many, many years. So many of the
situations expressed are ones I personally experienced. I have a
little niche in my home that is devoted to her and I’d love to have
this poem displayed there as well."
"I see a lot of
emails, but this one really got to me. Great presentation on a tough
subject. RD Payson,AZ"
"I started watching
this thinking my adult children should see this to understand me. As
the tears rolled down my cheeks, I realized I should have seen it to
understand my own parents, especially my Father. How could I have been
embarrassed about food on his shirt when he was busy loving and living
life to the fullest? Barb Keathley"
"It reminded me of
the depth of my love for my sons and a hope that that love is felt by
them. An amazing video and probably sung best my Josh Groban."
"This is so
beautiful, and such an awesome reminder of where our parents are at. I
will play this over many times to remind me how to better help and
understand the people in my life and how they wish to be treated.
Tears of understanding came freely as I read the words and listened to
the song. I have passed this along to many family members and
friends."
"This was very
moving. It was sent to me and wish I had it sooner thanks."
"What a beautiful
tribute to our parents. I loved it, and still have tears running down
my face. I lost my Mother and Father recently. I hope all that read
this appreciate and love their parents. MH"
February 1,
2008
"I just viewed your
site today and have been so moved to tears I can't think straight."
"Our daughter who
lives many miles away sent this to us. It is very beautiful and full
of meaning for my husband and me as we are living our lives in our
seventies. Blessings to you and to her. HB"
"I just received the
Parents' Wish and I found it VERY touching."
January 31,
2008
"I have worked in a
nursing home for a long time now, and there are days that I get upset
when I cant get someone to eat, or take there shower... Now I just
think about this slide show and realize that those things aren't
really that important. Its more important that I am there to see them
smile and they know I am there to help. Thanks for making me stop to
think about what really is important."
"I love this ..I'm
going through this with my parents right now."
"I came across this
slideshow a few years ago and it touched me deeply. I share it with
everyone I can. Thank You!!"
"This is one of the
nicest pieces you'll ever get! A Parent's Wish---- Beautiful. This
will hit home to many of us."
"I liked your video,
but as a survivor of suicide, and having struggles every day to want
to keep on living, I found it almost cruel when the words said if we
want to die, you'll understand, that our lives were not only lived,
but survived, I had a bad reaction to that, made me feel like I did
when I attempted suicide. I'm not the normal everyday person, I have a
mental disability of depression, so I know I react to things
differently than normal people. Loved the music, think it was too much
of a tearjerker to make anyone feel other than it is a good-bye to you
from Mom and Dad. Similar in my thoughts as a suicide note. No harm
intended to you. God bless you and thanks for offering your nice
services for PC users."
"I remain speechless
and my eyes continue to flow with tears (tears of Love for my
parents). I just finished viewing the Slideshow 'A touching and
poignant slideshow of a parents' wish during their old age...'
It was one of the most (if not THE most) touching things I have ever
read in my entire life!! Thank you so much for sharing this with the
world! It’s so important to think in this way and to remind us
of who we are, who are parents are, and what our parents have done for
us and what we should not be doing for them. Thank you so much for
this insight and everything it entails."
"I received this from
my Aunt on my Mothers side. My Mom is progressing with Alzheimers
disease and I go and spend 2 days with her in the home she is in. I
look at her and see her slipping away from me and it makes me so sad.
Mom is 87 but still healthy, however she doesn't know me any more and
that hurts so much. I love being with her and every time I am, I think
of the words in this Email and it helps me some. I do cry every time I
hear it and read it but it does help me in my misery. Josh Groban has
the most beautiful voice and he makes this complete. What a beautiful
thing and I have kept it and sent it to many, many of my friends and
my entire family. I also read it at least once a week. Thank you for
such a beautiful reading. Carol Stebler, Pittsburgh, PA."
"Lost my Mom and Dad
this past year..one with Alzheimer's and one from a fall on his
head...Love the video...Mary"
"As a mother, I loved
it and it couldn't be more true. Thank you"
"It is absolutely
beautiful. However, would it be possible to add something to it?
Something like : 'Please, do not treat us like I (we) are demented
and because I'm 80 I have to do everything wrong like a 2 years old
child'. 'Please, do keep (sometimes) normal conversation with me, like
you can have with other-strange people, not always putting me down as
whatever I say (even experiences from my younger age) are wrong - I
don't know anything now, even when doctors treat me like equal, you
will 'correct them'. 'Please my dearest daughter, do not speak in
whisper to your husband when we are sitting at the dinner or somewhere
else'. 'Do not shout at me'". 'My daughter (my child) why am I
intelligent to my friends and am able to take care as an volunteer for
people in Nursing Homes, but completely stupid to you, as if I have
lost all the knowledge I possessed when working professionally in the
office?'. Because you treat me like that, your husband, even when he
treat me much better, is more often trying to do the same you are
doing'."
"As a member of the
Colorado Commission on Aging, I have seen countless tributes to aging
issues. This is the first I have seen that really gets to the heart of
caring and caregiving. I applaud your efforts....and yes, I cried as
well."
January 30,
2008
"What a beautiful
reminder of what our parents have done for us all of our lives, and
how we can make their later years full of fun and hope and dignity. It
is our turn to do for them as they have done for us. Thank you for the
beautiful message. LB"
"My sister-in-law
sent this to me knowing that I am the full-time caregiver for my
mother. I couldn't stop crying because it helped me release so many
emotions. I don't mind the repeated questions or the forgetfulness,
but seeing her fear and confusion of not knowing where she is breaks
my heart. She is such a special lady and spent her life taking care of
her large family. I will watch this slideshow every night to thank God
for having her with us every day."
"This will be
wonderful for our volunteer program."
"A Parents Wish is
wonderful."
"This moved me to
tears as I have lost both parents, Mum recently. I feel their loss
very deeply. I helped Mum stay in her own home for many years until
Alzheimer’s disease made it impossible for her to live alone. The
message I received from this email is to respect older people, to
remember that they were once young and that we will one day be old.
However I’m not keen on the direct comparison with what parents do for
their young children. As young parents we choose to have children and
take joy in helping them. It is entirely natural and voluntary.
Usually, we choose to take up this responsibility at a time when we
are able to do it. But often, when people get old, the job of caring
for them is left to someone who is also ageing or in poor health.
Sometimes the carer has a reluctant partner or serious family
responsibilities. There may be little help or concern from others. At
times the load is too hard to carry. All these factors come into play
around the issue of care of the elderly. Respect is non-negotiable and
true empathy is essential. But there is no simple answer."
"A friend sent this
to me and I was VERY touched by the song and the slideshow. For my
Father is Elderly and not in the best of health. He has said to many
times to me some of the things that were written in the slideshow. It
really hit home hard. I played it twice and needless to say each time
I had no dry eyes!! Thank You for such a beautiful tribute!!"
"A great show. THANK
YOU!"
"I finally
understand. I see my dad changing…walking slower, more impatient,
angry at times; I want him to 'just snap out of it'. I had not
understood until now what was really happening. I will be there for
him…thank you."
"Thank you for this
inspirational reminder of our everyday challenges."
"This is beautiful
and is exactly the things I experienced with my aged mother prior to
her passing. Having patience with older people and providing support
for their needs to allow them to live independent life with dignity
and respect is the last thing you can do for your parents and it is
the most special gift to them. Remember that they are fearful of what
is happening to their body/mind and need your support to help them
thru the changes while preserving their dignity. Just love them and
take care of them, do everything possible you can for them. And
remember that when they pass away you will be so thankful that you did
your best to care for them and you won’t have any quilt or regrets
that you did not do what was best and right for them. Also they will
save you a place in heaven so they can thank you in person when you
get there and they can be with you forever because their love for you
is forever. "
"I take care of the
elderly and I think it would be very helpful to let the families that
are having difficulty with dealing with all the issues of the aging
parent."
"What a truly
wonderful but sad look at Life and Death. I couldn't stop crying and
sent it to everyone I knew. Gael"
"Touching – deep
inside, I missed my childhood time.."
"This touched me so
much and so deeply. Thank you for expressing these thoughts and
realities so beautifully. I started weeping after the first sentence
of the video. God bless you. Martha from GA"
January 29,
2008
"It didn't sound to
me like it was actually written by an old person but by a child of
someone old who felt guilty for not being those things. Also, you
skipped right over the wanting to die part without what telling us how
to handle that with older parents who might feel that way. I am 58 and
can see myself feeling that way and want to know what I can do then,
too. Anyway, did not make me cry or even feel sad. Sorry. Bill"
"It is truly
beautiful and reminds me of the verse that reads 'once a man and
twice a child.' It overwhelms your heart with love for my parents,
especially my mom! JC"
"Thank you for that
beautiful video."
"It could be a great
reminder when caring for our elder population even though they aren't
our parents."
"A Parent's Wish
is absolutely beautiful. Dorothy Butkus. Thank You!"
"My mother was
recently admitted to an Alzheimer's care facility which was something
that was very hard for my sister and I to do. Viewing this slideshow
made me cry out loud and this particular song by Josh Groban is the
only one that could possibly have fit the theme. Thank you."
"Thank you so much
for this beautiful e-mail. I am now taking care of my 96 year old
Mother-In-Law and there are days I just don't think I can properly
give her the care she needs and deserves. I want to allow her the
independence she so wishes, but I must step in and give guidance.
Somedays I cry and wonder if I am doing the right thing??? I read and
wept because everything in this very special e-mail pertains to my
Mother-In-Law. I know when my Mother-In-Law is gone, I will have no
regrets. I gave her the dignity she so deserved. Thank you so very
much. As Always, Julie and Terry"
"This is so so
beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. I was thinking about my son
Marcus who died 4/15/99 when he was 22 years old. He went to 3
different emergency rooms because he knew that something was wrong
with him. None of them would treat him because he did not have medical
insurance. He collapsed and his friends took him to yet another
hospital where he died in a diabetic coma, not knowing that he had
diabetes. We should treasure all of our loved ones always."
"There is nothing I
wont do for my parents. They are my best friend and the people I love
with all my heart. Now they they are in their 80's, it is my turn to
do for them. They done for me and now its my turn. This helped me out
a lot. But no matter what I will always respect them, cause family is
everything to me!!"
"Thank you, this is
one of the best things that will happen to me this year. Thank you,
Thank you. mb"
"I was really touched
by the slideshow. I never pass any slideshows as there are so many of
them circulating on the Internet, yet this one is really exceptional.
I shared it with my friends, unfortunately only those who can speak
English. I'm from Poland. I was made to think of my parents, still
healthy enough to live on their own, but they will need my assistance
soon. Thank you. M."
"I just wanted to
take a few minutes to tell you how powerful viewing a Parents' Wish
is for me in seeing it for the first time today. I will be sharing it
with friends, family and other professionals dedicated to seniors as a
reminder - we all walk the same path in life – at different times and
with different supports/understanding. The wish to be understood,
loved and respected at all ages is one that we can grant individually
with those we love and come in contact with through our life’s
journey. Thank you for your efforts in making this available for
continued viewing."
"Thank you for your
generosity in ensuring the circulation of this positive, insightful
message. You have invested time and money to make it happen; thank
you! I will be more considerate toward my mother and my father-in-law,
starting today! Paul K, BC, Canada"
"My Uncle Darrel send
me this and I just thought it was beautiful. I cried all thru it. My
Mother passed away April 13, 2007. She died of diabetes, kidney
failure plus the last three weeks she had heart attacks. I'm disabled
but ever since Mom knew she was diabetic in April 2001, I was her
caregiver along with my sister, Vicki. I figure, Mom look after me, so
I look after her. My Mom was never an complainer and she was more
worry about someone else instead of herself. I miss her a lot along
with my 3 bothers and Vicki. Plus she have 11 grandchildren and
great-grand- children. I love you, Mom. Love, Debbie"
"I am a medical
social worker, and I found the presentation very moving and would like
to be able to share it with patients and families."
"My parents are in
their 80's and my mom has many health issues and is failing because of
severe diabetes. It's been hard to see her helpless in a wheelchair
when 9 years ago she was dancing at my sons wedding. She was the most
dynamic woman I have ever known, the center of our family, and now she
has to give up her license, therefore her freedom, and it has caused
severe depression. The idea that she can't maintain her own home
alone, make her bed alone, go grocery shopping alone, visit friends
alone, go to the bathroom alone, things that people take for granted
until their lost, therefore, your dignity is minimizing, and your
dignity is everything!!! My uncle sent me the Parents' Wish
video and it brought me to tears and has truly helped me understand
how she feels and what we can do as her children to make her feel
better emotionally. Thank you for making it possible to put this video
on the internet. I'm sending it to my brothers and hope they will
truly understand its meaning."
"My sister sent this
video to me. We have watched helplessly as older folks/and younger
folks in our lives have struggled with illnesses. Some folks are still
with us struggling to live and others have passed on from this life
before us. My husband and I are parents of three children and we have
a daughter in law that is getting ready to bring our first grandchild
into this world. So you can imagine how this video made us weep. I
believe it is one of the most touching video's I have ever viewed. I
normally do not send a lot of mass mailings out by email because I
prefer 'a personal touch' with folks, but this video will touch
you if you have any heart in you at all you will have some tears
before it is finished playing. I am grateful to my parents and
grandparents for their love to me as a child but as I get older myself
I understand them even more. They wanted the best for me as a child
and when I became a mom myself they wanted the best for my children
too and now that I am going to be a grandmother. I see my grandparents
and parents wanting and praying for the best for my unborn grandson.
Life and Love truly goes on forever."
"Very beautiful. My
only 'Con' is that there are a lot of us that have always been
single mothers/fathers and the ending words are not exactly for us,
especially if the child was deserted by either parent. You could
change it to read: We (I) love you child. Mom and Dad (Mom/Dad). That
would cover everyone."
"BEAUTIFUL! Knowing
and experiencing first hand what this video is all about... your
message will help so many people to understand what their loved ones
are going through. My mother-in-law has been in a nursing home for two
years now because we could no longer care for her in our home. She no
longer knows who we are but there are times when she still seems to
recognize something that comforts her when we visit. Many times it's
so sad and depressing to visit that it's easy to rationalize and talk
ourselves out of going. This video helps to remember the least we can
do is remember who they were, what they did for us, and to be there
for them even when it's difficult. Thank you."
"What a wonderful and
incredible slideshow. I am lucky enough to work in an aged care
facility and it would be great viewing for all families who have to
face the fact of placing their parents into care, ageing is a normal
part of life that happens to all of us. As I watched the show the
tears were streaming down my face, I have just lost my mother 5 weeks
ago and I would give anything just to touch her again and say thanks
for everything. I cared for her in her last couple of days and
everything in this slide was true. Wendy"
"I do not know where
to begin. This touched my heart so deeply. Thank you so much for
taking the time and energy to put this together so beautifully. I am
Native American, and my people have always respected and cared for the
elders. I was the caregiver for my mom till she passed into The
Great Spirit's hands, at home, December 20, 1988 - at 80 years
young. She had cancer and to watch her losing weight and unable
to sit up, even in bed, broke my heart. I was blessed to have a Home
Health Aid, who must have been an angel in disguise, that stayed with
my mom during the days while I was working. I was at work when I
received the call that my mom had passed. Hermania (the Home Health
Aid) was sitting in my mom's rocking chair crying when I arrived home.
I will be 60 in a few weeks and I thank The Great Spirit that I
am still able to take care of myself, clean the apartment, go
shopping, do laundry and drive to work. I think for my birthday. I
will send this to my only daughter. Yigaquu osaniyu adanvto adadoligi
nigohilvi nasquv utli ~May the Great Spirit's blessings always be with
you~ Pat - Brooklyn, NY"
January 28,
2008
"Just beautiful. It
gets me all time!"
"Loved it so much.
Thank you and God Bless"
"I was so touched by
this I had tears rolling on my cheeks. I'm so inspired, really open my
mind to older people. Thank you. Moonie"
"I received this from
a friend who lost her mother. My friend was at her mothers bedside
when she passed away in the hospital. I know her mothers wish came
true as my friend was the perfect daughter. She had all the patience
in the world with her mother. While I was watching this; I had tears
rolling down my face as I could picture my friend being the perfect
daughter and having her wonderful mothers wishes come true up to the
very end. I feel like I am a good daughter to my parents, but after
watching this I pledge to make sure that my parents wishes will always
be granted. Angie"
"I just started
working in a nursing home. Ironically this e-mail made it my way. I
cried many tears over this. But I am so glad I received it, there are
a few people who work there that may benefit from reading this, or
should I say a few elderly people may benefit from the workers reading
this. Thank You so much for showing me there are people who do care
about the elderly."
"This is truly
excellent, motivational and touches both the heart and the mind of any
caregiver. We will use this as part of our training program. Sieg
Holle"
"Thanks, thinking
this might be an interesting presentation for our dementia caregiver
groups."
"What a wonderful
message. I really would like to have a copy of this. O have been
taking care of my Mother for 4 years and it really says everything she
has told me. It touches my heart."
"This was a very
touching video. I have watched it four times so far and cried each
time."
"This was indeed the
heart and soul of getting older and the attempt to make our feelings
known by those children we bore. This is beautiful and it touched me
in a way few things do anymore. God Bless you all, who were involved
with this wonderful presentation. Katrina"
"This is the most
touching and true thing I have ever read. Life really is a circle and
what goes around comes around. The things we as parents do for our
children may very well be done by our children for us later in life.
So true, so real. However I also agree with the person who thought
there should have been more "MOM" pics. Normally, it is the moms who
do most of these things. But beautiful job done on this. Kathy"
"This is great. As an
employee at a Social service agency and a granddaughter of a person
with dementia...all I can say is Thanks. Please let me know
when a CD is available."
"I am a 72 year old
great grandmother and I want you to know how much I appreciate this
slide show. No, I don't have those diseases yet and I'm still pretty
healthy and working as an RN. This touches every older person and goes
right to their heart. Sometimes we feel no one knows how we feel and
there are times we feel like we are a lot of trouble and bother to our
family and we just want to go away from everyone whom we have loved so
we don't have to see the irritation in their faces when we don't do
everything they tell us to do. Come to think of it I did just that. I
moved to another town but there are times I'm so lonely I could cry. I
go to visit them at times but they live too far away for them to visit
me. Again thank you. Lauretta"
"Like so many others,
I too have passed this on the my three sons. It is a wonderful message
that every child should read. Thank you so much for putting the
beautiful words and music together. Patti Deck, Arizona 1/27/08"
January 27,
2008
"Fantastic job. I
still cry every time I see it. Thanks, Patti"
"I want to thank you
for this. I am a caregiver, and a single mother of grown girls. I wish
this could be printed out for me to share with the women I am taking
care of. They are without a computer and I usually print out these
caring messages.... Thank you again."
"More pix of
women/moms. We are not represented well in what could be a more
powerful slideshow. If photos are the medium for this dear and
touching sentiment please use equal shots of men and women or double
the length to add the women. I would send this to my children but it
does not speak to 'my' family...peace, a mom."
[Webmaster's note: Please read
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"A beautiful message
that everyone should see. I agree with one woman who said there should
be more pictures of woman as well as the men. The moms of the world
raised most of the kids, even if there was a dad around or not. In my
case, I raised my child on my own. But the message is still there, no
matter what pictures are there. You can't watch this without crying. I
am lucky enough to still have both my parents here on earth, though
they are in their 80's. I appreciate them everyday, but this made me
appreciate them just that much more. A must see for everyone. Jeanne
Roberts, Naples, FL"
"I really enjoyed the
presentation and music. But we have many people who are blind or have
failing eye sight, like me for one. Also there are still folks that
can't read. Is there a way to keep the music and add someone reading
the message?"
"I received this from
a friend and it really was a heart warming e-mail and Josh Groban is
the greatest. I have 5 sons that I am e-mailing this to and hope they
will enjoy it and think about their lives growing up and now they all
have kids of their own. God Bless you all, VB from Tx."
"So beautiful."
"My mom died in
September, after much suffering, and my dad, now 87 sent me this
forward and he never sends sites for me to look at. I cried also but
it did not ruin my day. I was touched, moved and enlightened as to how
my dad feels about me, my mother's passing and last but not least how
he wants me to understand when he wants to 'go'. Thank you I
passed it on to my friends and some relatives. Beautiful song and
pictures but more beautiful were the words. They are in my heart as is
my dad. LRN"
"This is what I am
going through right now with my parents and I cried and cried the
first time I saw it."
"Thank you! It was so
beautiful and touched my heart. I really needed to see and feel
it...God Bless!"
January 26,
2008
"I loved the message
and the adorable pictures, and of course Josh's singing, BUT why did
you choose to show 10 pictures of fathers and ONE picture of
mother???? The majority of us who have elderly parents were raised and
cared for by our mothers. Many of us never heard 'I love you'
from our fathers. Our mothers were the ones that cared for us when we
were sick, cooked for us, had birthday parties for us, listened to us
babble, taught us manners and helped us with our homework, etc, etc.
etc. not to mention the single mothers of this generation who do it
all! I would have appreciated more shots of some dear mothers."
"Thaaaaank you!!!
What a powerful and touching video...Thank you, thank you, thank
you...Sending a mother's blessing your way...cjh"
"This is the MOST
beautiful and meaningful thing I have ever seen. Every child should
see this. This is something that should not be missed by anyone. Thank
you and keep us posted of any new additions or changes. Sometimes we
all need a little reminder of all that our parents or parent did for
us. This is probably the only e mail that I have ever seen that I will
truly save and cherish. I will visit this site often. The BEST I have
ever seen."
"This goes straight
to the heart and it is so true. Jo Rhoades, Lexington, SC"
"I had just talked to
my mom, 80 years young, who's waiting for hip replacement surgery and
in a lot of pain. She lives in Southern California and I live in
Seattle. I saw your slideshow and had tears running down my cheeks the
whole time. It's so heart wrenching, in a good way. Thanks for all the
people who made this happen, Cathy"
"Thank you so very
much for making this very beautiful 'Parents Wish' available
for the public to have access to. I am seventy years old and have
raised my children and now have great grand children."
"This is so
beautiful! All children should read it and I am sending it on to mine
so they can understand the love and feelings I have for them."
"I cried through the
whole video. I started this morning feeling refreshed and ready to
face the world. Now, after viewing the entire video, I am extremely
depressed. Beautiful is in the eye of the beholder I guess."
"This is the most
touching and meaningful program I've seen on the web. I hope it is a
blessing to all that have the opportunity to see and hear this
wonderful message. Thank you to all the men and women that provided
the talents and skills to produce Parents' Wish!"
January 25,
2008
"I am a widowed
mother with two daughters and four grandchildren. This is a very
touching production and I would love to have it as I grow older."
"I recently have been
a sole caregiver for my mom for the last two years, every day, but
have really been taking care of her since my dad died 18 years ago. My
mom just passed away 7 weeks ago, and I found this video to be just
beautiful, and true in every aspect. It's just so beautiful."
"I liked it, except
when it seemed to sneak in something regarding euthanasia. I do not
believe in that. Each person's life has meaning. God should be the
one, not man, who decides when someone's life should end. The rest of
it was heart warming and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, whoever
wrote this."
"A friend sent me
this most wonderful slide presentation, and I am a loss for words in
describing how wonderful it made me feel…..how much I can learn from
this, although both my parents are now gone, and how blessed I am to
have watched this. Thank you so very much for creating such a
wonderful and educational presentation."
"I thought your
Parents' Wish was beautiful. I work for a health care agency and
often see forgotten parents. I hope this will remind people to take
the time to be with their loved ones. That is all they want.
Thank-you."
"I will be anxiously
awaiting the DVD of this! My friend just recently shared this with me.
I lost my father in October to cancer. We had him in home hospice. I
am currently taking care of my mother. This is the most touching,
moving, realistic video I have ever seen! I cry every single time I
see it. I have shared it with numerous friends who feel the same
emotions. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!!! My 27 and 24 year old
daughters and 17 year old son were also very touched."
January 24,
2008
"My mother is losing
her life at the moment. She is 93 years old. I needed this today more
than I can tell you."
"Thanks so much for
Parent's Wish. Very well done. Since I don't have this kind of
talent, it would be great if someone could put together one similar
for teenagers and those in their early twenties who believe that their
parents are clueless and will be around forever. Thank you and God
bless."
"WOW! What an
inspiring message. God Bless You All!!"
"My sisters and I are
at the point the we are having to place my mother, age 92 last
Saturday, in a nursing home. While we have peace about the care she
will receive there, this, by far, is the hardest thing a child will
ever have to do for a parent. While watching the video which was sent
to my wife and I by my youngest sister I had many thoughts that ran
through my mind, the least of which is 'Gosh, think of ALL my
mother did for me as her child'. I am 60 years old myself and am
fast approaching this stage of my life and am living in my last days,
however long they may be. I wish ALL children knew how much we love
them because they each are a precious gift from God to us. We treasure
them and our time with each of them and they all are unique in their
own special ways. I hope my children will know the love I have for
them and when they start seeing things in my life as evidenced by the
video, they remember that the Love of a Father is a treasure, but the
Love of a child is the love of God, himself. May God Bless, John"
"How true this is and
should be read by all children of older parents. Thanks for a
wonderful job."
"It would definitely
help people whose parents have dementia."
"Thank you sooo very
much for this beautiful email. I have been a caregiver for 32 years to
give back the love, honor, friendship and pride from my parents. I
cherish this email so much. Is there a way to receive other beautiful
emails? Margaret"
"I just wanted you to
know that I was more than touched by Parents' Wish. I sat and
cried through the entire thing. I have one parent who became mentally
ill in in her middle years and we always thought of her as a 'pain
in the rear'- your website reminded me that she wasn't always that
way and if it it was not for her, I may not have become the person I
am today. Dad died 20 years ago, but even 20 years isn't long enough
to quit missing him. Your 'wake up call' reminded me that I
have much to be thankful for. H. Schmid"
"This is the most
powerful video I have ever experienced. I have had many losses,
including both parents, and a spouse and the truth this video speaks
is ever so powerful. Many God bless you for sharing this. dca"
"Very inspiring, very
true and very sad indeed! Love it! Thank you very much for sharing and
reminding us how short life is, and how much we will be loosing by not
taking the time to think before making the right choices and decisions
in life. Again this is very inspiring."
"Who wrote this? It
is beautiful and so true. Our family is caretakers for my mother now .
I helped be a caretaker for my mother-in-law until she had to go into
a nursing home. She passed away last July. Josh Groban's song fit so
well in the message. Thank you for sending this to everyone. It was a
tearjerker!!!!"
"This was sent to me
when I was having a stressful situation with a parent and it help so
much to see me through."
"I cried during the
whole presentation. I took care of my Dad with dementia and I would do
it again because he was the kindest and most wonderful dad you could
ever have. During the time I cared for him it was so hard, and if you
know about this condition you would understand. I have a message to
you and that is it can happen to your loved ones and you have to do
what you can to get the proper treatment, medication and most of all a
lot of support. If you are the care taker, remember you can not do
this alone and get everyone in the family and community involved as
there is help. If a nursing home is the solution, you have to do it,
as they may get the help they need. If you know anyone with a
devastating condition, reach out and help. Sometimes a kind word,
telephone call or just listening can be a great comfort. We all go
through hard times in life and no one should ever be doing this alone
and especially during the Christmas season. Visit your relatives that
are older, comfort the sick, and take time just to care. Kindness is
the greatest present. When you give from your heart you will be
happier. Love makes the world go around !!! The video was beautiful
because you need to understand its not always about you, and you have
to think about others and especially about older parents!!!
"This was positively
beautiful. I have sent it to all three of my children and others who
have children, but so far no response. I have saved it and play it
again and again with more tears each time I play it than the last.
Thank you from an 80 year old parent and grandparent."
January 23,
2008
"Thank you for the
beautiful slide show and the wonderful music by Josh Groban (who is a
favorite of mine.) I am sending this to my two daughters and friends.
My husband and I are getting in this stage of life and maybe our
children will understand our feelings. Thank you again and God Bless
You!"
"This is such a
beautiful piece of art work and music combined. I, along with my 5
siblings have been taking care of our 94 year old mom in her home for
the last 5 years. She can not talk to us or feed herself she has been
bed ridden. We bathe her, feed her and clean her up. We love her
dearly but also know this isn't what she wants. We will continue to
keep her home as long as possible and love her to the end. We hope and
pray that when God calls her home she goes peacefully and without
pain. We do what we can to keep her content. We've also been fortunate
to have my daughter who is a CNA and works in a nursing home help with
grandma. She bathes and feeds her as well. We have been blessed with
some wonderful people who help too, a special cousin, Clara, who is a
godsend for many last minute calls to help us when someone else can't.
Thank you to all of you. God bless everyone. Patricia Benson"
"I enjoyed all of it
very much. The precious messages and the beautiful music and lyrics
sung by Josh Groban. I think the only thing I felt uncomfortable with
was asking my children to let me think about dying. Perhaps that will
come in time, but still I am grateful for life and hope to enjoy that
blessing for a while longer."
"Wow!! God bless you.
My dad sent this to me. I don’t get to spend time with my Mom and Dad
and know that is my fault. I know that I need to change that. Before I
can’t. Thank you for showing me that. T.J./Orlando FL."
"Thank you very much
for your motivation and hard work. Guess it is quite common for
readers to tear down the cheeks. I'm no exception. I'll forward it to
those I know for no one knows how others feel in this most difficult
stage of life: seeing those that gave us life become weak, feeble and
eventually pass on. May God bless you and yours for such a wonderful
contribution. JORGE"
"This is so beautiful
especially to me a 73 year old mother of 5 wonderful children. More of
this should be read by children and maybe they will understand
easier."
"As I sit at my
husbands computer and saw this I could not keep myself from crying. I
know our children often times don' t realize what we as parents go
through. Our son is 24 years old and when he had surgery two weeks ago
he could not understand why we were having a hard time. He was a
miracle to us and much loved. He always will be. Thank you again for
this. Mrs. Sandy Burrows Columbia, SC"
"This is very moving
and compelling...Indeed life is a cycle... 'what you sow is what
you reap'. Ben Paca"
"This is absolutely
beautiful. The music was just the icing on the cake. I'm 61 years old
and recognized so many of the things mentioned in the site in my
mother and step father and can see that I will be down the same path
in 20 years. I don't cry easily, but this one had me crying. Thanks
for a reminder to treat our elders with the care and love that only
Christ can plant in our hearts. They and their love, care and kindness
are why we are today."
"I have not cried
from the beginning to the end of a forwarded email before! Awesome...
It's great to be reminded that we will all get old some day and that
we would all like someone to still love us and care for us. Well
done."
January 22,
2008
"After feeling,
seeing and hearing this video, my heart melted. My mine came clear, my
soul got this wonderful peace of mine. Thank you all for this
wonderful gift to all. God bless you all."
"I loved this email.
I saved it and I hope it doesn't fade away like some do after so much
time has passed. It is just the sweetest thing I've ever seen. Thank
you so much."
"This site is
beautiful, spectacular. The music is wonderful, the word are most
appropriate for the slide show. It made me cry and has given me the
desire to exercise more patience with my aged mother. It’s wonderful.
Keep up the good work. Marlene"
"This is a tear
jerker. Boo hoo!!!! This is so true...I love you all. xo"
"I lost my dad 5-1/2
years ago and my mom last month on 12-18-07. This is the most
beautiful thing I have ever seen. I had to make the decision to shut
life support off on my mom, and even though I know that is what she
wanted, I have suffered with the guilt of doing so for the past almost
5 weeks. This has made that guilt a little less. I am adopted and my
parents meant the world to me. I am an only child, and I find myself
missing them more and more. My mom was my best friend. Life is not the
same without her. God has her now, this I am sure, as my mom was
baptized in 3/07 with her family and friends by her side. God, please
take care of my parents until I can see them again. I would give
anything for 10 more minutes. I want to hear her voice, feel her touch
and hug her one more time. I cry for her daily. As I go through things
in her house I find buried memories coming back, some sad but more
joyous memories. I see her in her cat. We have inherited Snuggles now
but I can almost feel her through him. Praise God that I will be with
both of them again sometime. Until then Mom and Dad, rest in peace and
enjoy your time together before your "little girl" comes home again.
"Although this was
sent to me by my daughter, she helped me to realize just what my
mother is going through now. She is 88 and just starting to show signs
of age. Thank you for this. Betty J. Schroeder"
"I loved it!!!!"
"I work in a nursing
home and this would be a great training inservice."
"What a beautiful and
inspiring video! We lost my 92 year old father-in-law in December, he
lived with us for the past 7 years, my husband was his caregiver. The
last couple months of his life, he got so he wouldn’t eat very much
and we dealt with some of the issues written about in this video.
Thanks for putting it here for all of us to read, it has really helped
a lot. I love Josh Groban’s singing! I will pass this on to my
children, grandchildren and friends. Joyce in Maryland."
"This was beautiful."
January 21,
2008
"It it a beautiful
piece and has touched our lives."
"This is amazing. I
received it from an ex-friends mom. I cried at work because I know
that is how our family is and always will be. Thank you for this. I
hope that many young adults have an opportunity to see this. It is how
we should live. To respect our elders and know what they have all done
for us. To many times we take it for granted."
"I enjoyed your video
a lot. I work in a nursing home and I see these moments in your video.
I wish I could share this with some family members that are in denial
about their mom or dad. That don't understand about keeping someone
comfortable when they are in the last stages of life."
"Thanks for the
beautiful slideshow!"
"I, too, am old and
experiencing all those 'old' issues along with caring for my
mother who is in better health than I am. I love the song but found
the text totally depressing!"
"This says it all. My
husband has passed away, but these would have been his thoughts. I
will send this to each of my children. Thank you for these words and
pictures. A Mom & Grandma"
January 20,
2008
"This is a VERY
wonderful illustration of the true feelings one must come to realize
about their aging parents/friends/siblings. Thanks to all who put this
masterpiece together and generated it in the most beautiful manner.
Bravo, Mrs. Lemke Snohomish, WA"
"The words and with
the music has got to be the most touching feeling that stabbed into my
heart. The tears flowed like a running brook from my eyes. My parents
have been gone for over 10 years and there is not a day that I don't
wish and pray that they were still standing by me. Oh how I miss them
so much. May god bless who wrote this song. I cant imagine that there
will ever be another just like this one. It tore me apart."
"Very Moving!"
"Bless you. This came
at a very hard time in my family and it means so much to us. We have
sent it to all 60 plus cousins from East coast to West coast and the
Netherlands. May you be blessed for bringing this into our lives at
this moment -- Thank you. Sharon and Joe Tocco - Michigan"
"My friend, Evelyn
sent this to me when my 99 year young mother died. The next week,
Evelyn's 99 year young mother also die. I really wish someone has sent
this to me much earlier, because I would be so guilty about thing I
did do for my mom. She live with us, and I keep thinking 'I want my
mother back.' I was doing things like getting her to eat when she
didn't want to, trying to make her stay up until 10:00, like she use
to do, doing things like playing cards, watch TV, being awake till
'bedtime'. I know after see your film, I was doing it for me, not
for her, because I wanted 'my mother back.' I've sent it
to my 10 kids and my grandchildren so they will understand a little of
what it is like getting older. I like Josh's song before and now
it has new meaning to me. Thanks. Patricia"
"LIT-TIE (lump in
throat, tears in eyes) This was so moving and brought tears to my eyes
-- I have a mom that is almost 82 and doing well, but this will be my
guide as I help her through her sunset years. Thank you so much!"
"So true and heart
felt. My Mom was 98 when she died 7 years ago. I miss her smile when I
walked into her room and her greeting, 'here's my Ellen'. You
can never do enough for such a wonderful mother, God Bless all
children who are taking loving care of their parent or parents."
"Very negative. You
tried to reach people through guilt."
"This couldn't have
been sent to me at a better time. I am in the stage of my life where
decisions are having to be made regarding my Mom who is 84 years old.
Though the decisions are tough, this Wish grounded me again in who my
Mom is all about. (I ran out of tissues)"
January 19,
2008
"Thank you so much
for such a beautiful way to express to our younger generation how we
feel. I received this email from my 87 year old father who was
suffering from the beginnings of Alzheimers. He passed away just three
weeks later of a heart attack. My eyes are fill with tears everytime I
read it and mind you I have read it many times since. When I miss him
I just open my computer and I gain such comfort from your website."
"This is beautiful
and the person that wrote it is sure in tune with us elderly and
expressed a lot of things that bother us. I love to hear Josh Groban
as he is one of my favorite singers. Thank you for this site and would
like to see and hear more. I am a 75 year old great grandmother and
have 3 children, 8 grandchildren and 9 great grandchildren and love
each and everyone of them very much and I hope they all get a chance
to read this and remember it."
"I was sent this
email by me sisters and cried the first time I heard it. I have
listened to it several times since then, always with such emotion. It
has a powerful message for all children. Our father passed away two
years a ago from Alzheimers so it really hit home for us. Thank you
for such a beautiful email and song. I will keep a copy of it for a
long time."
"I was literally
weeping after I watched this. Very moving. I forwarded it to my mother
who is struggling with being my grandmother's caregiver right now, and
doing a beautiful job."
"I'm from Montevideo,
Uruguay (South America). I received it from a friend from New Jersey
and I was very touched with it because I feel the same way as the
author with my grandchildren, no patience at all. Is there something
to do? I'm a little deaf and when I ask them to repeat, they answer: "you
are deaf, wear an apparatus" or when I want them to learn how a
machine works, they don't pay any attention to me. They are very busy
with the computer, with the telephone, etc. I'm 69 years old but
thanks God I'm in very good health. I don´t want to think what will
happen when I'll not be able to walk or to understand what's going on.
Congratulations for the e-m"
"I was sent the video
clip by my aunt, and it was one of the best I have seen. It says so
much about life's journey, everyone must see it. Thank You Parents
Wish."
"I cried so hard
while watching this piece. I lost both my parents within the last year
and a half. This piece made me feel sooooo good knowing that I did my
best in listening compassionately with patience through their last
difficult months with Alzheimers and kidney failure. They were well
loved. Thank you for developing this piece and I will be certain to
forward it to my siblings who too will appreciate it. JoAnn. May you
be blessed in the year 2008"
January 18,
2008
"This is a very warm
and heartfelt presentation. The musical presentation is just as
fitting. Both my wife and myself are in our 60s and have dealt with
this situation in the past few years. The references to euthanasia in
slides 14 & 18 are really not necessary nor do they have any place
here. Tim Cannon"
"I have to say
Thanks! for making this site. I almost cried the first time, then did
the second time I watched it. More true words, have never been spoken.
I am going to share with my own Mother, as she is experiencing al lot
of these same things with her Mom (my Grandma) who turned 95 years
Young : ) this year."
"I was so very moved
by it. Thank you."
"I have seen your
parents wish clip and love it."
"The words were
appropriate and the song is one of my favorites. I listen to it in my
car often. Did shed tears, very powerful."
"This was the most
beautiful email I have ever gotten. I am still crying. I just put my
mom in an assisted living facility a month ago. She is 93 and after
being her caregiver for almost 4 years it was time for the both of us.
She has Alzheimer's and it was getting to be too much for the both of
us 24/7. I could not give her the care she needed and after seeing
this video, I am heart broken all over again for doing such a thing.
But then I have to remember that those people are there 24/7 and now I
can return to being her daughter again and not her caregiver. I go see
her as much as I can and I do repeat my stories and hold her hand and
we hug a lot and bring her daisies, which are her favorite flowers.
She loved her flower garden. She did not like moving there and it
hurts me to do it. But she is getting better and meeting new friends
even if it is for the moment. I love my mom so much and I wanted the
best for her .. for us. I wanted them to treat her as good as I did. I
have to keep convincing myself that I did the right thing. But, she
always said she lived a good life and was ready to let go.. I am the
one that can not let go. I love you Mom."
"I went thru all this
with my parents. Its the most beautiful expression of our love for our
parents and our children. Thank you so very much."
"Excellent
presentation!!"
"Very touching and oh
so true. Thanks"
January 17,
2008
"This was timely sent
to me by a colleague: after my eyes dried, I sent it to my daughter.
The depth of thought and passion in this video is beyond compare.
Thanks, many thanks. John"
"I lost my Mom and
Dad 32 years ago. I tried to always obey, love, and fully respected
them. They are in my thoughts everyday. They loved me no matter what
and when they went to Heaven... I knew I lost the only people on this
earth that really and truly loved me unconditionally. No matter what I
said or did their love was there around me. Just like my Lord Jesus is
now. I pray everyday people would love their parents and grandparents
as shows in this presentation and then there would be no need of
nursing homes. Josh sang the song beautifully. I will pass it along."
"Every child should
see this. It should be shown in all of our schools. What a powerful
and beautiful video. Great job to the person that did this and what a
beautiful message. If it is ever available on CD I would love to
purchase a copy. I am involved in the Alzheimers Association in
Florida and what a great tool to give to the families."
"My wife and I are
both in our mid sixties and have the good fortune to be in reasonable
good health. This beautifully worded visual poem really brings home
how the passing years in later life can shape other peoples opinion
and behaviour towards the elderly. Let us all hope that by reading
this poem that our collective treatment, consideration and respect for
the older generation will be for the better. After all these were the
people who were so important in shaping our own lives."
"This is the best
e-mail I have ever received. Wish I had had it in 2003 when my 97 year
old mother passed away. Have sent it to my two daughters and my
friends. Thanks so much. Billy Watts"
"I have just viewed
the Parents' Wish video. It is very powerful indeed!."
"This sums up what
life is all about. It is beautiful! Julie"
"Thank you for
sharing this powerful slide show with the world. I am in the midst of
helping an elderly aunt with end-of-life issues and this has
inspired/reminded me to 'help her live the rest of her life with
love and dignity' as so beautifully stated in the Parent's
Wish."
"I loved the Parents'
Wish movie."
January 16,
2008
"I work in a
complex care facility that makes a home for seniors with Dementia and
other like diseases. I think they speak volumes to caregivers and
families alike of the atmosphere we'd like to encourage in our home."
"Beautifully done!!!
I think it should be sent to all of our representatives, senators,
congressmen and the President of our great country so that they would
think more clearly about their choices and decisions that affect the
elderly in our society. Maybe it would touch their hearts enough to
make some changes in their policies.... if they would only stop and
think about their own elderly loved ones. Thank you for doing this
!!!!! I cried as soon as I read the words on the first picture.... you
have done a great service to so many of the elderly and sick in our
society that have no voice.... for anyone who sees this will most
definitely be moved to be more compassionate to those in need around
them. kspillips NY"
"Thanks so much for
this beautiful piece."
"Today I put my
beloved Mother in Hospice house and then came home and played this
amazing site for the unteenth time. It is only though this that I will
have the strength to get though the following days. God Bless who ever
did this. Dee"
"I have a 79 year old
mother who lives in Manhattan by herself and I live on Long Island and
she depends on us to be there for her whenever she needs and I at
times get upset with her. Your beautiful words really hit home and
made me realize how fragile life is and what she must be going
through. Thank you"
"My husband and I
moved in with my grandparents who are 91 and 94. We love them both and
know we should be thankful for their good health but sharing the same
quarters can be SO very frustrating. Remembering this video next time
my patience wears thin will surely help me be the Christian
granddaughter God wants me to be. Thank you so much."
"How powerful!! It
made me cry and wish I had my mother back so I could be more patient
than I was. I am entering this time of life and I think it is
everyone's wishes not to put our children in that position but it does
happen. Hopefully, they will see this before they, too, wish they had
another opportunity to be kind and patient to their parents. Thanks to
whomever had the forethought to think of this. Suzanne Cash"
"This was an awesome
video! I had to place my Mom in a group home last May after being
diagnosed with Alzheimers. She had lived with me for 5 years prior to
this and many times after visiting her, I cry on my drive home because
I feel like somehow I've failed her. To see her deteriorate with
Alzheimers is really, really difficult for me, but yet I have to be
brave and strong as I am the closest child living near her that sees
her the most. Many people comment that I'm such a saint and what a
great person I am. First of all, I don't feel that great and second of
all if it weren't for God having a hand in all of this, I'm not sure
where I would be right now. I'm not the saint, God is. Thanks for
sharing this moving video with us!"
"The most awesome
E-Mail I've ever seen' This is a real classic. Please put this on a CD
and let me know how to get it."
"Thank You for
this.... My father was diagnosed in 1996 with Alzheimers ... It has
been challenging and rewarding.. I have learned to embrace every
moment God has given me with him.. This slide show was so moving.... I
needed to tell you that it touched my heart in so many ways."
"What a tear jerker,
this is absolutely beautiful, I would love to have a copy to use at my
mom's service she is 79 now and not healthy. So as life would have it
we are all preparing for the day she leaves us. You have done a
wonderful reality check for me! God Bless and thank you Cindy--from
WV"
January 15,
2008
"As a daughter, mom,
and a nurse this was one of the most eloquent and beautiful poems
ever!"
"Love the site….."
"I would like to
receive a copy of this touching and relevant CD when you have it
available. Both my parents are still alive, but are beginning to fail.
My brother thought this might be something that could be played at a
Memorial Service and I agree."
"I congratulate you
upon the production of this video presentation. In the United Kingdom
with our National Health Service we try to care for the elderly who
are alone and have no family to care for them, however institutions
can only do so much in a day to day practical sense. This is were
having friends in all age groups count, I am, God Willing, seventy one
years old this month and have no close blood relatives. Having
recently undergone major surgery, without the wonderful loving friends
I have it is in my opinion I would not have survived that which has
been quite an ordeal."
"I am reminded of a
time when I told a very sentimental story to a young woman, and she
began to cry. I said to her, 'I didn't mean to make you sad.'
She replied, 'Oh, you didn't make me sad. You made me FEEL.'"
"Absolutely
outstanding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Very touching. Best email I have ever
received. So true."
"I am only 47, but
have been experiencing health related issues: walking with a cane,
memory issues, and speech difficulties. This brought tears to my eyes!
I emailed it to my son and daughter to help them understand how I feel
these days."
"Made me think of my
Dad who past away 3 years ago and cry. I like Bette Mittler’s version
of wings better."
"Absolutely lovely.
Very touching and true! You gave me a reality check today. Thank you!"
"This is so true and
beautiful. I've saved it and everytime I watch it... which is almost
daily, it makes me cry. I'm having a rough time right now dealing with
my 89 year old mother and tend to loose patience with her. I watch
this to try to understand what she is going through and realize now
she can't help what she does and doesn't do. I keep telling myself....
what am I going to be like when I'm 89.... and I do believe your
Parents' Wish has helped me. Thanks!!!"
"Thanks. That was the
best I have ever seen."
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